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DMFParadox -> RE: A Honest Opinion Please (10/1/2007 5:01:49 AM)
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GRAH! The misconceptions are overwhelming me. Some things we do are for survival; some things we do are "symbiotic," cultural quirks that allow the group to survive and prosper, and by association, ensures our own survival. But...
EVERYTHING ELSE IS ABOUT SEX.
If you can't attract a mate, produce offspring, protect them, provide for them, and create protective attractive providers as offspring, then YOUR GENES WILL BE WEEDED OUT. Mama Nature is relentlessly, overwhelmingly inflexible on that point. And the qualities that make for a surpassingly excellent Dom or sub, are--coincidentally--the qualities that make for a surpassingly sexual, survivalist, socially savvy animal. Slightly kinked, bent through circumstance, but all the more powerful a signal because of it. Women and men have different strategies for looking past surface failures or inconsistencies to find deeper harmony--or in some cases, disharmony--in the mates they seek.
And this girl may never realize it, but she wants to be caged because she wants to find a man that can cage her. If the man can cage her, excite her, confuse her, and overwhelm her, then he is prime snogging material and she will helplessly desire him. It's that simple. The specific circumstances may vary, but the ultimate goal is always the same: Prove You're Sexy. The same goes for the men that want to find a woman that can cage them. THEY ARE LOOKING FOR PROOF. The surface reasons are sadness, loneliness, happiness, kinkiness.... but the underlying reason is, "show me what you can do." The emotions we feel are designed to prod us to find smarter, meaner, faster, more talented, healthier mates and then fuck the daylights out of them.
Sometimes, yes, the wiring is so indirectly leading to this goal that it looks like a 'mistake' (but isn't) from a sexually oriented genetic standpoint; an example is a man that is completely gay and hates women. You know what Nature has in store for him? Assume for the moment that he lives in modern society. He may or may not find love, adopt children, and contribute art, science, or hard work into society as a whole. No harm, no foul; he has a good life, and his relatives will probably carry enough of the gene forward that it balances out. But consider... if he lived in a female-dominant enclave, where the women bartered for men, and by resisting the process, by his very nature of not wanting any woman at all, he is creating such a high value for himself that he gets the best woman possible, and more, if she is able to bear children by him despite his unwillingness, that's a pretty freaking impressive feat. Even by mama Ge's standards. Crazy idea, yeah? It's one of millions of possibilities. But Nature is the ultimate packrat. She keeps survival strategies for every forseeable situation, and she works on infinitely deep levels. It ties into paradox at this point of evaluation.
Despite the paradox loops at the fringe, the core game is pretty clear-cut: Want sex, be sexy, and be able to prove it under difficult circumstances. If you think you're acting for 'nobler' reasons, not only are you misguided about yourself, you're mistaken about what constitutes a noble reason. But that's just one more sexual strategy--the bait and switch. So feel free to continue, if it's working for you.
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