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RE: Am i asking for too much? - 4/10/2012 1:36:55 PM

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Go to some munches; I'm super awkward when I first meet people and every munch I've been to has been friendly (I know this isn't universally true). Worst case contact the munch organizers and try to get someone to introduce you. There's a natural divide of distrust between people who don't know each other on websites like this because lets face it there deserves to be. You go somewhere and people get a feel for who you are and will be much more likely to at least be friends. You might get lucky and find something on this site, but relying on it as your prime source for meeting people isn't a good plan. This is especially true when you don't really know anything. Most people have encountered enough people that disappear when things start to become real to trust wish-washy people that are strictly online.

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RE: Am i asking for too much? - 4/10/2012 2:03:52 PM

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Thank you everyone for your insight. It really did help. Ive come to realize that going to munches is the best thing for me to do and the next step for me to take. And, I've also decided that profile certainly needs work.

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RE: Am i asking for too much? - 4/10/2012 2:30:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: Simcity7991
Thank you everyone for your insight. It really did help. Ive come to realize that going to munches is the best thing for me to do and the next step for me to take. And, I've also decided that profile certainly needs work.

Great thinking. As much as the internet is easy and safe, there's nothing like actually meeting people face to face. Aside from munches, you might also look into local MAsT meetings (Masters and Slaves Together). That's a great group for "lifestyle D/s" or "24/7 D/s" or "M/s" or call it what you will. Depending on your particular interests, it might be at least illuminating. They have 3 New Jersey chapters.

By the way, no you're not asking too much although you may have been asking for it too quickly.

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RE: Am i asking for too much? - 4/10/2012 2:38:38 PM

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You live in an area where you can't swing a cat without hitting some kindof meeting, or workshop or play party.. at least if you includ NYC in your area.. and I'm guessing you might need to... as someone else mentioned, try fetlife.. search for things in your area -- once you find a group (on fetlife) post a bit before you go to your first meeting.. you might find someone who will meet you there and at least introduce you around... if not someone to actually go with... I'm sure you'll find people in your area. Good luck.. and I'm with Lady Pact on this.. do it to find yourself and make friends... once you feel comfortable, know a bit more about who you are... then think about some kind of partner...

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RE: Am i asking for too much? - 4/11/2012 12:34:17 AM

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Always assumed munches were set in places one could be easily anonymous. Hmm, now that I think about it, don't dress too innocent. I have always dressed mysteriously. Keep the law and etc guessing.

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RE: Am i asking for too much? - 4/11/2012 1:08:02 AM

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Hey! I'm not here just because I'm looking for sex.

I'm looking for KINKY sex.

Daily.

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