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Advice please from a sub man - 4/14/2012 6:45:50 PM

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RE: Advice please - 4/14/2012 7:09:57 PM

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I'm not a submissive man, but I am human and hope that quality alone will suffice in my responding to your plea for advice.

While spending the majority of your year together not being together, I wonder why you feel you should invest
further in a man who, for all intents and purposes, seems to be happy with the woman he found while you were seperated.

I also don't think you are seriously interested in trying to make it work as much as you'd like to believe you are,
as your only 2 choices are to give him an ultimatum, or hope against hope that he decides to end it with the other
woman one day, and that day may very well never come.

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RE: Advice please - 4/14/2012 7:18:55 PM

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You broke things off and hurt him. He got another woman. Now you're trying to make it work and want him to dump the woman he met.

I'm sorry, but I'm looking at it from his POV. I don't know why he would let you back into his life after the previous hurt, and I don't see him dumping her for you.

HOW do you get him to dump her without an ultimatum, anyway?

Look, there are LOTS of men in this world. Why waste your efforts with one you hurt, and one who's already seeing someone? I'd expect that any man in the world would be easier for you to be with.

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RE: Advice please - 4/14/2012 7:22:58 PM

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As it often goes here, the relative kinkiness of the parties is irrelevant in this situation. It's just a simple love triangle.

You imply that this man is now giving you another chance after you hurt him before. Right now, you are coming across like a selfish, whiny bitch. Was that what messed things up the first time around?

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RE: Advice please - 4/14/2012 7:52:43 PM

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We both made mistakes in the past and I take full responsibility for mine. We were both hurt. I love this man so much that I am willing to forgive the past in hopes that we have a future together. I am afraid to give him my heart again if he is not willing to do that same.

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RE: Advice please - 4/14/2012 8:24:52 PM

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But he's already moved on. He's invested in a relationship with a woman who hasn't hurt him in the past. You folks haven't solved the problems that caused the break up yet you're insisting he break up with someone else to go back into a relationship with you that will have the same problems that caused you to break up before.

You need to accept that he's found someone else and stop obsessing about him.

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RE: Advice please - 4/14/2012 9:32:39 PM

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Thank you all for your comments, I/we have much to discuss and think about.

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