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ORIGINAL: louisianaKing
I 've been in search of a LTR with a dominate female that respects my dominate pesonality to the outside world, Imma Boss, but I have a real want and desire to submit completely to a dominate female. but can't seem to find one any suggestions
LouisianaKing,
I'm not completely clear on what you're saying. When you say "Imma boss", do you mean that you're a boss at work, or that you want to be the boss in your relationship?
Lots of subs/slaves serve in managerial roles at work. But that has nothing to do with your relationship at home.
I have served many Dommes over the years, and I've always been more successful at work than my Domme. I've always managed more people than they did. but that didn't hinder them from saying "On your knees" when I came home after work. Nor did it stop me from doing exactly what they said.
I'll let you in on a little secret. There is actually a type of Domme who gets off on dominating alpha males. The more successful you are in the vanilla world, the more they like dominating you. Similarly, some Dommes get off on dominating physically dominant men. So if you're 6'5" with rippling muscles, she will enjoy dominating you even more than she enjoys dominating a less intimidating man. The more powerful the man, the more powerful she feels when dominating him.
So first you need to decide whether you're actually a sub. Perhaps your "Imma boss" mentality keeps you from actually showing the type of submission that dominant women are looking for.
No matter how much you may think that you are "a boss", I strongly suggest that you stand in front of a mirror and practice saying the following words; "Yes Ma'am".
-Imagine her telling you to go outside and mow her lawn. Then say, "Yes Ma'am".
-Imagine her telling you to get down on your knees. Then say, "Yes Ma'am".
-Imagine her telling you to mop her floors. Then say, "Yes Ma'am".
-Imagine her telling you to go to Walmart and buy her some things. Then say, "Yes Ma'am".
-Imagine her telling you to rub her feet. Then say, "Yes Ma'am"
-Imagine her telling you to wash her car. Then say, "Yes Ma'am".
Notice that none of the scenarios that I described was sexual. Don't think about sex. Practice thinking about obeying her when she gives you domestic commands. Get comfortable with the idea of doing things that benefit HER, but have no obvious benefit to you. If you do that, and show her that you're willing to put her needs ahead of your own (especially ahead of your sexual needs), then you'll be ahead of 90% of the male subs out there. More importantly, you'll no longer need to ask "How do I find a Domme", because the Dommes will find you. 
I hope that helps. Good luck in your search.
-Roch
^^^ THIS!!! well said!
my 2 cents...I think I understand what you're looking for. I think there's PLENTY of women who want their man to be a strong nominal leader in real life, but want to dominate his strong ass sexually. Forgive me for resorting to the strong black woman stereotype, and I don't presume you have any preferences - but doesn't that describe many black women you know in real life? How many times have you been ordered to "get it, get it, get that pussy" in ever-increasing intensity as you try to keep up with her demands? And then been chided to hurry up get dressed for church, so you can lead the family down the isle and represent?
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