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uselessmale39 -> Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 10:57:56 AM)

Have been having a tough time fiding a goddess who excepts the fact that I m Bi sexual.seems that even in the kink world bi men are still looked down on as out casts.So I was just wondering what your thoughts on this matter are thanks for the time



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 11:00:15 AM)

Where are you looking, exactly?



LaTigresse -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 11:02:14 AM)


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ORIGINAL: uselessmale39

Have been having a tough time fiding a goddess who excepts the fact that I m Bi sexual.seems that even in the kink world bi men are still looked down on as out casts.So I was just wondering what your thoughts on this matter are thanks for the time


For ME, nearly all men are a turn off sexually. It has nothing at all to do with their personal sexuality.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 11:03:07 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse


quote:

ORIGINAL: uselessmale39

Have been having a tough time fiding a goddess who excepts the fact that I m Bi sexual.seems that even in the kink world bi men are still looked down on as out casts.So I was just wondering what your thoughts on this matter are thanks for the time


For ME, nearly all men are a turn off sexually. It has nothing at all to do with their personal sexuality.



Well that's true of me too, and I LIKE the peen! It's their blood supplies that can be off-putting... [8|]



Lockit -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 11:04:35 AM)

Maybe the problem is found in looking for a goddess rather than a dominant woman or something else that hinders you... and when you change some focus you may have, you will find that it is easier to see that it isn't a discrimination of bi men. Sometimes a little attention to what you might be doing that has a result that you misconceive is a bonus. After all... many of us like man on man. I don't see where you are finding all this discrimination.



FantasyKisses -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 11:24:45 AM)

Other than the added threat of STD/STIs (which I worry about with uncircumcised men and women too), it's no big trip. I've watched and participated in guy sex. It's rather erotic if the same precautions of hygiene are taken.

As a personal rule of thumb, I have a problem with so-called "switches". I believe there are far less out there than what are claimed (the Marquis de Sade himself was a true switch and both sadistic and masochistic). I think it's an easy way for tops and bottoms and kinksters to try to identify with the trendy term. I also hate the "no limits" claim, because .... really, how many people have you known that give a green light to be shot, stabbed, or mutilated? And the general idea that the sacred titles of Master and slave are so abused.

But no, sexuality itself is not a problem.



uselessmale39 -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 11:37:17 AM)

Thank you all so much for your input



kalikshama -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 1:42:26 PM)

Ya, bi isn't a problem for me but my D switching would be. Not the occasional bottoming or sensation play, but being mentally submissive to someone else. (Not dissing switches; it's just not a dynamic that would work for me.)



DommesLesEnigma -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 2:08:19 PM)



...or maybe it would be the added threat that you may not be happy with just a Goddess or Mistress. But, get the stirring to tip to the other side for a little taste. I guess that if you are not being monogamous that wouldn't matter. But it would if you were.

I have a bi friend that swear she is so into a relationship one minute, and then when she want to go to the other side of the bread she's in another one. For that reason I hate to get to know the people she step on when she is done with them.

Just a thought for you....



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 2:15:03 PM)

I have no problem with either bi men(or women either) or switches. I would have a problem if a switch tried to switch on me. That would not go over well at all.

NBMG



RumpusParable -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 2:43:04 PM)

No issue with bi men, as a general grouping.



hangemhigh1953 -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 2:46:36 PM)

Having an interest in kink isn't going to change how someone feels. If they're biphobic, they're biphobic. However, how are you going about telling women about it? Are you telling them in a way that makes them think they are going to have to share you with a guy? Are you telling them in a way that sounds like you are demanding an enforced bisexuality scene?



JanahX -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 2:48:23 PM)

Where is your info coming from that bi-men are outcasts in the kink world? Id like to see some info on that please.

Did you ever stop to consider that maybe its just you?



Alecta -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 4:14:37 PM)

I've known of gay men and bi women being outcast, but never bi men.
Maybe it's just you.



kalikshama -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 4:17:19 PM)

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However, how are you going about telling women about it? Are you telling them in a way that makes them think they are going to have to share you with a guy? Are you telling them in a way that sounds like you are demanding an enforced bisexuality scene?


Excellent questions!



ElanSubdued -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 4:48:31 PM)

uselessmale39,

Bisexual predilections or not, I'd wager a guess your handle isn't a great selling feature.  People generally aren't enamoured with "useless" items.



VanessaChaland -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/25/2012 5:02:39 PM)

For myself a bisexual man would not be a turn off per se. The only issue is I am one greedy demanding bitch who does not share well with others. :)



uselessmale39 -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/26/2012 8:05:07 AM)

Thank you for all of the input it has all been taken to heart and mind will be of great use during this journey . Just to explain a few things that have been asked above when I said bi sexual men were outcasts I was explaining the feelings I have gotten over the last few years having been treated very poorly by people I have trusted. As far as how the subject has been started I beleave in being up front abput who I am and what I like and as things moe to that level I am always up front with who ever I am with . once again thank you for all of your comments



LadyPact -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/26/2012 10:47:23 AM)

I sincerely do not know where you have gotten that idea.  I'm not saying that every person out there wants to own a bisexual male, but there is definitely a segment of those that do.  For somebody with My particular kinks, the benefits would be endless.

Of course, a person's bisexuality wouldn't change anything as far as someone being submissive to Me.  If I'm the authority figure/Owner in the scenario, that means the decisions are made by Me.  That includes who, when, and where.  Knowing Myself as I do, I would most likely also reserve the right to observe and/or participate as I see fit.  I wouldn't accept a situation where little clandestine hook-ups were a part of the deal.



MissRubyRue -> RE: Are bi men the big turn off (4/26/2012 1:00:02 PM)

Personally I can never trust a switch or a bisexual man or woman,
one day they are one way, the next day they are another way
I feel you need to figure who and what you and feel comfortable with it before you enter into any type of relationship



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