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how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:27:19 AM   
EricaTgurl


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Status: offline 		45 year old white male that crossdresses in Kentucky. I have several kinky fantasies.
Like being tattooed by the master, nipple piercing by the master......cock piercing forced
by the master....public humiliation and whored out.

none of which have been done yet
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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:28:22 AM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EricaTgurl

45 year old white male that crossdresses in Kentucky. I have several kinky fantasies.
Like being tattooed by the master, nipple piercing by the master......cock piercing forced
by the master....public humiliation and whored out.

none of which have been done yet


So, you don't know if you like it in reality.....only in fantasy.


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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:30:12 AM   
EricaTgurl


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Status: offline 		i have wanted to do this but had several people stand me up or be fake.
it is just frustrating. i have just now found this forum and need advice.
not just fantasy....i lust for it

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:39:02 AM   
Whenready


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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:41:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: EricaTgurl
it is just frustrating. i have just now found this forum and need advice.

Jack off, then write a profile that de-emphasizes the sexual stuff, and leads with your vanilla self.

Your fantasies require a dominant who trusts you quite a bit, because you're asking for permanent body modification. These aren't one night stand fantasies, not in real life anyway, so you need to attract someone to YOU, and also to your kinks. You're not likely to get this by advertising for a hookup.

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:43:44 AM   
EricaTgurl


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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:44:58 AM   
EricaTgurl


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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:48:51 AM   
RedMagic1


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Do you think someone would be interested at all in my kinks?

Yes. They aren't that unusual, though you might be surprised to hear it. I imagine you think you're all alone in the world right now, but there are all kinds of people who have tattoos of their lovers, or chastity piercings or other piercings for their master/mistress. Someone who would enjoy owning you would probably think they are hot. The real issue is: what would make you an attractive thing to own?

Can you attend a BDSM event, or a trans support group? Being around other people, in real life, some of whom have waaay weirder fetishes than you, might help you a lot.

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 9:54:26 AM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: EricaTgurl

cock piercing forced by the master....public humiliation and whored out.



Well if you're asking to have your cock pierced, how is it "forced"? Just something to think about.

Being "whored out" may be a bit extreme. Particularly if you've never done anything like that before. It makes a great fantasy, but you may find the reality to be degrading, unfulfilling, and a source of potentially permanent (or deadly) STD's.

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 10:28:30 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


Being "whored out" may be a bit extreme. Particularly if you've never done anything like that before. It makes a great fantasy, but you may find the reality to be degrading, unfulfilling, and a source of potentially permanent (or deadly) STD's.


That was exactly what I was getting at. Sometimes there are things that seem incredibly hot in our heads and when we do them we realize they were better off left in our heads.


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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 10:46:54 AM   
TNDommeK


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


quote:

ORIGINAL: EricaTgurl

cock piercing forced by the master....public humiliation and whored out.



Well if you're asking to have your cock pierced, how is it "forced"? Just something to think about.

Being "whored out" may be a bit extreme. Particularly if you've never done anything like that before. It makes a great fantasy, but you may find the reality to be degrading, unfulfilling, and a source of potentially permanent (or deadly) STD's.

Either that or someone could kill you. There are a lot of sick people in the world and there are a lot of hookers that go missing or get killed and no one bats an eye. Your fantasies are doable, just please make sure you think everything out thoroughly before attempting that.

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 11:01:32 AM   
JanahX


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Status: offline 		I think thats where RedMagic1 was right on target when he said for him to jerk off first before writing - his built up sperm is blocking the pathway to his brain. Hard on and no release = No brain = / No brain = no common sense.
I often have to remind this fact to people that write to me - its amazing how English comes back into their vocabs after a five minute recess - the caveman dialogue goes out the door along with a shitload of other nonsense.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


Being "whored out" may be a bit extreme. Particularly if you've never done anything like that before. It makes a great fantasy, but you may find the reality to be degrading, unfulfilling, and a source of potentially permanent (or deadly) STD's.


That was exactly what I was getting at. Sometimes there are things that seem incredibly hot in our heads and when we do them we realize they were better off left in our heads.




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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 11:04:51 AM   
WestBaySlave


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I know for sure there are gay and bi doms into what you're looking for, and I'm 99% percent sure ( not my scene ) that there are gay and bi doms seeking that who are also are seeking transvestites into those things.

I'd take a look deep into yourself and think about what you really want to do. If you are brand new to this world, perhaps exploring safer fetishes ( for example, public humiliation ) with someone you've gotten to know and trust first is a better start.

Also, there are ways to experience things without committing to a body mod. Are you wanting to pierce your nipples or cock for aesthetic reasons or just as pain play? If it's the latter sterilized needles can give you that experience without a commitment to a look.

With things like tattoos and being whored out, tread carefully, and only involve yourself with someone you trust. For the former, the STD risk is quite high, and it may not be as expected psychologically. Be sure if you're put in that place that your dominant is taking some precautions to protect you ( e.g. insisting on safe ), but be aware it's risky in all cases.

As for a tattoo, is there a specific design you have already in place and thought out, or is it just the idea of being "marked" by your owner that appeals? If the latter, keep in mind the unpredictability of these relationships, and that after the hot dom number one has used you and forgotten you, dom number two might not like seeing another guy's name or brand on your body.

It is possible to explore this stuff with a reasonable level of safety or at least awareness, but the consequences are steep if you wake up with "SLUT" tattooed on your forehead, turn HIV+, and find that one night wasn't really worth it when you have to go to work or face your family with these facts.

Not trying to bring negativity here, I'd just say - go slow.

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 11:28:21 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		Last I heard, Louisville has a small but active local munch (a BDSM meet and greet). Go to it, be uber friendly and helpful and social, and keep going til you make some friends. Eventually, you'll get invited to play parties, and who knows what can happen from there?

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 12:53:45 PM   
Karmastic


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Status: offline 		You've already got tons of great advice from experts. Now, from the newb.

Slow down partner, you've already waited decades, you can wait a bit longer. I must emphasize that doing this as a fling, and not as a relationship, cannot end good. And,take things one step at a time, cus it's true, you might get what you wished for, and not like it. In Star Trek terms, think more like Spock building up to Pon Farr, and less like the "festival" episode.

Also, consider using Henna before graduating to real permanent tats. There's a shitload of skill and artistry needed to give tats. Even if you pass all the other barriers (meet, get to know, build trust and relationship, Etc.) - THEN you can get to having your partner learn what they need to know to do this safely.


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ORIGINAL: JanahX

I think thats where RedMagic1 was right on target when he said for him to jerk off first before writing - his built up sperm is blocking the pathway to his brain. Hard on and no release = No brain = / No brain = no common sense.
I often have to remind this fact to people that write to me - its amazing how English comes back into their vocabs after a five minute recess - the caveman dialogue goes out the door along with a shitload of other nonsense.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


Being "whored out" may be a bit extreme. Particularly if you've never done anything like that before. It makes a great fantasy, but you may find the reality to be degrading, unfulfilling, and a source of potentially permanent (or deadly) STD's.


That was exactly what I was getting at. Sometimes there are things that seem incredibly hot in our heads and when we do them we realize they were better off left in our heads.





lol, there's a saying - stiff dicks have low IQs


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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 2:13:06 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: EricaTgurl
not just fantasy....i lust for it

*blinks* huh? I hate to tell you this, but your entire question is fantasy. Certainly in my world it is. In my world, being "owned" means just that, you're an owned individual. It does not mean that I become your kink delivery system.

Out of curiosity though, what exactly do YOU mean when you say "owned"?


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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 2:24:40 PM   
supragenius


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Status: offline 		ive got a fetish for being pwned. this started off as a lameass joek but then i realized that being tied up by an obnoxious hot chick and sprayed with silly string while beign turned helplessly into an internet meme woudl be pretty hawt and kind of the ultimate in humiliation

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 6:53:12 PM   
EricaTgurl


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Status: offline 		to me it means collared and property of giving yourself to the other

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 6:54:38 PM   
EricaTgurl


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Status: offline 		i have had half a dozen reply and tell me they want

property of blacks

owned bitch

Property

owned by

slut

all these they want on me....how would i know who owns me

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RE: how do i get owned - 4/13/2012 6:56:39 PM   
EricaTgurl


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Status: offline 		i have had a few female doms want to fist me tonite

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