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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

You know how something should have been so painfully obvious...but you just didn't get it? Its like its slapping you in the face, but you could never quite grasp it....until now.

Earlier I logged in and ran to the kitchen to get something to eat. Not thinking about it being a weekend, and being naive, I get busy, come back a half hour later and my "in box" is just inundated with requests. Requests for cam sessions, for chat with Pay pal payments and tributes and offers of all kinds. Just a surprise and sort of overwhelming at first, and then it struck me.......

Having had a hiatus from CollarMe for a time, since returning I have been surprised by the rabid hostility of so many of the other women here. I mean its just shocking how the pettiness, the bitchiness, the catty remarks, the "lighthearted" insults and jabs.

I couldn't figure it out as I've never "met" any of them. Now I get it. :)

Some, maybe many, of "FemDoms" here, you know the ones that live here and have 20,000+ posts, are sitting around waiting for guys to offer them Pay Pal money for chats etc, lol. I never would have guessed that as I never knew you could even do that.

So, whenever an infrequent female visitor stops by, or a new attractive female joins, they see it as an incursion on their "turf", because they assume (incorrectly) that its just another charge by the minute Domme.

So listen Chickie/Dommes, you can back off. I don't cam. I don't do Pro-Domme stuff. I don't do charge for chat stuff. I have never done any of that and never will. I am not here to take away your "clients" and your few dollars for, ummm, cough, cough, "Domination" services.

Sorry that I caused you distress and perhaps made you worry how you would pay the rent. But seriously, I am not after your man, your men, your clients, your "business" ventures, lol, so you can calm down and rest easier. :)

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ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine

Vanessa, would you kindly explain why you are so ultra-critical of pro dommes when you yourself make money from the kinks of others? Why is providing furniture or plans in exchange for money so different from providing sessions?

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

Yall are mean. All she wants to do is sell furniture. She puts all kinds of naked pics with the furniture to set her apart from the lowlifes that try to use sex to make money off poor unsuspecting guys.

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Original: VanessaChaland

Keeping it short as most of my posts are now deleted by a Mod who scolds me for posting "off topic" post about things like religion and sex int the "Religion and Sex' category and using four letter words towards me while complaining that I've been using four letter words in my posts, lol. This site is bizarre.

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Original: thishereboi

Actually they only delete your posts if they are off topic or personal attacks. It's up to you whether or not you follow the rules, not the mods fault.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I do have to wonder......  If the OP was so confident that the only reason that people react to her the way that they do is because she is just sooooo beautiful, since she is interested in human behavior, why did she not experiment with the way people would react to her without the physical appearance being involved?  It would have been easy to choose an avatar that wasn't a picture of herself and use a cartoon instead.  Yet, had she done that, and people still called her on the way she treats others, she could no longer rely on the 'jealousy because of beauty' angle.  Then, she'd have to face owning her words, the terrible attitude, and all that goes with it.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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Original: VanessaChaland

Keeping it short as most of my posts are now deleted by a Mod who scolds me for posting "off topic" post about things like religion and sex int the "Religion and Sex' category and using four letter words towards me while complaining that I've been using four letter words in my posts, lol. This site is bizarre.

Here's that thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_4103070/tm.htm

I thought your "Cuckoldry, Kink and Religion" OP had a lot of potential. Alas, it devolved into a bunch of personal attacks and off topic nonsense about your ass, by several posters, including you, all of which I reported and the mods removed. So stop feeling special - there were several other posters who had their derails removed.

(I had mixed feelings about reporting the posts, as they were quite funny, but I thought your OP was a good one unfortunately derailed by discussion of your ass.)

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Original: thishereboi

Actually they only delete your posts if they are off topic or personal attacks. It's up to you whether or not you follow the rules, not the mods fault.

Exactly.

VC - take another look at your letters from the mods. Gamma is usually quite helpful explaining why your post is removed and has engaged in a dialog with me when I've disagreed with a gold letter to me in the past.

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

Thats great and I heard from the Mods. About two days ago. They told me blah, blah, blah, and it was a final warning. So I said that I believe in free speech, and if thats not allowed to just ban me. Went out for dinner, did some shopping, came home to find more alerts in my e-mail. Another message from the same Mod (or another, no idea, don't care) and I asked if they were bored or why had they copied and pasted a bunch of my former posts to me, with more threats/vulgarities, and warnings again when I stated earlier to either allow me to speak or ban me.

A couple days later and here we are. I assume they will ban me now, today, tomorrow or whenever. Good. Fine, don't care, at all.

Whats odd is that some people here think I am upset or give a Chinese aviators fat ass what they think or whether or not I am popular or not, or banned. I believe in free speech (as mentioned) and if this sites Mods insist on censoring any and every post on a totally arbitrary and subjective basis, then fine, just go ahead and delete my profile. I will go take a nap and then hit the gym and go out for drinks later, lol. It means nothing to me. I have not been upset, there is no one here that could upset me, to be frank this place is a bit boring. The first few days were amusing, but now its just the lame attempts at "snark", by most which is rally on a first grade level. I've seen all the posts but most of ther efforts were so boring there is nothing worthy to respond too. Its just like little kids saying, "Yea, what she said", over and over after one of the "Faux Pro-Domme Snark Sisters" mouths off. Its boring.
I keep seeing people ask "Where is -----?" whomever, haven't seen them around and I giggle to myself as that same person is over at FetLife or other forums, living it up and laughing/trash talking with me about some of the people here.

There is a danger in over valuating ones worth. This is just a little fetish forum on one little tiny corner of the web. If they ban me, and/or any/everyone else, it takes two seconds to find a million other places to "play". No sweat, no effort, no big deal. Don't care one bit. At all.
The only thing I would find amusing to know is that after the "SS" (snark sisters) bore everyone to the point of leaving, who will post anything? They never post anything original or of interest. They just sit like vultures waiting for some else to post something so they can cease and launch on it with their cute little girl efforts at "snark" while the rest of the cheerleaders chime and parrot in. Whatever.

Maybe today will be the lovely day that I will get banned and while one or two people have had witty and amusing replies, the most have just bored me to wanting to drink, so eithe bored or banned...getting out the ice cubes and Vodka. :)

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

You know how something should have been so painfully obvious...but you just didn't get it? Its like its slapping you in the face, but you could never quite grasp it....until now.

Earlier I logged in and ran to the kitchen to get something to eat. Not thinking about it being a weekend, and being naive, I get busy, come back a half hour later and my "in box" is just inundated with requests. Requests for cam sessions, for chat with Pay pal payments and tributes and offers of all kinds. Just a surprise and sort of overwhelming at first, and then it struck me.......

Having had a hiatus from CollarMe for a time, since returning I have been surprised by the rabid hostility of so many of the other women here. I mean its just shocking how the pettiness, the bitchiness, the catty remarks, the "lighthearted" insults and jabs.

I couldn't figure it out as I've never "met" any of them. Now I get it. :)

Some, maybe many, of "FemDoms" here, you know the ones that live here and have 20,000+ posts, are sitting around waiting for guys to offer them Pay Pal money for chats etc, lol. I never would have guessed that as I never knew you could even do that.

So, whenever an infrequent female visitor stops by, or a new attractive female joins, they see it as an incursion on their "turf", because they assume (incorrectly) that its just another charge by the minute Domme.

So listen Chickie/Dommes, you can back off. I don't cam. I don't do Pro-Domme stuff. I don't do charge for chat stuff. I have never done any of that and never will. I am not here to take away your "clients" and your few dollars for, ummm, cough, cough, "Domination" services.

Sorry that I caused you distress and perhaps made you worry how you would pay the rent. But seriously, I am not after your man, your men, your clients, your "business" ventures, lol, so you can calm down and rest easier. :)

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I believe in free speech (as mentioned) and if this sites Mods insist on censoring any and every post on a totally arbitrary and subjective basis, then fine, just go ahead and delete my profile

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ORIGINAL: JanahX

What I find strange is that you claim that you dont care about this, that and the other thing, but yet you take the time to read -evaluate- and participate to the point where your posts are a small novel. You also seem to know whom is talking about whom and where and why.

If you are so nonchalant about all of this, and you come across as though you are so above everyone and everything here, then why do you bother to come here and post in the first place? It seems to be a huge oxymoron.

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Original: VanessaChaland

Edit portion: Forgot to mention....before they delete my profile, make sure you go one more time to my photos to admire and lust over my perfect ass and yes, invite the Moderators to go with you, lol.

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Again with your ass. Like I mentioned, scrawny flanks and butts remind me of the stringy part of a chopped chicken. Nothing to admire or lust over. You repeatedly mention it so do you feel this is the best you have to offer? If you're on your way out, kindly take your ass discussion with you. It's tedious.

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And lastly, all of the attacks, all of them, were initiated by "Pro-Dommes" against me. So apparently its fine for them to launch it, but when you try to defend yourself, Ahhhhh, thats a problem. Whatever.

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If you are so nonchalant about all of this, and you come across as though you are so above everyone and everything here, then why do you bother to come here and post in the first place? It seems to be a huge oxymoron.

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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And lastly, all of the attacks, all of them, were initiated by "Pro-Dommes" against me. So apparently its fine for them to launch it, but when you try to defend yourself, Ahhhhh, thats a problem. Whatever.

well you accused me of attacking you and I am pretty sure I'm not a pro domme.