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BitaTruble -> RE: Just signed up (5/14/2012 3:06:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: GenDomThomas
I am like a sponge in the desert waiting for drops of wisdom.
The next time your wife gets out of the shower, go up behind her, nibble the back of her neck and whisper in her ear, "Hey babe (insert your personal term of endearment here) ... do me a favor after you're dried off, will ya.. and make me a sandwich?"
Then swat her lightly on the butt, chuckle and walk away 'expecting' to get your sandwich.
If she asks you what kind of sandwich.. that's a win. The key fits the ignition so you can go ahead and start the car.
If she knows you well enough to just make you a sandwich that she knows you'll like.. that's a win. Keep doing what you're doing to get what you want. That simply means, be the dom. Nothing too complex.. the cliche is .. this ain't rocket science and that's a truth.
If she tells you to make your own sandwich.. that, Thomas, is an opportunity and what you do with that opportunity is up to you. What would happen if she said no and you took your hands and placed them gently on either side of her face.. looked deep into her eyes and said, "Baby.. we've have been together for X years. I love you, I love our life together and I would really, really like you to make me a sandwich, please. Right now that's a request."
Then you take your hand from the side of her face, and go under her hair to the nape of her neck, tangle your fingers into her hair as you run your hand up the back of her head and tug it slightly, then whisper to her, "If necessary, it will become a command."
One of three things will happen.. you will have a puddle in your hands, she'll slap you or she'll ask you what the hell is wrong with you which opens a dialogue.
If it's a puddle, that's a win, dude.. that's the prize you seek. Submission to your dominant action. Everything else is icing on the cake and you can tweak that to your hearts content.
Opening a dialogue is a win. Talk your case, openly, honestly. Give the the 'choice' to say yes or no to mutual exploration. Be brutal to yourself, transparent in what you seek and allow her the safe space to do that as well. Encourage her to share her thoughts and feelings about the interaction which took place and encourage and respect her opinion and feelings. Give her 'your' book so that she can open it to the page you're on and see if it's not something that can strengthen what you already have and maybe take it to places you didn't know existed.
If it's a slap.. chuckle and just walk away and consider it a start then when the next opportunity presents itself, keep her confused, off-balance and not quite sure of what you're doing or where you are going with it all.. there is little which can drive some women as crazy as not knowing her man as well as she thinks she does and that.. that can be very intriguing.
You are someone who has talked and talked, and at this point a little 'do' seems to be in order and who better to 'do' with than the person whose hand you're holding as you walk down the road during the twilight. You want to be a dom, Thomas.. be in charge. Keep your house in order and your woman in line and realize that if that doesn't work, how much of a dom are you when you have to slave to discretion instead of master your own destiny? That's rhetorical and my suggestions are only that, suggestions but who knows what could happen if you followed some similar line.
Be brave. Brave is sexy.
Best of luck, welcome to the boards and all that jazz.
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