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An odd change of pace. - 6/4/2006 3:10:06 PM

trippingdaisy

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A question for those that may have experienced this before.

Master and i are expecting our first child in November. He and i are obviously still in the midst of power exchange...that will not ever change. However, i'm very curious about other slaves/subs that have been pregnant/had children with their Masters/Doms.

Keep in mind, this change doesn't bother me, because i can understand it on some level. My curiosity is more directed toward whether or not it's been the same for others.

The change i'm speaking of is the level of submission He demands from me. i haven't changed much, other than being more tired and nauseated than usual. It's not actually a change in His control over me, but He is less...oh, i don't know how to put it! Bah! He's always taken wonderful care of me, but it's become more pronounced now. If i'm sitting or lying down resting, and i need something, he'll be more apt to get up and get it for me, rather than expecting me to serve myself. He is more attentive, more gentle, more 'Husbandly' than 'Masterly'. Again, i can understand this on a certain level...i'm carrying his son or daughter (W/we find out very soon!).

my question is this: has this happened with anyone else? i've talked to Him about it, but He's not really able to pinpoint it, either. It's just something that happened, it's not something that He tried to do. Could it just be because, as the mother of His child, i'm garnering more respect in his eyes? Or is it simply because i'm in that classic 'delicate state'? i just can't help but be curious if my situation is unique.

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RE: An odd change of pace. - 6/4/2006 3:15:53 PM

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Hmm, love does some wonderful things to people, don't you agree?

Congratulations not only on your upcoming young-in, but also on the discovery that you have a very special Master.

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RE: An odd change of pace. - 6/4/2006 3:19:58 PM

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Mm, very much so.

He has been the most amazing thing that's ever happened to me. He often tells me the same thing. W/we're a perfect fit for one another, and while the power exchange is still a 24/7 thing...it's nice to know that He is aware enough to know when compassion and gentleness is more appropriate than anything else.

And thank you!

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RE: An odd change of pace. - 6/4/2006 3:23:33 PM

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It happens all the time, and has happened to my mate and I when we had servants who were pregnant in our household, even though the babies weren't ours. For us, it is an act of respect for the demands of pregnancy, which are very high, and a desire to nurture the baby-to-come. It doesn't mean we are less "dominant" -- it merely means that we are making different choices about how to tend to our property during the process.

You may also find that after the baby has arrived, things will not get back to the way they were before the pregnancy any time soon. A newborn is time consuming, and is absolutely the "master" or "mistress" of his or her household. What the baby needs comes first, and what the adults in the household want/need come after all of the baby's needs have been met. This is appropriate, as we can care for ourselves, but a baby cannot care for -any- of its own needs, and depends on the adults to care for those needs. Babies need to be fed, changed, and more than anything else, held and loved -- they need this 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

That being said, it is -good- for new parents, especially parents with a special life-alternative that they wish to nurture like M/s or D/s, etc., to spend some time -away- from baby doing just that, so after the baby's first 6 weeks (the first six weeks are recovery time for mom, and should, ideally, be dedicated to establishing a healthy bond within the family, without a lot of outside involvement) leave the baby with either a trusted family member or friend, or hire a certified nanny for a day or weekend, and spend some time re-kindling, peaking the flame, and re-banking the fires of your personal relationship. That way, you'll have both the joy of the relationship and the joy of your new baby. Make it a point to spend one of these days or weekends every 8 weeks or so, and gradually, as the baby grows, you'll both be more rested and have more time to dedicate to fully re-estabilishing the older, more strict household style.

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RE: An odd change of pace. - 6/4/2006 3:26:03 PM

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Your master obviously loves you and cares about your health/comfort and the health of his child. An attentive DOMINANT does not mean the dynamics of your relationship has changed but there are obviously some changes that have to be made. Accept this as his way of saying, "Thank you for the gift that you are giving me." If it bothers you that he is "too" attentive, don't articulate your minor needs, just handle them and handle his as well. This will be a way of letting him know that you still want to serve him in the way you always have. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.

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