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fucktoyprincess -> RE: How old is too old (4/12/2012 1:46:34 PM)
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Age is just a number. The problem, as others have identified, is that on the Internet, when people can't actually see you, or see how you interact, in a real life setting, there is heavy reliance on the age as number as a shorthand for how healthy, fit, fun, etc. someone might be.
I do find it interesting to see this from a man's perspective, though, because, in my experience, and in the experience of most of my female friends (who range in age from literally 25 to 85), it is the men who are much much more focused on wanting a young woman to be with. I literally have no male friends who complain they can't find women their own age. I'm not disputing your own experience - obviously what you've experienced is what you've experienced, but it doesn't match any kind of reality that I know, where women struggle to find men who are even close to their age, because most men close to their age want a woman who is much younger. Most 40-something year old men, if they were never married, or have no children, are usually dating women in the 25-35 yr range, and men older than that (50s, 60s) usually seek out women at least a decade if not two decades younger. This is the reality of what I see around me. So when a woman of 40 tells a man who is 60 that he is "too old", should a man feel offended simply because the 40 year old would prefer to be with a man in his 40s? All I can say is I personally know of no 50 or 60 year old women (NOT one) who are chasing after men in their 30s (yet, the reverse is almost universally true). My 30-something year old friends routinely get mail from men who are in their 50s and 60s.
I can't help but think that when you say most women like the "younger" that what you actually mean is that most younger women prefer men closer to their own age, i.e., younger than you. What is aggravating to most women is that most men, of almost whatever age, seem to prefer women who are younger.
Throughout my life, I have been a better match with men who are close to my age. Not significantly younger, but not significantly older either. It seems to me that most of society operates, however, with the understanding that it is perfectly fine for a much older man to be with a much younger woman. So much so, that when a woman 40 or older asks to be with someone closer to their own age, both men and women feel entitled to tell her she is being picky. I'm not sure that is fair. I think everyone would be better off seeking out people closer to their own age. [sm=2cents.gif]
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