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CougarRick -> HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 8:27:46 PM)
OK, this is very new to me, I have only recently started looking at sights like this. I have an obsession with older women, and love the idea of being taken by one. I could not imagine losing my virginity to a girl my age and beleive it or not, even though I do well with girls and have fooled around I have made a conscious choice to refrain from crossing the line to actual penetration. I don't actually think I will meet one here, but would love advice from any older ladies as to how a young guy who is still a student can get an older woman to agree to be his first. How would I broach the topic?

BurntKitty -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 8:33:31 PM)
Welcome to CM. You might want to add some vanilla interests in your profile if you're looking for an actual relationship with a woman. For instance, what do you enjoy doing outside of the bedroom? What non kink qualities do you bring to the table? Otherwise it appears you're only looking for a fetish delivery system. If that's the case, try an escort.

CougarRick -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 9:55:45 PM)
THank you, just did. Not neccesarily looking for a relationship, not neccessarily looking for a "fetish delivery system". I'm young, and curious about older women. I doubt that I will actually meet anyone on this site anyway, but I would love to hear the opinions of some ladies on younger guys, just to get an idea how a guy as young as me might approach women in their 30's or even 40's without them feeling weirded out by the age gap. quote: ORIGINAL: BurntKitty Welcome to CM. You might want to add some vanilla interests in your profile if you're looking for an actual relationship with a woman. For instance, what do you enjoy doing outside of the bedroom? What non kink qualities do you bring to the table? Otherwise it appears you're only looking for a fetish delivery system. If that's the case, try an escort.

masmiss -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 10:39:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CougarRick THank you, just did. Not neccesarily looking for a relationship, not neccessarily looking for a "fetish delivery system". I'm young, and curious about older women. I doubt that I will actually meet anyone on this site anyway, but I would love to hear the opinions of some ladies on younger guys, just to get an idea how a guy as young as me might approach women in their 30's or even 40's without them feeling weirded out by the age gap. quote: ORIGINAL: BurntKitty Welcome to CM. You might want to add some vanilla interests in your profile if you're looking for an actual relationship with a woman. For instance, what do you enjoy doing outside of the bedroom? What non kink qualities do you bring to the table? Otherwise it appears you're only looking for a fetish delivery system. If that's the case, try an escort. Um...yeah...you ARE looking for a fetish delivery system if, according to your profile, being taken by an older woman is a fantasy of yours. Listen to BurntKitty's advice and polish up your profile to include information about you and not just your teenage fantasy describing how sexy you think aging women are. Welcome to CM.

CougarRick -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 10:45:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: masmiss quote: ORIGINAL: CougarRick THank you, just did. Not neccesarily looking for a relationship, not neccessarily looking for a "fetish delivery system". I'm young, and curious about older women. I doubt that I will actually meet anyone on this site anyway, but I would love to hear the opinions of some ladies on younger guys, just to get an idea how a guy as young as me might approach women in their 30's or even 40's without them feeling weirded out by the age gap. quote: ORIGINAL: BurntKitty Welcome to CM. You might want to add some vanilla interests in your profile if you're looking for an actual relationship with a woman. For instance, what do you enjoy doing outside of the bedroom? What non kink qualities do you bring to the table? Otherwise it appears you're only looking for a fetish delivery system. If that's the case, try an escort. Um...yeah...you ARE looking for a fetish delivery system if, according to your profile, being taken by an older woman is a fantasy of yours. Listen to BurntKitty's advice and polish up your profile to include information about you and not just your teenage fantasy describing how sexy you think aging women are. Welcome to CM. I already adjusted the profile before I responded to her

CougarRick -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 10:47:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: masmiss quote: ORIGINAL: CougarRick THank you, just did. Not neccesarily looking for a relationship, not neccessarily looking for a "fetish delivery system". I'm young, and curious about older women. I doubt that I will actually meet anyone on this site anyway, but I would love to hear the opinions of some ladies on younger guys, just to get an idea how a guy as young as me might approach women in their 30's or even 40's without them feeling weirded out by the age gap. quote: ORIGINAL: BurntKitty Welcome to CM. You might want to add some vanilla interests in your profile if you're looking for an actual relationship with a woman. For instance, what do you enjoy doing outside of the bedroom? What non kink qualities do you bring to the table? Otherwise it appears you're only looking for a fetish delivery system. If that's the case, try an escort. Um...yeah...you ARE looking for a fetish delivery system if, according to your profile, being taken by an older woman is a fantasy of yours. Listen to BurntKitty's advice and polish up your profile to include information about you and not just your teenage fantasy describing how sexy you think aging women are. Welcome to CM. Look lady, I'm just here to explore and I mean no offense to anybody. If you aren't interested in talking to me then don't. I'm sorry my intro bothers you.

masmiss -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 11:18:10 PM)
quote: Look lady, I'm just here to explore and I mean no offense to anybody. If you aren't interested in talking to me then don't. I'm sorry my intro bothers you. Not offended at all, sugarplum. Here's a little advice: Thick skin is needed when posting on the forums. Heck, thick skin is needed when dealing with life!! [:D]

CougarRick -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 11:31:21 PM)
No worries, I'm not offended, Anyway, to clear things up, I looked around and saw the kinds of profiles people were posting and figured this place could deal with some frankness. I figured this would be a good place to chat and learn a bit about my fetishes. It's not exaclt normal for guys my age to be into dominant older women, so it's not something I generally discuss with my freinds. I figured I would chat with people here and get a better idea just how fucked up I was. Cheers quote: ORIGINAL: masmiss quote: Look lady, I'm just here to explore and I mean no offense to anybody. If you aren't interested in talking to me then don't. I'm sorry my intro bothers you. Not offended at all, sugarplum. Here's a little advice: Thick skin is needed when posting on the forums. Heck, thick skin is needed when dealing with life!! [:D]

LadyConstanze -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/12/2012 11:52:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CougarRick It's not exaclt normal for guys my age to be into dominant older women, so it's not something I generally discuss with my freinds. I figured I would chat with people here and get a better idea just how fucked up I was. You'd be surprised how many guys your age have that fantasy, do a search in the "Ask a Mistress" forum about younger subs, and most guys your age fantasize about an older woman showing them the ropes and teaching them a few tricks...

CougarRick -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 12:00:20 AM)
Thank you for your response. Despite having crossed you earlier, I appreciate the advice. Look, I am very new to these sites, and based on what I saw here, most peoples profiles just launched into their fantasies so I threw mine out there. I'm not actually trying to meet anyone here as there is no way of knowing who I'm actually dealing with, but I do want to come here to entertain the fantasy quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: CougarRick It's not exaclt normal for guys my age to be into dominant older women, so it's not something I generally discuss with my freinds. I figured I would chat with people here and get a better idea just how fucked up I was. You'd be surprised how many guys your age have that fantasy, do a search in the "Ask a Mistress" forum about younger subs, and most guys your age fantasize about an older woman showing them the ropes and teaching them a few tricks...

masmiss -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 12:06:41 AM)
quote: I figured I would chat with people here and get a better idea just how fucked up I was. You're hardly "fucked up". You're just different than your vanilla friends. Although I'd bet that they've had fantasies of being taken by an older, more experienced woman. Lots of young guys do. You could very well meet someone here if you remember that the dominant women here, any age, are women first. You have to get to know her and if there's chemistry...well, who knows? You might find a hot 30 or 40 something woman to indulge your fantasy because it might be a fantasy of hers to take a young boy!

LadyConstanze -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 12:13:29 AM)
I guess guys don't talk about this at that age, but most guys I know well enough to talk about stuff like first time and what they expected from it fess up that it was something that fantasized about... But to be honest, instead of waiting for a fantasy to happen, I would rather try to find somebody you're really into, it doesn't really matter what her age is. Maybe I'm hopelessly romantic but you know, kink is alright but sex with somebody you have very strong feelings for (to avoid the overused L word) is just so much better, especially if it's your first time - and who knows, maybe she will be the girl you experiment with and discover BDSM together...

masmiss -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 1:27:08 AM)
You can find what you want, OP. Just treat women you find attractive in a gentlemanly way. Offer to take her out for coffee or lunch at a funky cafe and talk about yourselves, as people, as kinksters. You'll do OK. You seem like a nice guy I hope you find what you want. Fee free to PM me if you want to talk. I already like you. :)

Delilya -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 5:17:02 AM)
Best of luck in your journey.

OohAahMrs -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 7:34:26 AM)
Welcome rick, what's the big deal about virginity? Are you afraid you might end up in a deep cavern, staring at a stalagmite?

ashjor911 -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 7:35:21 AM)
Welcome

CougarRick -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 3:26:05 PM)
Thank you for the advice. Cheers. quote: ORIGINAL: masmiss You can find what you want, OP. Just treat women you find attractive in a gentlemanly way. Offer to take her out for coffee or lunch at a funky cafe and talk about yourselves, as people, as kinksters. You'll do OK. You seem like a nice guy I hope you find what you want. Fee free to PM me if you want to talk. I already like you. :)

TNDommeK -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 7:30:09 PM)
Welcome to the forums, there is no frankness here, only snark. LOL have fun and good luck.

CougarRick -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 10:39:05 PM)
It's not just about having an older woman teach me the ropes, but I understand how it came across that way to you. I like the idea that she would be emotionally in control, and that I would have to earn her affection. Sure, the sex aspect is hot, but the idea of an older woman in control, has much greater emotional implications. I just assumed that nobody here would be interested in hearing about the emotional side of the fetish (jumped to conclusions based on the forst few profiles I saw) quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: CougarRick It's not exaclt normal for guys my age to be into dominant older women, so it's not something I generally discuss with my freinds. I figured I would chat with people here and get a better idea just how fucked up I was. You'd be surprised how many guys your age have that fantasy, do a search in the "Ask a Mistress" forum about younger subs, and most guys your age fantasize about an older woman showing them the ropes and teaching them a few tricks...

CougarRick -> RE: HI, fairly new to this (5/13/2012 10:49:37 PM)
I'm sorry, I don't understand. Can you please clarify? quote: ORIGINAL: OohAahMrs Welcome rick, what's the big deal about virginity? Are you afraid you might end up in a deep cavern, staring at a stalagmite?

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