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for sadists - 4/19/2012 8:28:51 PM

TNDommeK

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What types of feelings do you get when inflicting pain?

And for the receivers, what feelings do you get when being on the receiving end?

I'm sure this probably has been covered a million times. Just curious though.

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 8:39:23 PM

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Cheerfulness. Squealy giggles. Wild excitement. Intense joy. The more connected I am to the person, the deeper the thrill.

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 8:39:39 PM

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I relate as a sadomasochist.

When I'm on the receiving end in the dungeon, I'm focused on the sensations of the cane, sjambok, fuckin' wooden spoons, paddle or other delightful implement. I kinda channel the pain into teh lady bits and ....well yeah. I like it. I love it. I want some more of it. (Thank you Tim McGraw.)

When I'm in sadist mode, I love seeing the look of sheer bliss on a maso's face when I flog, paddle & cane. The electric flyswatter elicits a look of fear of course. Heh heh heh....

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 8:51:45 PM

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It depends on the type of pain. I like a wide variety of pain. I enjoy pain that simply feels wonderful to me. because I am serving someone, I get turned on. I enjoy overcoming pain that hurts. So few things there are that I don't like, that when I play around with one (like the electric flyswatter) I get a charge - I mean a thrill, of course, hehe. I love the feeling of flying, though I have to be with a very experienced sadist, with whom I am deeply connected, to get there. I love the feelings afterward, and the gentle floatiness that stays around for a couple of days. I just love it all.

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 9:25:39 PM

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Inflicting physical violence is a problem for me. It is Freedom. The dizzying thrill of free-fall. I don't get turned on, I switch off. I like it in the way an addict who won't admit the drug is a problem likes his poison. I get swept away. I disconnect. My awareness narrows and focuses on abstracted things like the endorphin kick, a speck on the wall, the faint lines on my nails, the mathematics behind how and why blood splatters the way it does. The aesthetics of these little abstractions. Fractals. My mind wanders into dispassionate curiosities and discourses such as "do cells feel?" "why does light act the way it does?" "why do we think Brad Pitt is attractive?". I do things, I say things, but my mind does not register, and afterwards, I do not remember, which is a very, very bad thing and why I steer clear of it. It's not my response that I object to, it's the loss of awareness of my actions.

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 10:17:46 PM

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as for a receiver, I simply feel pain since I'm not a masochist. However, during that pain I get turned on because it is him doing it to me and knowing I'm under his complete authority and I'm doing it for him and he's happy and excited by it.

If it was just some casual play person giving me pain, I'd feel only pain, no other emotions since I don't have that deep connection of love and bond as with him.

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 10:37:20 PM

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I'm very clinical when it comes to my sadism. When I have a masochist in front of me, it's a matter of answering two questions: "What happens if I do X"; or "I want Y reaction, how do I get it?" For me, it's the excitement that comes from discovery, the thrill of knowing I have control over the person's reactions. It's not erotic for me at all, but there is definitely a high that goes with inflicting pain. The more emotionally connected I am to my subject, the more I can get into his/her/zir head and draw out the responses I desire. The more appealing the response, the more intense the thrill.

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 10:58:11 PM

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While I understand what Sylvere is saying..my own reactions tend to be a bit more...emotional, I think.

When I am working with a female submissive, I tend to focus more on the sensual aspects, I tend to use my hands and my voice more. I want to touch more. But then, I tend to be a bit more animalistic in nature, so I thrive on the change in breathing, the shift in temperature of the skin...the way that she responds. It has been my experience that women are much more responsive than men, so the reactions that I crave-like Sylvere mentions- are always right there, easily found with in grasp and sooooo satisfying.

I also have to say, again in my experience, women tend to be ...I dont wanna say MORE masochistic, but...it's like their threshold is higher...I dunno...but I know I can push them further.

Im not really so much about the control. I just don't care for it at all. In that regard I am much more submissive. I do not care for pain at all. My limit tends to run the lines of hair pulling, light wax play, occasional blade play...and sooooo super light to insanely moderate flogging. But! I absolutely love the feel of hands round my wrists...and they have to be really tight, like to leave bruises.

I think you are going to get a giant spectrum here. I am interested to see what happens with this...It's kind of cool. =)

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 11:31:18 PM

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ehhh Im saying ..I'll let you know when im hurting you

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RE: for sadists - 4/19/2012 11:38:51 PM

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For me it is simple - FOCUS and ACCEPTANCE.

I've never claimed to be a masochist, and yet have the ability at times to take significant amounts of pain. I find a meditative state that I have likened to that found in yoga. It is tuning out all the external influences and internal chatter to concentrating on the hear and now.

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 4:07:27 AM

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Feeling guilty because I want to 4Q till half-past bartime is not an issue when your fist is in my hair.

TMI?

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 5:06:00 AM

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sometimes its sexual, sometimes just a huge high.. sometimes an amazing overall sense of power.. which can lead to sexual..and toa high...

It is not, however, always sexual.. depends who I'm playing with.. sometimes its just plain fun

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 8:35:33 AM

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I can tolerate some pain for him. I don't enjoy it per se, but I like knowing that I'm making him happy. It's easier for me if he tells me how happy he is I'm taking it. Without that, I just tense up hoping it will end before I break down.

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 8:41:24 AM

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I'm a masochist. While I enjoy the play....what I really love is knowing that I can just absolutely let go and trust him. The energy that flows between us is amazing.

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 9:40:18 AM

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All depends upon the mood I'm in... (how's that for an answer?). Some things simply are not black and white.

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 2:05:52 PM

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Happyness and drift into sub space

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 6:39:29 PM

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Anger towards friends, cold composure towards enemies.

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 6:51:40 PM

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It takes a lot of trust to play with me. That's not a good thing or a bad thing, it's just the way I am. I prefer the type of pain that requires sacrifice, not the typical stuff that causes a nice endorphin buzz, but the type of stuff that causes an emotional release. So it is more based on the emotional construct than the act or severity of pain.

I enjoy all the typical top type stuff too but that doesn't give me the sadism buzz like seeing someone sacrifice them-self and their fears to me. I like it when they cry.

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 6:53:26 PM

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it's like the endorphin release when you work out.....that and the emotional connection/trust

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RE: for sadists - 4/20/2012 7:11:00 PM

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Depends on my mood. Sometimes I want to see pleasure, sometimes I want to see the fear, the sheer torment. Sometimes I just want to see her body shake and quiver from the various sensations. I'm selfish like that.

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