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Gmfs05 -> Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 2:41:56 AM)

So im very young considering most people dont discovery there attraction to this fetish/lifestyle until there mid 20's normaly. And i am inexperienced. But sooo sooo drawn and curious to all of this. My question is how do i find people easily that will show me and guide me through all of this and help me learn about myself. I mean i cant imagine just meeting someoen off the street that shares these interests. A kinky GF just doesnt cut it. I need someone who is experienced and knows what there doing. How do i go about this? Where should i look for help in all of this?



timeoutgurlie -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 3:41:40 AM)

I don't have an answer, but I do have a suggestion:

Calling yourself 'fresh meat', funny as it is (I laughed at least lol) may be...dangerous.  It could be better to not expose yourself as young, naive and inexperienced...there are lots of great people here I'm sure, but I'm also sure there are many, many predators lurking.

Be careful, be aware and let people earn your trust.  Best wishes [:D]



fullofgrace -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 6:32:59 AM)

i am with timeoutgurlie :) be very careful and cautious. when you meet people, take things slowly. talk a lot. there's no need to rush into things. read what you can to learn, see how you respond to different issues instinctively.

and you're by no means the only young one on the boards ;) i'm 18.



CrappyDom -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 7:21:52 AM)

Find a local group, use google and www.tes.org or www.soj.org



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 7:23:44 AM)

Well you got here- use that.

Find your local scene and start making friends with those people.

Oh and mid-20s is still a very low range, most people still dont get into the scene until mid-30s-early 40's.



heartfeltsub -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 7:24:02 AM)

Also some local groups have sub-groups specifically for younger people in the scene. which might be helpful for you.



sweetsubie -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 8:23:00 AM)

i have to agree with every one here, be sure to be careful. This is where i do all my searching, it no differnt to finding a partner locally you'll come across many time wasters, many players but there is a great chance that you'll find some one well suited who will guide you on your journey just be patient. take care and have fun!



iliv2servher -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 9:02:39 AM)

Yeah, I donno if I'd have used "Fresh Meat" as your topic.  What you really need to do is to find a local organization that advocates BDSM as a safe, sane and consentual activity...and maybe one that sponsors classes.  There is something to be said for "safety in numbers."  Anyone who is high profile in the community is not going to risk getting a bad reputation by causing permanent harm to another.



BitaTruble -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 9:17:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Gmfs05

So im very young considering most people dont discovery there attraction to this fetish/lifestyle until there mid 20's normaly. And i am inexperienced. But sooo sooo drawn and curious to all of this. My question is how do i find people easily that will show me and guide me through all of this and help me learn about myself. I mean i cant imagine just meeting someoen off the street that shares these interests. A kinky GF just doesnt cut it. I need someone who is experienced and knows what there doing. How do i go about this? Where should i look for help in all of this?


First off, get it out of your head that it's going to be 'easy'. It's not. Get yourself a copy of The Topping Book and The Bottoming book. You can find them all over the web with a google search. Search for groups which are local to your area and see what they have in the way of meet & greets, munches, lectures, demo's etc. You want to find someone, you need to go to where the people are hanging out.

Feel free to ask questions here on the forums, join elists, etc. but don't expect anyone to do your homework for you. If you are serious about BDSM, you have to do the work to get what you want. Which leads to... try to figure out what you want! What draws you? What floats your boat? Be prepared to answer those sorts of questions when you're ready to find a partner. Also, what do you want out of a relationship? Long term committment? Saturday night fun? Part-time service?

I wouldn't be so fast to dismiss getting a kinky girlfriend either. There's nothing wrong with kinky and it often leads to more involvement.. and, having someone with whom to explore means you get to have a great deal of fun while you're still learning.

Remember to have some fun.. that's why most of us do what we do. We're enjoying ourselves!

Be well, good luck..

Celeste



eruditegirl1 -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 9:52:24 AM)

 
hmmmmm....."fresh meat"...is that a post or an advertisement.....lol....
 I know the feeling though....that terms sums up how I felt at first too...but it does get easier....here are some of the things I have done....ask questions....lots of questions....read....research.....and be patient.....another thing that has really helped me are the message boards....I have gotten some awesome advice from the other subs and Doms here....It can be overwhelming at times too....so just take a deep breathe and enjoy exploring who...what and why you are here.....it's a great journey if you approach it with the right tools and guidance.....



liljeanti -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 12:52:23 PM)

I was about 18 when I finally realized my submissive side.  I did a lot of reading, researching and lurking on some message boards.  I also played around with some kinky boyfriends at the time also.  I in a way kept to myself then so I could understand and learn about things without any pressure.  It took me until I was 22 to take my first dom and explore in a way I havent, I am currently 23 now.  What I am trying to say is read alot, research, and lurk on the message boards.  I wouldnt rush it because you are going to find a lot of people who are going to try to take advantage of how naive and because you are new.  Best of luck to you. 



EdensDevil -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 1:00:16 PM)

Since I was about 11 or 12 I knew for sure that I had a different view about sex then other people. Although it was sort of scary because I didn't know if it was wrong to think the things I did. Vanilla sex just didn't interest me. I suppose that could be an indication as to why I lost my virginity with my faince like.. last september.

Dont think of D/s to just be about control, or submission. It is extremely important to gather information about the other person too. You need to form a bond with them or else things can become dangerous.
Do your reaserch, there are a lot of good websites which you can gather information.

Posting on here helps too, because although a lot of the people on here are older. Some of them are experienced and can give good advice.

Good luck, and stay safe.




Wulfchyld -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 1:01:42 PM)

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DarkSideOfThMoon -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/5/2006 1:16:22 PM)

Smiles, Sir calls me fresh meat sometimes because of my age... but be careful on here...

It will take a while. It will be difficult. Especially looking for people your own age (luckily I like older men)...

Good luck...



kinkme -> RE: Fresh Meat (6/6/2006 2:03:00 PM)

If it's something that you really need in your life you may want to consider moving to a larger city.  Not sure what city you are in.  The increased population would help, but naturally with more doms, there are more subs.

Become someone other people would want to be around.  Work on manners and other social skills.  Constantly strive for knowledge so you are able to converse on a wide range of topics.   Be warm and friendly to other people.   Be available to help others.  Stay strong, fit and healthy.  Don't be lazy.  Avoid addictive substances.  Don't wallow in self pity.  Ya know stuff that really sets you apart as a quality individual that would attract the attention of a dominant woman.  Don't flash bling beause that'll just attract the pros, cons and gold diggers.

I've been looking for a long time, but haven't been willing to ultimately make the monumentally life changing decisions to do so like moving from hick ville wihen I was younger.  It's also a bit easier now that there is a larger population of women on the internet.  But I still see it as a numbers thing, there is far more sub guys than dom women.



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