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captivebeast2 -> My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 6:25:51 AM)

I am having a difficult time meeting a perspective Mistress. I am asking the Dominant community to please critique it. I know I have no photo posted but that is due to career. But with each message I send a photo is attached. I would appreciate the help.



RumpusParable -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 9:24:00 AM)

I think it's pretty good but needs to be corrected on spelling in a couple places.



Delilya -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 10:54:50 AM)

It works for me, but then again I am not a profile specialist.



kalikshama -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 12:12:10 PM)

Many women object to be calling girls and I imagine this would be especially true for Dommes.

I'd make your profile more well rounded. What do you do when you're not kneeling at Her feet?

It's good that you send pics with emails, but there are many ways to anonymize a pic, such as placing a big blue square over your face. Perhaps Rochsub will be along to model it.

Even with profile tweaks, the odds of meeting someone online are not in your favor. Can you go to munches? There are lots of kinky people in NJ - maybe you'll meet a coworker at an event ;)

M ran into his god parents at a swinger's party [:)]



hangemhigh1953 -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 12:17:31 PM)

It tells what you are like as a submissive, but it doesn't say what you're like as a person.



kalikshama -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 12:19:16 PM)

That's what I was trying to say!



MistressDarkArt -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 1:01:30 PM)

Ditto the reference to "girl". 'Woman' would be the correct term. Also, I'd change 'alcoholic beverage' to 'beverage of your choice'. Not everyone drinks alcohol. Lastly, is the 'nonexistent sexuality' really true? I have a hard time believing that and being a eunuch shouldn't be necessary for finding someone wonderful. I think you're trying to emphasize 'whatever brings you pleasure is what I'd like to provide."

Punctuation/spelling edits as follows:

To look at me in public, one would not believe...

Some people are born to Master and be served, others to serve.

And lastly, 'v a i n', not 'vane'. However, I would leave that term out altogether and just focus on your commitment to stay in shape.

I agree online can be very unforgiving for male submissives. If you can possibly connect with your community, you would greatly improve your chances. In the meantime, polish up your profile and keep at it. My male submissive partners can tell you...CM works. That's how we found each other. Good luck in your search!



LittleMsMary -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 4:55:02 PM)

I agree with the prior comments. It tells us a bit about you as a sub but not as an actual person. It's cool that you're putting a lot of the focus on your prospective partner and everything, but at the end of the day you're also a person with interests, hobbies, likes etc. By not saying anything about those you are leaving a very unfinished picture and considering the ratio of sub men to Dommes here, anything you do that kind of shortchanges you REALLY hurts.

Best of luck in your search!



Alecta -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 5:16:49 PM)

Also, what kind of Dommes are you asking?
It doesn't seem like there's anything wrong in particular with your profile besides the nitgrit. It's entirely possible that you're asking the kind of woman who isn't interested in the kind of sub you are?



Baroana -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 6:56:20 PM)

People here have said many things I strongly agree with. There probably are not a tremendous amount of eligible, local dominant women on this site, so you should find a munch. Those women online who appeal to you are likely to be turned off by many things in your profile. While I give you credit for having a better profile than most, you misspell some common words. That makes you seem unintelligent. Additionally, as others have said, you rapidly lose points by referring to women as girls.

Be advised that lips don't kneel. Moreover, vanity is often considered a negative trait in people, and it tends to be found alongside its cousins, shallowness and superficiality.

You also really oversell the submissive aspect of yourself. You make it appear as though you are a roboslave with no personality. You even go as far as to say that your sexuality "doesn't exist." That's rather unattractive to think about.

Speaking of things that are not good selling points, you must realize that your profile isn't a Carfax. The number of owners you have had is not inversely proportional to your value.

I also agree that you should not assume that every dominant woman wants to drink alcohol at the end of every day. This, along with some other things you say in your profile, is disturbingly reminiscent of femdom porn.



ElanSubdued -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/7/2012 9:41:57 PM)

captivebeast2,

Regarding your profile, when I strip away the BDSM fanfare, I get the following.  You:

- Have a great sense of humor
- Are articulate
- Have a degree
- Are assertive in vanilla life
- Have a career
- Like to stay in shape
- Are a great cook
- Enjoy Musical Theater
- Lift weights and do martial arts
- Like to travel
- Enjoy Museums
- Have a taste for fine dining

I recommend expanding from this list as these details are generally more interesting and attractive to a *woman* (note intentional emphasis on the word "woman" and intentional removal of the word "dominant") than saccharine pronouncements of service and slavery.  It's okay to mention the type of BDSM relationship dynamics you seek, but avoid too much detail on BDSM.



AngelOfSilence -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/8/2012 3:31:03 PM)

Your lips kneel? That alone would spark my interest.



Soyokaze -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/8/2012 3:33:17 PM)

So since this is a thread on profile quality could I ninja opinions on mine? I'm actually just curious since I'm not actively looking for anyone.



Zensualista -> RE: My profile-good or bad (5/12/2012 8:12:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt
Punctuation/spelling edits as follows:

To look at me in public, one would not believe...

Some people are born to Master and be served, others to serve.

And lastly, 'v a i n', not 'vane'. However, I would leave that term out altogether and just focus on your commitment to stay in shape.



Also "Ladyl's feet" needs to be spelled correctly. What I take away from reading it is that you're doing a lot of telling, but not a lot of showing. For example you say you have a lot to offs to a Lady of Dominance. What do you have to offer and why?



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