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Flame73 -> Fetish, obsession or voyueristic tendancy? (6/5/2006 8:57:55 PM)

Fetish: an object or act whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification.
 
obsession: a persistant disturbing preoccupation with a feeling, idea, or emotion.
 
voyeur:  a person  who habitually seeks sexual stimulation by visual means
 
Now I know there's a millon kinds of kink freaks on this site, from the seasoned veteran who's tasted everything twice, to the new unblemished bottoms just begging for welts. I happen to consider Myself reasonably educated in most fetishes. I have been in the lifestyle for 15 years, had the opportunity to scene on two continents, and have formed a great many meaningful D/s based associations. But apparantly I am misinformed.
 
I was rudely told off by a man that admitted to only ever playing online that cuckholding is a fetish and not a voyeuristic tendancy as I implied. Now I have known and befriended quite a few Mistress' with cucks. They all admitted that the desire to be cuckholded was seated in a voyeuristic desire to see another man please a woman while being an object of degredation and scorn.  It was not the sole means this sub/slave male recieved gratification, in fact it played such a minor role as to be trivial by most  Mistress' opinion.So by definition this is a voyeristic obsession, not a fetish.
 
So I am looking for some other opinions here, what do You think? I know opinions are a dime a dozen, so I'm taping My $20 to the wall.[sm=crop.gif]



OhBeMyMind -> RE: Fetish, obsession or voyueristic tendancy? (6/5/2006 9:02:57 PM)

Guess first of all you have to consider the source.....someone who has only played online.
I say it can be either/or.  All boils down to how any specific person personally defines it.

~takes $20 from wall~  Finders keepers.



PrincessinLatex -> RE: Fetish, obsession or voyueristic tendancy? (6/5/2006 9:03:42 PM)

It can be both. Some cucks *need* to see/be involved in the "deed." Others are just "satisfied" in the knowledge that his Mistress/Lover is out having relations with other men. Fetishes/kinks are rarely black or white.

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juliaoceania -> RE: Fetish, obsession or voyueristic tendancy? (6/5/2006 9:04:14 PM)

Like you I learned in my early 20s that a fetish was as you defined, an object or act that is necessary for sexual gratification. I have been involved with only one person with a fetish, and they are not really common from what I know. I think people use the term fetish rather loosely. As far as the online wanker.. what can I say... everyone thinks they're an expert. I think I heard this definition reading Kinesy, but I do not remember where I heard it exactly.



PrincessinLatex -> RE: Fetish, obsession or voyueristic tendancy? (6/5/2006 9:08:24 PM)

5 entries found for fetish.



fet·ish also fet·ich   [image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/JPG/pron.jpg[/image] ( P )  Pronunciation Key  (f[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/ebreve.gif[/image]t[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/prime.gif[/image][image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/ibreve.gif[/image]sh, f[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/emacr.gif[/image][image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/prime.gif[/image]t[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/ibreve.gif[/image]sh)
n.
  1. An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
  2. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
  3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
  4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.

I think that those "loose" interpretations of the word *fetish* are also valid.

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juliaoceania -> RE: Fetish, obsession or voyueristic tendancy? (6/5/2006 9:18:32 PM)

Im NOT an expert,...smiles. I am just saying I have only been with one person with a fixation for a nonsexual object that the presense of this object was necessary for his gratification. Loose interpretations of the word are no skin off my nose...smiles



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Fetish, obsession or voyueristic tendancy? (6/6/2006 5:50:22 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
Like you I learned in my early 20s that a fetish was as you defined, an object or act that is necessary for sexual gratification. I have been involved with only one person with a fetish, and they are not really common from what I know. I think people use the term fetish rather loosely.

Ditto what she said.



Slipstreme -> RE: Fetish, obsession or voyueristic tendancy? (6/6/2006 6:00:23 PM)

I know mine is an obsession bordering on fetish, as per juilaoceana's post.



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