|
risktaker9 -> RE: How long do you wait? (4/13/2012 10:27:18 AM)
|
OP, hard not to do this- but don't take it personally. She may have in her profile that she's looking but perhaps isn't right this second. Maybe she just met someone and hasn't changed the profile yet, maybe she's taking a break from it, maybe she's exploring women right now...who knows. Also, you might not have what she's looking for. When I get mail i can see location, age, sexuality if it's listed, and orientation -regardless of what the message says I know that much. More than 1/2 of the time that's enough to tell me if it's going to work for me and if I should reply or not. You might be too old, too far, or of a sexuality/orientation that she's not looking for. I don't know any of your profile details, but maybe she really wants a bisexual switch who is 33 1/4 and lives 5 miles away.
Whatever she wants, it's no big deal if you didn't make the cut k? People have their reasons for wanting what they want, we don't know what they are and have to assume like everyone is saying, that if we get a response then it's an added bonus. I have written in my profile that I am looking for local, real life meetings. My pet peeve is if someone lives 5 states away but travels in for business, they think that they meet my criteria for being local to me. Their interpretation of what I have written (if they even read it) is not mine, but without me writing a novel in the profile they aren't wrong in thinking they might suit what I'm looking for at that point. After all, they could think they fit the bill if I want someone who is there regularly. They seem to want to interpret things that way and that is exactly not what I'm looking for, but we hash that out, or not, in further conversations. I generally don't reply to the offers from business travelers because I'm certain it's not what I want and I don't see the use of setting myself up for rudeness, unless the email caught my attention somehow and i felt like responding.
I get what you're saying about finding someone who seems appealing, there will be someone else, keep at it. There are loads of people on here that have met others. If you want some encouragement look up some old threads about that and see just how many have done that. Some for short, casual, whatevers and some for a long term relationship. It IS hard getting out and dating again plus learning about the kinky stuff, you'll do fine. There's a learning curve, but you're here looking for information and giving things a try, it'll come.
Another thing, you have probably read on the forums by now of why women don't always write back to say 'no thanks'. They may get nasty responses or pushiness- it's safer on their side just to ignore an email they aren't interested in. Also, maybe she thinks you seem nice and doesn't want to say no and hurt your feelings.
If it were me I'd assume after about 2 days she wasn't interested. I'd try another email later, why not? I disagree with the posters that have said it's stalkerish, it doesn't come off that way to me when I get them. If I were considering writing another email to someone I'd wait at least a week I guess. There are a few times when I did not respond to someone's first email and did to a second for whatever reason.
|
|
|
|
