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RE: Just trying to piece it together - 4/15/2012 3:21:41 PM

DomMeinCT

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ORIGINAL: Bhruic

There is a great Despair.com poster that reads "The common element in all of your unsatisfying relationships is you". I suspect that fellow was the source of the toxins, less so the variety of different people he blames it on.

... well I see geekgamegirl basically said this already. But it bears repeating :)

You beat me to it.

http://de-motivational-posters.com/images/despair-the-common-factor-in-all-your-failed-relationships-is-you.jpg

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RE: Just trying to piece it together - 4/15/2012 4:37:45 PM

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So by saying it was toxic he doesn't blame himself and passes the blame it seems ?

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RE: Just trying to piece it together - 4/15/2012 4:45:22 PM

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RE: Just trying to piece it together - 4/15/2012 7:17:46 PM

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Someone with unresolved anger issues does not get to come close to my naked body with a crop. Just sayin'.

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A Pakistani friend told me something similar. He said the measure of a man can be taken by how he reaches for the communal food when there isn't enough to go around.

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RE: Just trying to piece it together - 4/16/2012 5:39:39 AM

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I've had some bad experiences, but lol I'm learning from each one. I try to analyze things so I don't put myself in bad situations AGAIN.

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So my question is, one of the dominants I served for over a year he had a wife, they were poly, ended up bullying me, treating me like shit, very mentally abusive, and ended up raping me in the end. I've gotten a lot of help for it, it was really hard for me to admit what happened that someone I loved did that to me.

Are you getting professional help? Seems like you're still giving him too much energy. What did your therapist say about the question below?

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My question is, if someone seems to have a history of 'toxic relationships'.... i should have thought " oh hey i might be next." I think next time I will run away from someone who has a long line of toxic relationships ...what are your thoughts?

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So by saying it was toxic he doesn't blame himself and passes the blame it seems ?

If this is the guy from your thread http://www.collarchat.com/m_4031329/mpage_1/tm.htm he certainly doesn't seem to be the type to take responsibility.

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RE: Just trying to piece it together - 4/18/2012 7:06:31 PM

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one is not a bad sign. now two is a bad sign and three is a very bad sign. next time look at how the person talks to other that serve him, his tea and food. does he say please and thank you. or going damn, it this steak is rare!! I order it to be well done damit. You better take it back and fucking cook it how I fucking order it. I know a extreme example.

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