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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 2:40:20 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir
There are three females to every male out there and way too many here (leaving out troll, fakes, abusers) to bellieve in some old tradation that came from some out dated ideas.


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Baloney. The men outnumber the women on kinky sites by about 10 to 1. Kinky submissive women are in high demand. As a result, we can be choosy.


I was thinking the same exact thing.
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
I ask the Dommes here to tell us what gifts they received from their male slave(s.)  I'm excluding Fin-Dommes for obvious reasons.
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A leather jacket, a tea pot with matching service set, a shirt, and some lavender bath oil for Christmas.

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 2:42:00 PM   
BurntKitty


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ORIGINAL: IM2sik4u
... So tell me what you plan to send me to be a female slave!


A gender reassignment kit? Or perhaps just Lorena Bobbitt? Opie's statement reads as if he wants to be a female slave.

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 5:36:56 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: IM2sik4u
Financial tribute to a Dominant (male or female) is stupid, and indicates that the Dominant is incompetent.

It's stupid to you. Some Dom/mes and subs/slaves really get off on it. I don't but I still don't call it stupid.

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt
Ahhh, your very first post here. Welcome to the boards. Ummm, was there a question in there somewhere?

Nah, I don't think so. I think he just wanted to rant awhile and show us how judgmental he is.

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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
I ask the Dommes here to tell us what gifts they received from their male slave(s.)

I did NOT ask for it or expect it and I was totally surprised by it, but I've been given a small flogger and also a red rose. And, as a matter of fact, I've given a sissy sub I was really interested in some dainties, which he loved.

NBMG

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 5:46:38 PM   
JeffBC


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Status: offline 		I guess for me, I don't get why me, you, or anyone else is applying "shoulds" to relationships that are not your own.

I also don't get by what right you even offer an opinion on what is "stupid" in other people's relationships without knowing their goals. I'm perfectly willing to say to someone, "Look, if you're trying to accomplish C than 1 & 2 are not going to get you there." But I'm not willing to just say the goal "C" is "stupid".

What I see here is a tiny little mind with a terribly parochial viewpoint trying hard, for reasons unknown, to sell that viewpoint to random strangers.

So for real and serious. I would genuinely and not rhetorically like to ask, "Why did you post that?" What did you hope to accomplish?

By the way, I've done things to Carol that, by most people's assessments, are WAY WAY WAY more slime-ballish than our financial arrangements.

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 6:12:09 PM   
Karmastic


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ORIGINAL: IM2sik4u

Since male slave should and are expected to give gifts and tribute to their Mistress or even to be considered. I believe in equal oppertunity if not always equal rights. So tell me what you plan to send me to be a female slave! There are three females to every male out there and way too many here (leaving out troll, fakes, abusers) to bellieve in some old tradation that came from some out dated ideas.

Financial tribute to a Dominant (male or female) is stupid, and indicates that the Dominant is incompetent. Additionally, any Dominant who expects to be carried financially by their submissive or slave, is a parasite who can't make it on their own. Or they are a prostitute, but fail to take that label willingly. If they take on the status of a professional Dominant that's one thing, but to make it a commercial enterprise and claim it as their due as a Dominant is crass and insulting.
Admittedly, that is my opinion. But I do think that expectations of financial recompense of a Dominant by their sub/slave is tantamount to being a slime ball.
It begs the question of whether the people involved are capable to support themselves. Or have any pride. There is no question that each should be capable of supporting themselves.

Besides hurting to subs position and life after Dominant!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sickness, death, accident.....


Wow, you said so much to disagree with!

There's nothing wrong with making a business out of being a dom, and I understand that a lot of women do. But a commercial exchange (perhaps with loving and caring nonetheless) doesn't mean owning and controlling another human being for the purpose of pimping them out for money.

Are u fer real?












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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 8:12:32 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		And still no one sends me stuff!!

Though in answer to Lance--super fun surprise gift: glow in the dark rope! I love things that glow in the dark! A Demel set with all the trimmings. Fancy lingerie. Chanel No 5. Choccies!

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 8:52:32 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		Hey OP, you already said in your profile "I AM AN ASSHOLE AND NOT CHANGING THAT JUST GET OVER IT" - now maybe you want to clean up spelling and punctuation, but why make such a long post and write a novel in your profile, when that one liner says it all.

All I can say is GOOD LUCK IN YOUR SEARCH, you are going to need it!

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 10:29:37 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Hey OP, you already said in your profile "I AM AN ASSHOLE AND NOT CHANGING THAT JUST GET OVER IT" -


Sheesh, really LadyC? Nothing like shooting himself in the foot (or dick, as the case may be.)

To Lance: gifts: a case of Bath & Body Works 'Enchanted Orchid' hand cream, 2 dungeness crabs caught that morning delivered in person from San Francisco, a ceramic knife, adult toys/bdsm equipment, kahlua cream cheese pie from Marie Callendar's, all-milk bordeaux from See's Chocolate, a cord of short-cut hardwood for the woodstove (delivered AND stacked!), toys for the kittehs, a quiver of hand-made bamboo canes in various guages, home cooked meals, 12 years and counting of unlimited access to a 41' ft. sailboat, car maintenance/repair, yardwork, honey-do's around the house, nursemaid and kitteh care when I got out of the hospital and had an extended recovery time, quality time spent together, laughs and hugs, and love. Lots and lots of love, the best gift of all.


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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 10:31:14 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 10:35:18 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

It does not suck to be MDA!


Oh, there were times it sucked to be MDA, LadyH. But not in the last 25 years or so...

I'm tellin' ya, the secret is to get rid of the husbands.

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/7/2012 10:42:08 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Maybe I'm confused.  The OP is a Dominant?

Since when does a Dominant care what other Dominants do?


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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 5:32:33 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		OP, with all due respect, if you intend to stay on the Internet, you could benefit from learning to write better.

As far as financial domination goes, I think of it like homosexuality. It's not my thing personally, but others do it, and who am I to pass judgment on something consensual that doesn't affect me personally?

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 8:21:14 AM   
GotSteel


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ORIGINAL: MistressJennalee
First of all, the face that financial is misspelled is absolutely killing me.


Face....you mean fact?

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 9:03:29 AM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Maybe I'm confused.  The OP is a Dominant?

Since when does a Dominant care what other Dominants do?


Maybe he's upset because what they do doesn't fit in with his one true wayism.

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 9:07:19 AM   
RealLady


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Besides hurting to subs position and life after Dominant!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sickness, death, accident.....


Um, WTF does this ^^mean?????


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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 9:14:21 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: RealLady
Um, WTF does this ^^mean?????

I think I understand that sentence, and it was the part of the OP that I was closest to agreeing with.

In my early days on this site, I would flirt with women who were looking to be owned slaves as their primary objective. For most of them, this translated to live-in kinky sugarbaby, where the guy took care of her, in the financial sense. I would tell her she would have a part-time job, and that income would go into an IRA or escrow-type account, and be available to her if the relationship ended, or if she really needed it. You may be surprised by this, but this was a turnoff to most of these women. They wanted no rights and "no way to leave," and/or they didn't want to have to worry about employment.

So I heard the OP saying that the dom was responsible for the sub's long-term financial well-being, and paying tribute to a dom got in the way of that. I agree with the first part, but disagree with the second.

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 9:18:12 AM   
RumpusParable


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ORIGINAL: IM2sik4u

Since male slave should and are expected to give gifts and tribute to their Mistress or even to be considered. I believe in equal oppertunity if not always equal rights. So tell me what you plan to send me to be a female slave! There are three females to every male out there and way too many here (leaving out troll, fakes, abusers) to bellieve in some old tradation that came from some out dated ideas.

Financial tribute to a Dominant (male or female) is stupid, and indicates that the Dominant is incompetent. Additionally, any Dominant who expects to be carried financially by their submissive or slave, is a parasite who can't make it on their own. Or they are a prostitute, but fail to take that label willingly. If they take on the status of a professional Dominant that's one thing, but to make it a commercial enterprise and claim it as their due as a Dominant is crass and insulting.
Admittedly, that is my opinion. But I do think that expectations of financial recompense of a Dominant by their sub/slave is tantamount to being a slime ball.
It begs the question of whether the people involved are capable to support themselves. Or have any pride. There is no question that each should be capable of supporting themselves.

Besides hurting to subs position and life after Dominant!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sickness, death, accident.....


Well, as they say, "Opinions are like assholes...", but in addition, "Some with opinions are....".

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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 9:25:00 AM   
RealLady


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1


quote:

ORIGINAL: RealLady
Um, WTF does this ^^mean?????

I think I understand that sentence, and it was the part of the OP that I was closest to agreeing with.

In my early days on this site, I would flirt with women who were looking to be owned slaves as their primary objective. For most of them, this translated to live-in kinky sugarbaby, where the guy took care of her, in the financial sense. I would tell her she would have a part-time job, and that income would go into an IRA or escrow-type account, and be available to her if the relationship ended, or if she really needed it. You may be surprised by this, but this was a turnoff to most of these women. They wanted no rights and "no way to leave," and/or they didn't want to have to worry about employment.

So I heard the OP saying that the dom was responsible for the sub's long-term financial well-being, and paying tribute to a dom got in the way of that. I agree with the first part, but disagree with the second.


I guess the idea of someone paying my way in life is so alien that I didn't even consider that there are women who believe just being sex toys to a guy warrants him supporting her.  Also, if my sub earns less money than I do - and they often do - I pay for most of what we do like dinners, entertainment, etc.


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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 9:28:26 AM   
RumpusParable


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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

I ask the Dommes here to tell us what gifts they received from their male slave(s.)  I'm excluding Fin-Dommes for obvious reasons.



Well, Chael just got me flowers night before last when we were out at Walmart. This month is my birthday so he's probably either going to get me some earrings of one of my wishlists or some smelly goodness from Lush.

Further back gifts I can remember: When overseas in the Middle East at a local bazaar he bought me 3 sets of local clothing and 3 saris that I still use today, years later. He's bought me bath-bombs and a whole 2lbs of Middle Earth (patchouli scent with rhassoul mud for exfoliation) soap from Lush when there was a chance they'd be discontinuing it (it's my favorite!). He's bought me endless cards, especially when he's deployed overseas. Massage oil to use on me. A PEZ dispenser or three each year in my Easter Basket and Christmas Stockings, just to be silly. And so on over the past 15 years.


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RE: finicial tribute - 4/8/2012 9:32:04 AM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		Oh! And he just the other day gave me the suture kits out of his medical bag so that I can learn to suture with them, on him.

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