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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/29/2012 6:10:37 PM

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it can suck if you hit the cervix, but from the other perspective if done slow it's good pain

And you know this how, exactly? Do you have a vagina and has it had an overly-large cock in it?

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/29/2012 6:22:29 PM

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Most of the men I've been intimate with were average-sized, and (fortunately for me) awesome with what they had. Then I had sex with a much more well-endowed man, and it was kinda awful. It hurt in a not-so-good way, didn't get enough motion going, and just felt odd. I'm sure there are large guys out there who can rock it, but as as been answered, its way more important how its used than the size.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/29/2012 6:33:33 PM

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I feel sorry for those freak of nature huge guys, because most women are just not built to handle that.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/29/2012 6:49:13 PM

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Preach it sister. I once knew the most wonderful man in the world and his cock was to say the least large. All it ended up meaning was....no anal, no swallowing it all, and if he hammered it just hurt. Shame too because he really was a wonderful person. Most likely would have been with him longer if it hadn't been that large.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/29/2012 6:56:17 PM

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It's why the whole area of peen humiliation is Not For Me. Women can get tit jobs, but what's a man to do? They're pretty much stuck with whatever.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/29/2012 7:07:16 PM

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i think that sometimes their cock is only that size because there was a malfunction in the personality and cock size factory.

ROFL! Where's Sunny? This should be quote of the day.

Bigger usually results in pain. And not the kinky kind.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/29/2012 10:04:02 PM

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I don't like the "ouch dammit" size one bit. Gimme a size somewhat larger than "is it in?" who knows how to use it.

Since I have a lot of scar tissue, a wider girth is very difficult to manage. If my boy had dropped his pants at our first meetup I would have told him hell no, because for me he is "ouch dammit!" I am NOT in the least bit masochistic, so this is causing problems for me. Unfortunately my gyn has more of a sense of humor than...and can only see the funny side of all of this.

Anyway, when I was searching through the men who sent me letters...the ones who had dick pix in their profile were eliminated if they were hung like a horse or had too large of a circumference. Years of celibacy made my boy's penis shrink up and permanently lose about two inches, so I am thankful he is only an average six inches instead of his former eight. If only I could do something about the damned girth other than cross my legs and say hell no, not tonight.

I guess I will never get the fascination some have for big dicks. Whenever I see one, I think "Ring Toss" with plastic O's that are kept in the refrigerator or freezer, yanno? My boy saw a pic someone put into his sister's mailbox and came down with a bad case of penis envy for about an hour. Sheesh. I cannot handle what he's already got and yet he wants to be, like that guy, something like 14-16 inches.

Guys with a small to average sized penis are more fun than guys who are way too hung, in my experience. (Unless they are obsessed with having a "small" penis and then they can be a royal pain.) The motion of the ocean is great. ;) Larger guys are often...lacking in foreplay skills. There is a difference between working to wow a girl's sox off sexually, and another guy who thinks foreplay is...unzipping, so that she can gaze in wonderment over his ginormous tallywhacker, lol.

IF I had ever gotten into cuckolding, I'd be the type to lock up in chastity the well hung guy, choosing to have loud noisy sex with guys of a more comfortable size.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 12:04:48 AM

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To me, seven inches is well hung, so I don't know if people were thinking huge or something but by endowed I pretty much mean a minimum seven and girthy.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 1:33:32 AM

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My preference used to be a slightly above average but not too large guy. But after my pregnancy I developed interstitial cystitis (chronic bladder inflammation) and nowadays even an average sized cock can trigger an up flaring of the disease that can leave me in severe pain for weeks. My husband is large enough that certain positions are just plain impossible for me with him (like doggie style, which I love) so it's taken some creative work on both our parts to find a way that fits for both of us.

To for me the answer to the topic question is: downright unpleasant and borderline unbearable painful.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 1:46:45 AM

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If the guy is too well-endowed, it can actually be painful. I prefer someone average-sized. And I don't get the cuckolding thing, either.

I so agree, unless you're so cavernous that you got your own echo (or possibly an octo-mom) size really doesn't matter as much as the guy attached to the penis, and if you're doing your kegel exercises, no guy will feel that he has to fill the Royal Albert Hall on his own.

Of course if it's either in or out, it's too small, but the bigger is better thing - err well, nope, I don't like my cervix being banged. Having had the pleasure of some well equipped boyfriends, I prefer a regular size, you don't want to squeal in the middle of passion "Ouch, awww, take care" - a bit of a mood killer, and the cramps aren't that great.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 1:56:05 AM

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My preference used to be a slightly above average but not too large guy. But after my pregnancy I developed interstitial cystitis (chronic bladder inflammation) and nowadays even an average sized cock can trigger an up flaring of the disease that can leave me in severe pain for weeks. My husband is large enough that certain positions are just plain impossible for me with him (like doggie style, which I love) so it's taken some creative work on both our parts to find a way that fits for both of us.

To for me the answer to the topic question is: downright unpleasant and borderline unbearable painful.

I'm really sorry to hear that it's become unpleasant - :( - I hope that condition will go away. Weeks? With a little luck it will be something that's able to be controlled after a while.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 2:12:54 AM

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I think its interesting that not one woman who replied said anything positive about well endowed men. It makes me academically curious about what that may portend.

Could it be the case that women who are less than thrilled by an above average size are more likely to respond?

In trying to understand what this issue really means in my lifestyle I often feel like no matter how far I stick my own neck out, there is always this stigma about the subjective but statistical truth of the matter. Ask a hundred women, perhaps there may be a tendency to give a 'rubber-stamp' answer because its kinder, easier, less bothersome; also there is to my mind the more important tendency to want to keep details private - so a person should only ask to know what another person is willing to share of their own volition.

Say the guy is great - its not about the penis its about the guy; and he's funny, sweet, caring, strong, in good shape, well groomed, and affectionate; the time is really romantic and maybe by the third date things go all the way. The way a lady feels about a guy a lot of the time defines the whole experience; but the raw material of the man is still a big part of it. If everything about the guy is great and he is average (average to a cuckold is about 5' and not too thin), but he is really attentive, makes her feel loved - its a really beautiful evening; nothing to complain about. But if the night is exactly the same and he is not freakishly huge but noticibly wider and just a tad longer, harder, and he's still sweet and attentive but when she wants to feel intensity he can give her that intensity, and he is just wide enough that her muscles can tighten like a fist around him and feel every single movement - her feelings would be amplified.

I don't go for forums a lot but when I do I like to talk, maybe I should have put it this way in the first post maybe I'll add it up there for good measure, but being a cuckold and submissive is all about understanding what makes a woman tick and being ready to act on what you learn to please her.

The reason I realize I'm still curious is that I feel the stigmas in thi world are an impediment to me and all good cuckolds. Because we somewhat revere women, because we thrive by putting aside what our wants are, its important to understand what a woman really feels. In a cuckold relationship a woman will tell you but as a cuckold you know much of how she says it is designed to have an effect on you just as much as it is to tell you; and a guy just starts to wonder - what's it really like.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 2:27:15 AM

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Certain women who have had good experiences with above average/well endowed men tend to be able to read between the lines when it comes to certain kinks.

So, since I haven't read the thread, maybe you can cut to the chase on something for Me. How long were you actually a cuckold? I don't mean that you wanted to be, but it wasn't an actual component of a past D/s dynamic you may have had. I mean, very specifically, how long was cuckolding an active part of the life you were living.

As someone who has owned a cuck, Myself, I'm exceptionally surprised that such subjects were not discussed, considering you have such a curiosity about it.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 2:29:52 AM

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My preference used to be a slightly above average but not too large guy. But after my pregnancy I developed interstitial cystitis (chronic bladder inflammation) and nowadays even an average sized cock can trigger an up flaring of the disease that can leave me in severe pain for weeks. My husband is large enough that certain positions are just plain impossible for me with him (like doggie style, which I love) so it's taken some creative work on both our parts to find a way that fits for both of us.

To for me the answer to the topic question is: downright unpleasant and borderline unbearable painful.

I'm really sorry to hear that it's become unpleasant - :( - I hope that condition will go away. Weeks? With a little luck it will be something that's able to be controlled after a while.

Thanks.

And yes weeks. If I get a severe episode, the inflammation causes such bad swelling that I have pressure on the nerves going to my legs that cause a stabbing pain from my lower back to my ankles that get progressively worse throughout the day until I'm unable to walk, and can barely even sit. Considering that leg-pain is actually my worst symptom, and considering that I also have an old ankle injury that never properly healed, it took quite a while to diagnose what the exact problem was (who thinks of their bladder when they can't walk due to leg-pain???) The condition is chronic, and currently incurable, though there are ways to minimize the chance of episodes. It seems to get progressively worse as I get older, which my doctor informs me is typical, and also that I've probably not even hit the worse of it yet. So yeah for that!

Medication hasn't helped, but there does seem to be a strong correlation between my food and the episodes (no artificial sweeteners anymore for me... probably no garlic either but not sure yet about that one) and sex. Certain sexual positions will cause too much pressure on my bladder and apparently cause hairline tears that will trigger an inflammation episode that then takes several weeks of attentive case to repress again. Seeing that the sex in and of itself doesn't actually necessarily hurt at the time, it took a long time to figure out that there even was a correlation.

During an episode sex is totally out of the question, hell during episodes I'm so sensitive to pressure on my bladder that I can't even wear pants because of the waste band being too much too bear. Unfortunately for my husband, the increase of my wearing skirts and dresses at such times doesn't seem to help to enforce the idea that sex isn't at all likely to happen.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 2:38:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Certain women who have had good experiences with above average/well endowed men tend to be able to read between the lines when it comes to certain kinks.

So, since I haven't read the thread, maybe you can cut to the chase on something for Me. How long were you actually a cuckold? I don't mean that you wanted to be, but it wasn't an actual component of a past D/s dynamic you may have had. I mean, very specifically, how long was cuckolding an active part of the life you were living.

As someone who has owned a cuck, Myself, I'm exceptionally surprised that such subjects were not discussed, considering you have such a curiosity about it.

I'd be glad to tell you anything but I'd request you please don't single me out for ridicule just because I ask a question.

In this lifestyle BDSM we are always hearing 'you don't have to be stuck hiding what you really feel'; for dominant men, submissive women, dominant women thats just fine and wonderful; for some reason whenever a submissive man has a question suddenly he ought to be questioned because obviously there is nothing wrong with being a male submissive except when you present yourself to the rest of the BDSM community that is supposed to support you, thanks.

Read between the lines? You haven't even caught the details - you're asking me a question about whether I've had this discussion with my Domme while cuckolding was actively happening; right above your post is the answer. You have a question thats fine, I have a question I deserve to be chewed up and scared away. One would almost think all this inclusiveness talk in fashion lately about our lifestyle is a load of hooey if you're not a dominant man or woman, or submissive female.

I have been an *active* cuckold during every relationship I have had since 2002, so four women and about thirty bulls, except when I was single I was always an active cuckold, and I will be again.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 2:43:26 AM

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Ishtarr I'm really sorry before I edit-added the above quote I hope that post didn't appear to be a direct response to your post when I was out of context.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 2:48:38 AM

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Not at all.

You can usually see to which post a person has responded by looking in the bottom right corner of a post.
This is unless they use a "fast reply" or "FR", which is basically a reply typed into the little box at the bottom of each page, instead of a post typed into the pop-up screen you get when you click "reply". Fast replies get linked to the last other post that was made in the thread, but even with a fast reply, people can usually tell who you're replying to due to the context of a post.
If you think things may be unclear using the "reply" button or putting in a quote is always advisable.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 3:03:19 AM

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So in that ten years, except for the periods where you were single, this never came up? You had four women with whom you shared this particular kink, who were all adding their own particular blend of other kinks that match so well with it, and you are still coming away with that question?

I'm just surprised at the seemingly complete lack of communication on any level for you not to know.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 3:10:44 AM

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So in that ten years, except for the periods where you were single, this never came up? You had four women with whom you shared this particular kink, who were all adding their own particular blend of other kinks that match so well with it, and you are still coming away with that question?

I'm just surprised at the seemingly complete lack of communication on any level for you not to know.

Why are you picking on me :( I answered your question before you even posted it, right before your first post. The answer is that its something a cuckoldress and a cuckold talk about all the time; but the answer doesn't seem any less mysterious or profound to me, in many ways because my ability to understand the answer grows deeper with every passing year, in many ways because the truth of the answer is colored by the relationship in that lifestyle, and because a lot of times the way a woman expresses this to you in a relationship is designed at least as much to have a certain affect on the cuckold, as it is to convey what she actually feels; and because sometimes you can know someone so well that you almost overlook things because such a woman can feel like an extension of yourself.

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RE: Off topic as it gets: What is it like to sleep with... - 4/30/2012 3:26:45 AM

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A fellow once told me his size and I nearly fainted. Then I realized he was speaking in centimeters and not inches... then I did the conversion... and STILL nearly fainted.

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