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Virgin subs or slaves - 4/21/2012 4:09:41 AM

chrisvirginslave

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Do you find it hot when a slave or sub who wants to be yours is a virgin or a turn off, would you turn away a virgin simple because he is one or would you find it interesting that you could train fresh meat so to speak?

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/21/2012 4:25:10 AM

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I don't find it to be either hot or a turn off. But then I base my realationships on who a person is not just on their sexual experience.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/21/2012 5:23:23 AM

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Im glad not all care about sexual experience

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/21/2012 7:39:52 AM

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I can't say I would particularly care either way. There are plenty of good reasons why somebody would be a virgin (yes, even guys) so I certainly wouldn't cross them off the list if I were otherwise interested in them. If I thought we clicked and had chemistry etc then I could definitely get into it, as a bonus, that I'm "corrupting" them so to speak. But that comes after the initial question of being a good fit together.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/21/2012 2:38:44 PM

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As a virgin myself I would mind a virgin as a partner. Then we would pretty much be learning it all together. Sounds like fun! lol.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/21/2012 2:55:53 PM

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Their sexual experience in and of itself is not a factor to me.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/21/2012 3:00:03 PM

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My ex was a virgin. It was awkward at first, but he got better as we went along.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/21/2012 9:08:59 PM

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I like a partner who knows what he wants, but he doesn't need first hand experience, just a will and desire to go forward.
My only hesitation with virgins is, it's hard for them to KNOW what they really want until they've sampled the buffet, they might decide they don't like the kinks I do. I always keep that in mind.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/22/2012 11:44:30 AM

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I think most virgins know what they like, i personally have had submissive fantasies since i was 8 years old, they only turned sexual when i was 13 and its been down hill since then

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/22/2012 2:09:45 PM

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Um, nope most virgins don't know what they like. I've met virgins so newbie that they didn't know what turned them on or off because they hadn't tried anything yet. There's always the fantasies that led them here, true. But beyond those...not a clue.
Being a virgin isn't a problem - it's finding one with the right sub mindset to work with. Most haven't read anything non-fiction in the field to have a clear understanding of D/s.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/22/2012 2:19:46 PM

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Since I have no particular interest in sex with male subs/slave, their virginity is irrelevant to me.
However, I am cautious with them as it has been my experience that the majority of virgin boys looking to enter the lifestyle base their expectations and understanding on little more than fantasy and porn, which naturally isn't the same as the reality of D/s.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/22/2012 9:08:17 PM

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I'm inclined to avoid someone with no bdsm experience at all, just because I have done so much and know what I have no interest in. Sexual experience isn't relevant to me.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/23/2012 12:54:00 AM

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Turn off your porn and remember BDSM is not just about sex. However, like LadyHibiscus said being a novice or whether or not your're genuine is more important.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/23/2012 10:25:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds

I like a partner who knows what he wants, but he doesn't need first hand experience, just a will and desire to go forward.
My only hesitation with virgins is, it's hard for them to KNOW what they really want until they've sampled the buffet, they might decide they don't like the kinks I do. I always keep that in mind.

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ORIGINAL: chrisvirginslave

I think most virgins know what they like, i personally have had submissive fantasies since i was 8 years old, they only turned sexual when i was 13 and its been down hill since then

How would your fantasies let you know if you like electric play, for example? I love the TENS but detest the Violet Wand. I'll tolerate caning if it's mixed in with something I like, such as flogging, but would not be a good match for someone who lives for caning.

Etc.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/23/2012 10:28:09 AM

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I am reminded of the self-identified masochists who have never played, but are looking for a sadist.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/23/2012 10:28:54 AM

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/snicker/

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/23/2012 10:39:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds

I like a partner who knows what he wants, but he doesn't need first hand experience, just a will and desire to go forward.
My only hesitation with virgins is, it's hard for them to KNOW what they really want until they've sampled the buffet, they might decide they don't like the kinks I do. I always keep that in mind.

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ORIGINAL: chrisvirginslave

I think most virgins know what they like, i personally have had submissive fantasies since i was 8 years old, they only turned sexual when i was 13 and its been down hill since then

How would your fantasies let you know if you like electric play, for example? I love the TENS but detest the Violet Wand. I'll tolerate caning if it's mixed in with something I like, such as flogging, but would not be a good match for someone who lives for caning.

Etc.

Bad example i actually own a tens machines and have used it on myself but that was an EMS kit designed to grow muscles

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/23/2012 12:22:38 PM

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Not interested in virgins.

That being said, where I live, if I found a compatible submissive and he was blue, I'd overlook it - lol.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/23/2012 8:59:17 PM

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Him being a novice or virgin doesn't bother me. He needs to learn, listen, absorb knowledge and grow. Obedience and honesty are more important than if he has his virginity.

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RE: Virgin subs or slaves - 4/25/2012 4:40:57 PM

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Not interested in a him...but I do avoid virgins. Reason being that I don't feel that they have the experience to be informed.

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