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RE: abandonded - 6/9/2006 12:01:52 AM   
NJSubGirl


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Status: offline 		I feel for you! If my master ever left me without telling me why, my heart would be broken. But, Im not sure what your circumstance is, but we have developed a very strong meaningful relationship, sharing alot!! Was it a deep relationship? Or just a fling? We can try and figure out more with some more info about your relationship.... Here to help :)

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RE: abandonded - 6/9/2006 3:19:37 AM   
bandit25


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RE: abandonded - 6/27/2006 6:33:54 PM   
PiggyPuta


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Status: offline 		i have been there...fell in love with my Dom...hot and heavy and then nothing.  Would send Him emails with no replies.  Tried calling but His number was changed.  Tried calling His work and nothing.  After 4 months of nothing i decided that He left me.  Did not know if He left me for another, if He was playing games...so many questions (never have been completely answered).  i decided that i needed a break and found a wonderful man (although he is very dominate in the bedroom we basically have a vanilla relationship).  Then He came back...called me out of the blue and left again.  my problem is...yes i know He has abandonded me...yes i know i am probably better off without Him...yes i know that He only brings me heartache...but the minute He calls again (and He will), i will jump right back to Him.  He has this much control over me...this much power over me.  No matter how much i tell myself that He is not worth it, no matter how much i tell myself to let Him go...i can not.  i have a new Master now and He is aware of this past Dom and how much control He had over me.  my Master is also aware of how much of an attention slut i am and He assures me that i will get this from Him and will not need the other ever again.  Sorry for going on and on about this, but abandonment hurts and really f**ks with one's mind.  Talking about a total mindf**k!

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RE: abandonded - 6/28/2006 11:55:34 PM   
ropesubby39


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Status: offline 		Like so many have said, lack of information.........but this situation happened to me in the past and i just moved on.  There was no point of torturing myself with all the questions.

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RE: abandonded - 6/29/2006 2:58:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		myshell:
Maybe you could take a more direct approach (if you haven't already...) Call, leave a message that you would like to know if he is moving on or would like to move on. If he doesn't reply to that, then you have your answer. If he does return the call, well -- you can get an answer finally as to what is going on either way.

I wish you the best of luck.
Warmly,
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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 1:28:43 AM   
mons


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How long has it been more then a week or more then a month? He will not email either? I think this is so cruel he is hurting you emotional for some reason and to not tell you why he is not answering is even worse, I hope he will give you an answer soon if not and i do know it will be hard but you must move on, this is not helathy for you. Your heart is being slowly broken. i do wish things will turn out well. Are you sure he is not ill.. and he is ok? find out these thing first/
 
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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 4:39:00 AM   
wandering4u


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Status: offline 		No contact at all? Has he ever done this before?  If both are "no", move on.  

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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 8:11:14 AM   
ChainedExistence


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Status: offline 		Amayos said, "That depends upon a number of different factors, but generally speaking, yes—it may be time to stop calling, and move on. What I find unfortunate about a Master who takes this course of action is the embitterment he may foster in the girl he throws away with such little regard. It doesn't take much to communicate your intentions and thus offer some semblance of closure, at least, even if the act of discarding is in of itself a punishment. One of the most persistent ghosts of the conscience is never knowing why."



I have to say I  agree ,  with a qualifier, I don't think I'd want the ENTIRE truth about why I was being dismissed. There are ways to leave a relationship without absolutely destroying the other person- a little tact goes a long way. Someone who appears to leave the door open makes it all the harder to move on. You get that illusion of an opening and like Wile E Coyote, it hurts more when you run head on into a solid wall. I'd much rather know than to guess, even if it hurts.

< Message edited by ChainedExistence -- 7/2/2006 8:13:18 AM >

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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 8:21:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		opening worm can..........if calling or emails is the only contact its odd to consider them a master

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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 1:22:52 PM   
CreoleCook


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Status: offline 		I saw a bumper sticker the other day I want to share with you... "God must love stupid people, else He would not have made so many."

Now, with that said, if a man stops talking to a woman, regardless of whether there is Domination and submission involved, I would hazard a guess, and say he's probably married, and toying with your emotions.

my 2 cents..

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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 1:34:08 PM   
SilverWulf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

opening worm can..........if calling or emails is the only contact its odd to consider them a master


I could not agree more!

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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 2:09:23 PM   
JessieMe


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Status: offline 		I had this happen with a dom who I was in contact with prior to Master.. the disappear and reappear act..

It happened once.. and it only lasted over the period of a week. That was all it took. I do not handle "silence" for any period well. When he did it the first time that was one thing.. when it happened the second time.. well that was it for me..

Since being with my current Master.. I sent this dom an email "thanking him" for what he did.. I am much better off now than I would have been with him. So hold fast to that.. There may be someone much better for you around the corner.

good luck to you!

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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 2:26:25 PM   
MasterCurios


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Status: offline 		well there are extenuating circumstances here perhaps....first it could be that is a punishment second it could be a test of some sorts three it could be you are discharged

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RE: abandonded - 7/2/2006 8:08:25 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: shygirldesires

*sigh
why do girls jump into a hole before they really know where they are jumping??  slave or sub ...make the right choice not just any choice out of want or need to the first one who comes along....  JMO

shy, cumslut_DB

 
Could it be they want someone so bad they will accept anyone  rather than the one that is right for them?  Similar to being in love with the idea of love instead of the person.  They should take their time and will find the right one for them.

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RE: abandonded - 7/3/2006 4:40:05 PM   
Subsekr


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Status: offline 		Considering this was myshell's first and only post... and it was almost a month ago... I think it's a mute point by  now.

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RE: abandonded - 7/4/2006 3:19:24 AM   
wandering4u


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Status: offline 		But an interesting conversation, nonetheless

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RE: abandonded - 7/4/2006 6:40:06 AM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		I don't know, maybe I'm really weird but I don't see someone not answering calls as abandonment. Abandonment in my head conjures up images more along the lines of people who are in a real relationship with shared responsibilities...such as little ones and mortgages and such....and one of the involved parties simply walking out and leaving the other party to bear all the weight of the responsibility on their shoulders.

Not returning phone calls? Rude yes...abandonment no.

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RE: abandonded - 7/4/2006 8:03:17 AM   
LokisBrat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

opening worm can..........if calling or emails is the only contact its odd to consider them a master


Bringing you the can opener and fork for your worms.
You made me laugh there, thank you!

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RE: abandonded - 7/4/2006 8:13:22 AM   
joyinslavery


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shygirldesires

quote:

ORIGINAL: myshell

my master wont answer my calls, should i consider myself abandonded?



Like to start by saying I have a Master.
My Master is looking for a sub. for his sub. To start teaching me to be a Dom.
Looking for a female sub for me,  would be my sub., however would serve both of us.
if interested please contact me.


myshell,
 it seems to me that not only is your post un~insightful, but your profile is just as confusing as your post....
 it seems like SirCumslut has more advantage in knowing more than you are giving out.....

*sigh
why do girls jump into a hole before they really know where they are jumping??  slave or sub ...make the right choice not just any choice out of want or need to the first one who comes along....  JMO

shy, cumslut_DB
 
 
 
To the OP, I liked the earlier advice about ceasing your calls.  I'd stop calling and see what happens.  If you don't get a call within a reasonable amount of time, I'd assume it's over and move on...carefully.  Good Luck!

< Message edited by joyinslavery -- 7/4/2006 8:30:58 AM >

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RE: abandonded - 7/4/2006 8:22:31 AM   
midniterider7


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Status: offline 		Move on doll ,your supposed master is a coward at the very least.Look at this as a time to reflect and watch out for morons like him.

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