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LunaM -> RE: Social Dominance (4/11/2012 12:59:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
It is my opinion that it is only the beta's that get into needless conflicts. They, unlike the alpha's, need to sort position amongst themselves. They do so with mock combats. Alpha's, in my experience, don't need to engage in such things so they don't. Largely, that's because alpha's don't engage in mock conflicts at all, when they conflict, they mean to end it. It's a messy business that's best to avoid when possible.
You just described the very essence of a wolf pack. The alphas are the ones who hang back and the betas are the ones who are the gateway into the pack. If one wolf wants to join another pack, they have to get through the beta.
The alphas are alphas because they are good decision makers and knows what's best for their pack. They don't need to prove their "alpha-ness" to others because its clear in the way they lead their pack. I see this easily transferrable to humans. The Alphas merely sit and chill, feeling no need to engage in useless posturing and showing off because they have already proven they are in charge in their own respects. Being dominant, in my opinion, doesn't mean you go around getting into fights to prove your toughness. Being a Dom/Master/Domme/Mistress is all about the mind. You are in control of your own faculties, can discern what is wrong and what is right for you and your mate (or pack for poly purposes) and where to hang out that is a safe environment, not so much the brute force of it.
In my most honest opinion, being a Master/Domme is all about mind power. True power lies in the mind, not in the body.
As for Doms being able to get along, I don't see that as much of a problem. If your secure in who you are there is no need in chest-beating or penis size competitions. I personally believe Doms can get along no problem so long as they are secure in their own beings.
Slaves/subs can do the same things and it goes for them too, in my opinion. They need to be secure enough in themselves and perhaps in their relationships then they don't have to do the whole I'm best of the slaves and I can out-slave or out-sub anyone else.
Its like that quote and I pick this just for memory sake since I don't know of any others like it "If you have to tell people your a lady, then you probably aren't"
Just my 2 cents. I'm a slave but from watching people and dogs interact this is just my take on human interactions and wolf pack interactions and hierarchy in general and when more dominant types are together and when more submissive types are together.
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