CynthiaWVirginia
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Joined: 2/28/2010 From: West Virginia, USA Status: offline
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When you've gotten naked around someone, even online through web cam...referring to him as your boyfriend is something a vanilla can understand and make peace with. If we have different ideas of what defines the relationship...eh. What I'm saying is that if my grandmother were alive, I would introduce bo to her as my boyfriend, not as my slave. No need to give her a coronary. Yes, my mother does know. And everybody else. There have been awkward moments where I've had to explain that I wear the pants in the family, bo is like...my wife...or if they have problems understanding that, I say that he's my "honey, do..." When I explained to bo's sister that I am not abusing her brother, and that I LIKE having a "honey, do..." it sparked her own interest and now she is going to play parties with us. I also vote for your getting the book, 'When Someone You Love is Kinky'. Since you are roomies and talk a lot, why not rent or buy on Amazon or Ebay a fun, D/s type movie to watch that will make most vanillas smile and not feel threatened...with Rosie O'Donnel, called Exit to Eden. Commenting, "Oh, that is so hawt..." with a big silly grin...while giggling and drinking soda pop and eating popcorn together might be fun. Kink is often harder to explain to vanillas than D/s. What you're doing via online is "safe sex" and you cannot get STDs or preggers, so that might be a good point to make. Some people like to be swept away and others get all jazzed up by taking control...maybe a few movies will help her see the..."sexual sorcery" involved. There is a Sean Connery movie my adult son found hawt called Entrapment. Especially the part where the girl was blindfolded and had to be taught to almost dance through some ropes (practice for easing past some security laser light grid)...his voice was her only guide...she had to obey his smallest instruction...made my son's eyes glaze over. ;) There is an article at Akasha's Web that's a free read and helps to explain a D/s relationship. http://www.akashaweb.com/women/goodgirlpreview.html The Good Girl's Guide to Domination preview, or something like that. My sister lives in Texas, far away from WV, and we cannot talk about this. Since she knows I am into this, I cannot make any reference of any kind to my boyfriend or she gets offended. (So okay, the church she goes to thinks anyone into Pokemon or Harry Potter needs an exorcism.) Her ex-husband poisoned her mind by watching thousands of hours of porn in their livingroom (even if the kids walked in) and I'm guessing that some of the stuff was some hard core BDSM fantasy stuff. She thinks she knows all about my relationship dynamic. Sometimes the hardest thing we do when we are educating vanillas... is to help them unlearn what they think they know. Good luck with your sister. :)
< Message edited by CynthiaWVirginia -- 5/17/2012 4:09:14 PM >
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