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Reminding me of my place... - 6/5/2006 9:35:06 AM

HappyMinion

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Hello and good day all....

Recently my Mistress has taken to sending me off to work or in public with little priviate reminders of my choice to be hers. For instance last week she stuffed a small piece of sand paper into my underwear and told me to wear it all day. It didn't really hurt, but I was a constant reminder... Of course it isn't just me, she has also taken to giving me litle treats in public... Like putting a piece of bread into her shoe when we went out for dinner... Then duing the meal she reached under then table a handed me my mangled up snack...

Just wondering if any other Dommes participate in activities like this... It was fun :) and won't let me forget my place anytime soon...

Thanks,
robby.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/5/2006 9:42:26 AM

darq

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Mmmm I know I love a good toejam sammich ...

*giggles*

Sorry, I couldnt resist.

Honestly, I tend to bristle the moment anyone suggests I might need to be reminded of 'my place' ... As if somehow I'm going to roll out of bed one morning and go, OMG Who am I? Where do I belong? Why am I here? WHATS GOING ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know ... My mind is bizzarre.

I'm sure many Dommes do this sort of thing though. Especially if they and their partners enjoy it. :)

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/5/2006 9:59:40 AM

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I know my place. It's just how & when my Owner wants me in that place.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/5/2006 12:42:04 PM

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I don't do standard things so I can't give you standard examples.

Here's an example from yesterday though when we three went out with two vanilla friends (whom we are fully out to) to a movie.

I fed Fox a few pieces of candy by holding them up to his mouth and pulling them away until he whispered "please" to me. (He does not have to call me Mistress in front of vanilla friends but he is still forbidden to call me TammyJo).

We five went to a restaurant and I know Fox gets put in the end chair and that he hates it, so I stepped up and demanded a bigger table. I consider it part of my job to stand up for Fox and speak for him in these sorts of matters in public and just doing it earned a "thank you, Mistress" whisper from him immediately after I did it. I snapped my fingers at one point and just glanced at him so he bowed his head and kissed my hand.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/5/2006 1:41:38 PM

lisa1978

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Things like you described are quite common. I do not need to be reminded but love when things like this are in my relationship. I do believe they help me stay focused and in the mindset as well as it feels so naughty being in the regular world while something like that is going on. I do not think I could get enough of a thing like that.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/6/2006 10:23:46 PM

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loves that stuff...

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/7/2006 5:22:16 AM

SenseofBelonging

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when Mistress and i go to lunch, She will often order for me. and i'd better eat what She gets me, whether i like it or not. i love the look on the waitress's face when She does that.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/7/2006 4:00:55 PM

composer83

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how truly blessed you must feel to have such creative & loving Dommes....

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/7/2006 4:12:23 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SenseofBelonging

when Mistress and i go to lunch, She will often order for me. and i'd better eat what She gets me, whether i like it or not. i love the look on the waitress's face when She does that.

I actually did exactly that at a nice restaurant last Sunday evening. I know the waiter was totally confused, when I was doing all of the ordering, and then My "date" accepted the plate I pushed across to him so he could cut My filet mignon for Me. At the end of the meal, the waiter did not know where to place the check, so he set it carefully between us and scurried away. Everything was very pleasant and all smiles, but it was not the norm, so the waiter had to step outside of his own box to keep his patrons happy.
Sometimes those little things are just wonderful.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/9/2006 8:59:12 AM

stephi

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my Mistress always orders for me. And i usually get Her things when She needs them, like a napkin, a drink refill, unless a waiter or waitress is involved. W/we went to my family's house for a holiday dinner and everyone was surprized when i jumped up to get more of certain things for Mistress. It was a pleasure to be so open.

Mistress will usually pat my bottom or touch my shirt as W/we talk, just a reminder that underneath are panties, bra, and a cammi, usually. She willl at one point in the conversation, especially when i forget my status, say "I like you in pink... so pretty!" That usually brings me back to reality. Or if i should look at a girl or waitress, She will remark that the skirt is just what i need, usually loud enough so that the person i am admiring can hear. Embarrassing, yes. But a needed reminder. And when we arrive home, i know what will happen!

Thanks, curtsey
stephi

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/9/2006 5:23:15 PM

forluvofmaria

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It is sometimes the "little" things that can remind sub/slave just who is in charge....I like to just tap the wrist if someone isn't paying attention, just one finger and a tap or two and I can have the attention return where it should be.....One long hard lesson in learning what is expected when they do not pay attention to that warning is usually enough....

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/9/2006 6:20:51 PM

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Almost all parts of life will do that for someone who is owned by me, no matter whether they visit me, live with me or are thousands of miles away. This is because most of them being long distance most of the time as of yet, it is an absolute neccessity. Then again, due to the constant reminders that are already in place, many don't need me to do all that much on the spot to remind them -- but I will be doing more things that are highly symbolic and very neat that keeps our roles in mind once the relocations go through and even some things they can do while they are away from me that do the same that are already being done now.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/10/2006 2:10:44 AM

Lashra

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I just took my sub shopping for panties tonight, nice cute lacy ones in adorable colors with a bit of frill. I even picked out two cute thongs for him to wear as he has the nicest ass I've ever seen on a man. He is going to wear these under his clothes to work so that he will be reminded of his place.
It was pretty cool to see this big 6ft 3 inch tall 250lb guy holding up a pink lacy thong to himself and asking me if I thought it would fit. What was even more delicious was the huge bulge in his pants because he was so turned on lol. It certainly made my night to say the least.

~Lashra

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/20/2006 5:44:58 AM

menialtasker

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In my experience the best reminder was enforced chastity. Mentally it kept me focused and the physical sensation of a CB-3000 worn 24/7 under clothing was a constant reminder of my Mistress's ownership and control over me and my place to Her. I was released after 53 days and i've experienced numerous periods of 15 - 30 days. Definately an avenue to explore further.
I've also held a longheld fantasy of finding a Mistress who, as part of Her ownership over me, cut my hair as and when and how She pleased. Everytime i looked in the mirror i would be reminded of Her.. the fact that she may be totally inept as a barber(ette) or not is of no consequence. Of course, this reminder would be on full public view so there is a huge humiliation/embarrassment factor that could come into play but thats all part of the fun (and fear). Also, wearing clothing that has hair clippings inside that made me itch like crazy would be a good reminder.
Am i mad or has anyone else experienced or administered this sort of play?

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/20/2006 8:14:29 AM

thetammyjo

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quote:

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In my experience the best reminder was enforced chastity. Mentally it kept me focused and the physical sensation of a CB-3000 worn 24/7 under clothing was a constant reminder of my Mistress's ownership and control over me and my place to Her. I was released after 53 days and i've experienced numerous periods of 15 - 30 days. Definately an avenue to explore further.
I've also held a longheld fantasy of finding a Mistress who, as part of Her ownership over me, cut my hair as and when and how She pleased. Everytime i looked in the mirror i would be reminded of Her.. the fact that she may be totally inept as a barber(ette) or not is of no consequence. Of course, this reminder would be on full public view so there is a huge humiliation/embarrassment factor that could come into play but thats all part of the fun (and fear). Also, wearing clothing that has hair clippings inside that made me itch like crazy would be a good reminder.
Am i mad or has anyone else experienced or administered this sort of play?

I personally have never understood how these physical pieces of equipments help the wearer focus on service. Seems to me that they focus you onto your own body and the fact that you can't touch some part of it or in the case of an irritant that it is touching your body.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/20/2006 9:00:38 AM

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So are you saying that chastity has no place in D/s if it involves a device that prevents orgasm? There are countless accounts of submissives who feel, act and behave better (ie more compliant, attentative etc) when controlled and denied in this way. Of course, there is a mental trip for the wearer - after all, the device is omni-present so why not enjoy it and wear it with pride rather than sulk and whine about it.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/20/2006 9:19:45 AM

DiannaVesta

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My slave wears www.eternitycollars.com Although we have the full set hy only wears the wrist and ankles. It looks a bit like jewelry but is steel. They can only be put on and off with a little baby allen wrench which is supplied. They stay on all the time.

When I am away I write out very detailed list one what hy should do while I am gone and how it should be done. This includes little rituals of adoration.

Yet what keeps hym the most mindful is the chain I have tight around hys heart. No matter where hy goes hy always feels this inside and remembers hys life's purpose.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/20/2006 9:34:41 AM

thetammyjo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: menialtasker

So are you saying that chastity has no place in D/s if it involves a device that prevents orgasm? There are countless accounts of submissives who feel, act and behave better (ie more compliant, attentative etc) when controlled and denied in this way. Of course, there is a mental trip for the wearer - after all, the device is omni-present so why not enjoy it and wear it with pride rather than sulk and whine about it.

Where did I say anything like that?

Others may be into chastity that's a different issue.

I do not undestand how wearing something that prevens orgasm or is an irritant helps one focus on service as opposed to the body part being touched. Unless you become so used to it that you don't feel it then how is it a reminder of control? I'm not getting it.

Collars and things worn as symbols seem quite different to me. The symbol is one of the relationship. My wedding ring for example is a symbol -- I don't feel it or look at it and think "I'm married" its just part of me and I only notice it when I don't wear it. I all ready know I'm married I don't need a reminder of it or a way to stay focused on that fact.

I think of what some folks say about chastity devices -- they help make the person want to please so they can have it removed to they can orgasm. Is the person then really focused on pleasing or just pleasing in order to get something wanted, something the presence of the device is a constant reminder of? Doesn't this risk making the orgasm even more important to the person than less important? Is he focused on your happiness or on doing whatever it takes to get to his orgasm?

I think that by using such devices I would be sending the signal that his orgasm is the important thing, the motivation for the dynamics of our relationship, the line that has to be respected unless I want his submission or service to waver. That would not be true for me at all.

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/20/2006 9:40:53 AM

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I really enjoyed reading this forum and know now that I'm one of many who like small public reminders, from wearing stockings & panties under clothing, to buttplugs and light bondage. Just gives them the reminder of the control. One of my personal faves is a bit of elastic tied round cock and balls, run up the crack and secured to belt loop...can give a gentle (or not so gentle) tug at will, yet remains out of sight due to subs shirt covering belt loop.

I also enjoy femme shopping and holding up a satin nightie or pair of lacey knickers and saying how well they'd suit him.

Now having a subs tag for his collar engraved is a whole different story. Imagine the lines I've had to use when it says "lily" on one side and "property of Madame Regi" on the reverse. Get some unusual looks.

Nice to meet u all. New to forums, but not new to collarme or the realms of bdsm!!!

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RE: Reminding me of my place... - 6/20/2006 9:59:33 AM

gypsyssoul

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i am a waitress/bartender and where i work we have such a couple that come in ... he won't speak and the other waitress's are scared of them lol .. scared ..

so i started waiting on them

calling her ma'am and only giving her the check...

never speaking to him only her and now they ask for me

the nicest couple i know ... god tippers and always look happy together ... :: Smiles

it all sounds so wonderful to me ....

( lucky ones)

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