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DesFIP -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 8:15:00 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Boudica
A sub contacted me whom I'd heard of and who had a good rep. So I started chatting with him for a few weeks, we met and sparks flew...all was well, but then he wouldn't do a journal entry that I ordered him to do. I punished him by denying him My company for 48 hours, my sop. Well, while he was on probation, a couple of Dommes contacted me to let me know that he was catting around contacting other Dommes behind my back.



I'd have considered you out of line for ordering me to do anything prior to me agreeing to commit to you. If you folks were still in a probationary period, then you were out of line by assuming he was going to commit to you.

Until he consented, you're just some other chick. Not his dominant.



NuevaVida -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 8:22:37 AM)

~ Fast Reply ~

If you've only been on here a few days and he's saying he's talking to other doms about you, and knows your name, I'd guess you've already talked to him, under a different name of his and he's just toying with you. He knows your name because you unknowingly gave it to him. If he's not willing to tell you *who* he was talking to about you, and being evasive about it, I'd wish him well and move on. No time for games.

And I agree with Des, if the Mister had ordered me stuff within a few weeks of chatting (no meeting yet, no actual established relationship yet), I'd have said "Thanks but no thanks" if he thought he'd punish me for something.



spinspinsugar -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 9:00:05 AM)

yeah thats what I did when he wouldnt tell me who said it, or what was said..

im not too bothered ive got nothing to hide i just thought it was pretty lame and loserish imo lol




Boudica -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 10:39:44 AM)

Just for clarification, we had met in real life.

He was already starting to follow my orders, else I wouldn't have given him one, much less expected him to obey. We were in the early stages, granted. He also had the right to say "no" and never did.



BurntKitty -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 11:16:35 AM)

~FR~ Just a possibility:
You were chatting with dominant A. Gave him your phone number. He searched it & found your name.
He then made a new profile as dominant B.

I can't answer for northeast Fla, but down here in the SE, when I was looking for a play partner (non sex, just pain play in the dungeon) I insisted on meeting at the munch, getting to know the person, then going to the play party together. That was my 'support system'. However...ymmv.




Lockit -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 11:46:57 AM)

You may not be being talked about at all! There are a number of men and I know they are not just one man. They find a new profile or a young woman and play their games with her. It for the most part isn't an organized attempt to sort out fakes or anything else. These men will tell the young lady that she is being accused of something. Being a fake, or under age... you get the picture. They then state that they all are reporting her and warning others about her. It is typically one man trying to get a feel good with some good cam or phone action. Some of these ladies do it! Many complain about it and make comments on it. I tend to tell them to block and about this great online scam, intimidation and bullying of some fruit cakes out looking for some milk and honey. Block and report.

Then there are those self appointed protectors of this site and anything BDSM. They list names of people that I have even known and helped her get that stopped. They feel it difficult to see or know a fake when you see or meet one and they must be the knight protectors of anyone stupid. They make lists everywhere, but most are seen eventually for the scum butts they are. Those that can't see a scam or play into whiny dom's that can't run their own lives much less anyone elses... are slow on the uptake when it comes to seeing the scam reporter is more a fake and scam than the ones they are afraid of.

Live your life, don't worry about these idiots.



littlewonder -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 10:14:29 PM)

People gossip. In real life and shockingly online. I know....hard to believe huh?

It's possible one was talking to another about you. It may also just be a boldfaced lie by a troll to rile you up which he's obviously done and he's laughing his ass off right now knowing he won.

Why not just shrug it off and block him if you don't like him? It's a simple solution.



LanceHughes -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 10:38:43 PM)

AHEM......
I want the name of the person keeping the list of good gay male subs.
Contact me on other side.

Seriously, spinspinsugar, are you in a circle of subs, passing info about Doms?  No?  That's because there is no such thing, one way or the other.

You can "get back at him."  How? Easy, peasy.... Look at his "friends" list and contact any / all of them with same question you use as your OP. (Original Post.)  He has no "friends," you say?  What about his "Date Joined"? All looks like a sock puppet?  Probably IS!!!



Kana -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 10:55:34 PM)

It's been my experience that some domme's tend to talk to each other, be pretty good about exchanging info, but I've almost never heard of male doms doing it (Which most likely has lots more to do with the M/F thing than any BDSM type thing.)



LadyPact -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/11/2012 11:04:14 PM)

I'm thinking a combination of reverse listing and/or multiple profiles.

With that said, I will fully admit that in trading emails back and forth with certain members of this site, there are times that a name of a third party may come up in a conversation.  It may be an inquiry about if I know the person away from the site or it could be as simple as using that person's name to discuss a thread that they started.  (In the latter case, we're more likely discussing the concept of the thread, rather than the person.  It's simply a matter of reference to say that person's name, rather than the thread title.)

Anybody who has only been here a few days isn't going to pull that kind of attention.  Don't let the number of emails in your inbox during your fresh meat period allow you to think otherwise.



Buzzzz -> RE: Question - Dom mailing list? (5/12/2012 5:16:45 AM)

Some people like to live their lives in drama . If it isn't your style (as it appears to me) , ignore and move on to better things

Btw, my own number is 1-800-1FA-TDOM



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