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Thaz -> Should I add reading lists to my list (5/8/2012 2:20:55 PM)

Is this one just me?

Its been a long while since I had a sub fill out a list of preferences and limits...however recently I've had occasion to ask for 2 or 3. Replies came back. Oh my. Its like a mental striptease. Or kinky Bingo. This may have to go on _my_ list in future.......



MadameM4U -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/8/2012 2:32:58 PM)

This is not "just you". I enjoy reading the lists as well and imagining the possibilities . . . .



AngelOfSilence -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/8/2012 3:18:03 PM)

I like to fill them out wrong.



DesFIP -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/8/2012 6:13:33 PM)

ROFL



littlewonder -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/8/2012 6:27:23 PM)

eehh....some find them fun or exciting. Lists from a Dom just bore me and says he only works from a list instead of from his imagination, the moment, the environment, the mood. For me, what I like with one person isn't what I like with another. I evolve with each one.



Kana -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/8/2012 8:35:17 PM)

I don't like acts-I like her...which is why I enjoy doing things to her.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/9/2012 12:53:57 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

I don't like acts-I like her...which is why I enjoy doing things to her.


I agree with this (from the sub side of the equation).

That said, Kinky Bingo sounds fun. Anyone up for a game?



Thaz -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/9/2012 8:55:17 AM)

I agree with a lot of the comments above. For me its really a start of the conversation. I'm mostly after where any hard limits are and anything the sub currently knows is a real turn on. I would hope to expand on that of course.....normally I'd prefer to have long chats over a coffee but in these cases that wasnt possible. And of course sometimes a Dom can lead a conversation and pressure a prospective sub into something they do wanna or result in them going elsewhere.

But its the element of Kinky Bingo I really like....there are two or three 'must haves' and probably the same number of turn offs and finding they all match is enough to raise a smile. :-)



Buzzzz -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/9/2012 5:23:37 PM)

I used to have her fill it out and yes, mucho hard on material . Like : check , oh really , she likes that a lot , then mmmmmmmm , and so on.

Don't know why , but I stopped doing it. Maybe because I am not interested in the act anymore, and more leaning towards the connection during the act?



DarkDreems -> RE: Should I add reading lists to my list (5/10/2012 5:23:34 AM)

Figuring out likes and limits may make more sense for somebody just getting into the lifestyle. I haven't been at this myself all that long, and even so I'll get temporarily-enthusiastic newcomers crossing my radar, particularly with younger subs, but its clear they haven't yet really thought enough about what they might be getting into. I care less about what is on the list, more that they are capable of engaging their brain about the decisions they need to make, in order to have a rewarding and safe experience. If they aren't able to do that, I use it as an indication that they probably aren't a match for me. A couple of times, I've had the "you aren't ready for this" conversation. Sometimes all they want is a quick kink fix. Sometimes they have some serious personal challenges. Either way, no thought = not my playmate. That's just my view... I think fetish lists are what you decide to make of them, not so much what their content is.



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