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meatme -> never ending need to be topped or used (5/23/2012 10:37:49 PM)

What is wrong with me and what can I do? I am obsessed with having sex, I am a fag boi and I check out every guy, any age, any looks, I see them as being nude and giving me all I want, man after man, I want and need it 24/7. What is wrong with me? I do not just dream of these things, I do them. My problem is, I can not find enough men in a day to satisfy me. I live in Syracuse NY and I still can not satisfy my needs of being used. Is there anyone else like me? Am I mentally ill? Is there anyone looking for someone like me? Thank you everyone for any suggestions you can give me.



BitaTruble -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/23/2012 10:59:51 PM)

If I were you, I'd research narcissism and sex addition and see what I discovered. I have no idea if you are mentally ill so I would also recommend a kink friendly therapist. Best of luck to you.




Just1on1 -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/23/2012 11:42:28 PM)

I second what Bita said except I would recommend scratching the therapist for a minister. Or atleast giving both a shot. The thing is we ALL have thoughts, ideas and fantasies about all kinds of things but it's our choice how we act on things. Self-control is a good thing to practice.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/23/2012 11:42:59 PM)

Could you have a sex addiction problem, OP? Just an idea.



kitkat105 -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/24/2012 4:11:15 AM)

Do you actually act out on this? If you do, sounds like a sex addiction. If you haven't acted this out, it sounds like a bad case of subfrenzy.



Wantstocontrolu -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/24/2012 7:08:54 AM)

Sounds like a fantasy or a scam to me..



OsideGirl -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/24/2012 7:20:09 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: kitkat105

Do you actually act out on this? If you do, sounds like a sex addiction. If you haven't acted this out, it sounds like a bad case of subfrenzy.

Pretty much what I was going to say and also add endorphin addiction.

I second the checking in with a therapist.



DesFIP -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/24/2012 9:01:27 AM)

Sex addiction. Get professional help.



littlewonder -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/24/2012 9:53:23 AM)

sounds like sex addiction. Seek a therapist.



angelikaJ -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/28/2012 9:20:39 AM)

IF your compulsion/obsession with sex is interfering with your regular life and your life is becoming/has become unmanageable then I would say you have a sex addiction issue or a problem serious enough to need some sort of intervention: either counseling or try going to Sex Addicts Anonymous.

Also:http://www.sa.org/



Kana -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/28/2012 7:04:22 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: meatme

What is wrong with me and what can I do? I am obsessed with having sex, I

Hell. Sounds like a guy to me



crazyml -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/29/2012 1:18:16 AM)

Grin... that was my immediate reaction.

Seriously OP... Come on... you're old enough to figure this out yourself.

If all this horniness is having an impact on your life/work/ability to function normally then yup -You may well be a leeetle bit lala. If it isn't, then -you're a dude, wanting to fuck/be fucked is pretty normal.

If in doubt, hie thee to a therapist.



kalikshama -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/29/2012 6:20:45 AM)

I think if the OP had been from a sub female more people would have said subfrenzy than sex addiction.

OP - look up sub frenzy and see if this state of being resonates with yours. Here's a link: When Submissives Go Wild: Sub Frenzy



kalikshama -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/29/2012 6:21:52 AM)

quote:

I would recommend scratching the therapist for a minister.


What's the advantage of a minister?



poise -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/29/2012 6:27:38 AM)

The cynical me says the OP posted this in hopes of garnering attention from prospective Masters.
I'm glad he has gotten good advice though, in the event I'm wrong.



littlewonder -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/29/2012 7:41:22 AM)

eehh...to me there's a difference between sub frenzy and addiction and for me it wouldn't matter if it had come from a male or a female.

sub frenzy for me means you decide to give up on all common sense and you do stupid stuff that you normally wouldn't do in a normal relationship.
Addiction, however, you can't stop thinking about sex and you will have sex with anyone or anything and this affects your life to the point you're missing work, can't pay bills, you lose all contact with family and friends.

And for me personally, I like the advice about a minister instead of a therapist. The only reason I ever suggest therapist is because my experience here has been that very few people into bdsm are christian and I don't feel like getting chewed out.



littlecherie -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (5/30/2012 8:47:31 AM)

I get this way sometimes when it hasn't happened in a week or so. I just need some pain, for Master to hurt me. We seem to at least do it on a weekly basis.



meatme -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (6/26/2012 8:45:04 PM)

thank you everyone for your replies, it seems that I guess I do have an addiction, what I did not mention in my first post was that I have really found myself scanning the porn sites as often as possible, staying up almost all night, just trying to find sexual partners. I have used my computer at work, during working hours to also search for partners, I have been caught, written up and eventually laid off from work, so, yes I am addicted. I didn't understand the difference until everyone explained to me what my problem is, now, all I need to do is to find a group to join to try to beat this! I find it hard to believe that I seem to be the only one on the planet that has this addiction, at least I now know that it is an addiction, it might not be normal, but then again I at least can say that I only need to begin to find help, if there really is help, Thanks everyone for your comments and support and your words of wisdom!



littlewonder -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (6/26/2012 8:50:41 PM)

Syracuse
For more information contact us at: Syracuse Intergroup
Check our website: sasyracuse
Phone: 315-707-4600

http://www.sa.org/top/United%20States%20of%20America/New%20York/

There ya go if you're actually serious. I'm still doubting you are however.



amaidiamond -> RE: never ending need to be topped or used (6/27/2012 8:27:20 AM)

Their are 12 step groups for sex addiction, good luck



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