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luxInferior -> Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 4:52:58 AM)

I've had a great interest in being branded for a long time.
I expressed this interest to my Mistress and she is all for it. We're just deciding what the brand should be, and we've already decided it's going on my ass.

Now, with something so permanent I've been giving this plenty of thought before taking the step. I'm in a relationship with my Mistress and have been for 2 1/2 years. There's a good chance we'll always be together but of course there's always a chance we won't be. So I'm considering the worst case scenario.

My question is, are there any subs out there who have been branded by their FORMER dominant and now regret having it?
The appeal to me is that it is something that cannot be removed no matter what happens, and I will always wear her mark forever more. But, perhaps I'm thinking with my dick here and the reality of breaking up and being left with an ex's brand wouldn't match the fantasy?
Is it akin to having your girlfriend's name tattoo'd on your ass? Or does the slave aspect put a different slant on things?

Maybe this question is too dependant on personal circumstances, but I'd like to hear about anyone's opinions nevertheless.

Thanks!



LadyPact -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 5:27:08 AM)

Have you considered a temp brand instead?  The experience is the same, but the mark only lasts anywhere from a few weeks to a few months, depending on the method you use and your natural skin tone.  On the positive side, your Mistress gets to enjoy branding you more than once, which is a completely awesome experience.  (OK, that's personal point of view there, since I was the brander and not the brandee.)

Oh, and I actually did tell My husband that I wouldn't marry him until he got the ex-wife's name that was tattooed on his arm covered up.  They were married for seventeen years, but I wouldn't agree to marry him unless it was gone.  Some women will care.



OsideGirl -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 7:17:45 AM)

Kinda sorta. I have a friend that is no longer into D/s. She's a wife and mother living in a small town in the Bible belt with a very obvious brand on her calf. She doesn't bother even bringing up the D/s part, but just the brand itself (in the context of body mods) is outside of what they understand.



peppermint -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 7:51:39 AM)

I like LP's idea about the temporary brand.  It'll give you both an idea about how it will look and if you both enjoy it. 

I have little experience with brands but do have a friend who had his wife's name tattooed on his arm after 29 years of marriage.  They were divorced at 30 years and he was left with that tattoo. 



littlewonder -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 7:54:32 AM)

Not permanent marks from the former Dom, no. But I do have tats that I got when I was young and dumb that I regret and will have them removed in the near future.

Now Master and I have been together for 6 years now and he's talked about branding me. If he did I trust him to place it somewhere inconspicuous unlike my tats. So that I would not regret. I have another tat that I won't remove because it's not someplace anyone can see and it has some deep meaning for me with my deceased husband. He's ok with the tat and understands the reasons.



NuevaVida -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 9:48:19 AM)

My ex had me tattooed when we were together. I was apprehensive but did it because he wanted it. I was of the mindset that even if we ever parted, it would be a reminder of our great relationship, who I was to him, and what I was able to achieve. "I will look at it fondly" is what I said.

When we parted I realized how full of shit those former thoughts were to me. I wanted to carve that damn thing off of me. Once I got over the hurt and anger, I just looked at it like a scar - a war wound, so to speak.

When I met my now- owner, he didn't like it either. We talked about removal, but that's expensive. We'be talked about changing it, but neither of us even like tattoos so finding something to change it to hasn't been successful just yet. Some day.

In the meantime, we hardly even notice it anymore. It's not important. There was one night a couple of years ago when he kissed it, basically claiming it as his now, and that was cool. So, while we would like it to someday be gone ( It's kind of ugly), it really isn't a priority anymore.

It's really all about how you look at it and process it - now and potentially later.



Soyokaze -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 1:00:10 PM)

I've been in three relationships that seemed really good at a time, and all of them would have loved for me to have gotten tattoos for them... None of those relationships worked out including one that lasted three years. I'm rather glad I don't have anything permanent. I have enough issues with my self image as it is.



JanahX -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 4:42:49 PM)

Skin marring is one of my hard limits.

I within the past couple years have had two tatoos lasered off. It was 200 to ink up - and 3 grand to have removed. One was an Celtic armband that I got when I was 26 - with a b/f at the time - he got an identical and in the middle of the band we had each others initials. Two years later we split up and guess what? The armband didnt go with him.

When I got the tats - It was the coolest thing in the world. I LOVED them. Ten years down the track - I was like meh... not really digging this anymore. Five years later - I was like, Ive got to get these things off of me. It wasnt who I was anymore - it didnt represent who I am now.

I actually was interviewed 2 years ago when I first started going through the laser removal process by a "interview team" at the Farmers Market in L.A. of the Dr. Phil show - it was a show on "Regrets" - and guess what I talked about???? They actually aired it - I was on national tv - telling everyone how I regretted getting them. Just because I did change. Also because it hurts like a motherfucker getting them lasered off and not to mention a shit boat of cashola.



BitaTruble -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/15/2012 5:33:45 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: luxInferior

I've had a great interest in being branded for a long time.
I expressed this interest to my Mistress and she is all for it. We're just deciding what the brand should be, and we've already decided it's going on my ass.

Now, with something so permanent I've been giving this plenty of thought before taking the step. I'm in a relationship with my Mistress and have been for 2 1/2 years. There's a good chance we'll always be together but of course there's always a chance we won't be. So I'm considering the worst case scenario.

My question is, are there any subs out there who have been branded by their FORMER dominant and now regret having it?
The appeal to me is that it is something that cannot be removed no matter what happens, and I will always wear her mark forever more. But, perhaps I'm thinking with my dick here and the reality of breaking up and being left with an ex's brand wouldn't match the fantasy?
Is it akin to having your girlfriend's name tattoo'd on your ass? Or does the slave aspect put a different slant on things?

Maybe this question is too dependant on personal circumstances, but I'd like to hear about anyone's opinions nevertheless.

Thanks!



The ways in which I have marked my body or allowed my body to be marked are like a road map of my life. Whether a tattoo, a brand or a stretch mark, they all had a reason for the placement and, at least at the time, a particular meaning. I would neither erase them nor regret them. The person who may have inspired them, it's true.. they may no longer share my life with me.. but they were important at the time and a part of my history and I'm not really a revisionist sort of girl. That said, I wouldn't be branded by just anyone for any reason.. there would have to be a long-time, committed and mostly happy relationship behind the marking first.



luxInferior -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/16/2012 9:29:54 AM)

Thanks a lot for your insightful responses. Sorry to hear about those with regretful markings.

I think it's what I needed to hear, perhaps it is a little extreme right now and although the extremity of being branded for life is a turn-on, it's probably not all that wise to do right now.
I do have a (non-kink) tattoo that I had done 10 years ago, and if I could do it again I'd make some changes to it. It's not the bane of my life though so I thought perhaps I'd feel the same way about a brand. But life is long and there's plenty of time for such things.

I do have some permanent scars from my Mistress, including burns that serve to remind me of this time in my life and my Mistress. But they weren't a concious branding, more the by-product of some of our sessions. I just need to think of them as a brand I suppose to get my kicks, and I'm sure if my Mistress referred to them as her brand on my it would work just as well.




IrishMist -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/16/2012 11:04:43 AM)

I have been branded, been tattoo'd, and been pierced; all (with the exception of two ) at the request of my late husband. None of the tatt's or brandings though, have his name on them; and none lay claim to 'me being his', so to speak. They are all just general images that we both enjoyed and expanded on. I do not regret any of them; and if I was to indulge in another relationship, none of them would show a preference to another.

The only two that would, are a full length leg tattoo that shows the names of each of my kids, along with an image that I use to associate with each of them. The other is a tattoo on my back which I got after my late husband passed away; it was a way for me to finally say goodbye.

If you get the point that you are serious about having some kind of permanant mark put on your body, but are questioning the act because of what 'could' happen in the future...then look at different images that the two of you like that could be used. There is no rule that states you HAVE to have her name imprinted on your body. [:)]



Ilayda -> RE: Branding and Regrets... (5/16/2012 1:55:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: IrishMist
If you get the point that you are serious about having some kind of permanant mark put on your body, but are questioning the act because of what 'could' happen in the future...then look at different images that the two of you like that could be used. There is no rule that states you HAVE to have her name imprinted on your body. [:)]


This!

Is there something "neutral" that you wouldn't mind having instead? If so, its meaning could adapt to fit what happens in the future if need be.



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