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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4
What never ceases to amaze me are how dynamic (changing) concepts are presented in static (unchanging) ways. People expressing that they looking for this, that or another thing from a relationship. That they are looking for this, that or another thing from somebody. That they even have This, that and another thing to offer.
"This, that or another thing" can be many things on people's lists.
For example: Being Sensual can fall under "This, that or another thing".
I'd like to think of myself as being Sensual, I know I enjoy it when I'm feeling extremely Sensual with somebody else. However, the truth be told. Around most people, I'm not very sensual towards them. In fact, there are people which I make it a point to be extremely distant from.
I've been in relationships where there was an extremely strong sensual connection flowing, like a deep river. Other relationships, where the sensuality was dialed way back. I'm into analyzing it either. I've had some one night stands that were extremely sensual and others which were not.
So am I really sensual or not? My honest answer to that question is...it all depends. Why? because it's rather dynamic, at least for me and based upon my own experiences.
Same holds true for me, when it comes to being "this, that or another thing" regarding being sadistic. I've taken pleasure and delight in sadism. Yet, I can be 180 degrees in the other direction and find Zero pleasure and delight in it.
What's mind blowing is how the chemistry is always different. The out come of what happens when two people get together (be it for long term, short term or a one time flig).
There's many things to which I am or am not, and it's all rather dynamic.
I've been extremely Dominant towards some and very much less Dominant (unless provoked) towards others.
I'm rather selective about who and what I'm D/s'ing anyways. I've micromanaged shit and I've also could have cared less about trying to do so.
Don't get me wrong, I have must follow rules, deal breakers, desires, needs, wants and wishes.
I can't promise anybody that I'm going to be an AMP'd up Sadistic 24/7 anymore than I can make promises that I won't be into hurting them (because that will cross my mind, if I'm really into them). Hope this makes sense to somebody out there.
If I'm feeling it, sure... I'll tell somebody straight up. How much I'm into doing XYZ or Not with them. The most I might be feeling for "this, that and another thing" is a mere fucking blow job with a chuk'em attitude afterwards.
It's weird, how I'm wired to want to fuck somebody, or be sensual towards/with, or even sadistic towards/with. I've been sensual with women which I had no sexual interest in, I've seen sexual with women I've had no interest in being sensual with. Toss in Sadism and the combinations grow. Simply Add other things into "this, that and another thing"... you get the idea of the combinations that can arise.
I try to simply roll with whatever connection I'm feeling or occuring. I really don't like thinking about this too much. Yet, at times I'm forced to when engaging in conversations online.
I don't know if I'm perhaps a little more diverse and dynamic in some areas compared other or not.
I just know this is what holds true for me when it comes to being "this, that or another thing".
Thanks for taking the time to read all this. Hope it makes sense to somebody out there.
Whip, quit typing the shit that rolls through my head dammit!
What you've written is why I am pretty fucking pessimistic about online hunting for ME. It's easier for me to type a list of things I will never entertain than what I will.........given the energy flow with a specific person. Via online communication, I think a lot of s-types want black and white lists. Rules. Must haves. Exacting expectations.
For ME, the only real concrete I expect is 100% obedience. Every thing else depends upon her skills, her life schedule, her everything. As long as I am always the one with the final say as to what will and will not go down and there is no debating that issue, I am cool.
Example: I don't like tattooes. I wouldn't allow a slave to get a tattoo. I don't find tattooes sexy or attractive or whatever. I also have zero interest in switching. Hell to the no. Yet, one of my best friends, who is a heavily tattooed switch, has been the ONLY woman to ever get out from behind her computer and travel thousands of miles to spend two fabulous weeks with me, at my home. The ONLY reason she isn't owned by me, is that her home is thousands of miles from mine, out of necessity. She is perfectly capable of 100% obedience and the core woman she is, is very attractive and sexy to me. The external package just happens to have a more colourful wrapping than I would have chosen.
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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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