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mummyman321 -> RE: ballbusting safely? (5/31/2012 9:49:16 AM)
Sufficient to say there is not substitute for hands on experience! Pun totally intended[8D] I do believe that Chatted's approach is the best. Become educated on the subject and start out slowly and watch your partners response.

TNDommeK -> RE: ballbusting safely? (5/31/2012 10:10:25 AM)
I disagree PrincessDonna, even if a sub pays Me..it is still about what I want. I let them know this upfront however. But never at any point do I let the sub have control. Might just be how I do things but it works for Me. As far as Lily goes...thus the reason I said real experience will help. CP gave you great advice. See, we are awesome once you dodge the snark. Don't take it personal, I understand where LP is coming from. We see the Fins who never want to work ask us for things to come up with and they give us no cut of the proceeds. So it might have come across as that to her at first. I will say that LP is very helpful when it comes to most things, as is CP. I learn a great deal form both of them, I just don't tell them that. [8\|][:D]

PrincessLily91 -> RE: ballbusting safely? (5/31/2012 11:42:14 AM)
I appreciate all the feedback. And let me clarify my earlier original post: the clipstore I am doing with my sub and only my sub. I have known his three years and yes I make a little money off the clips, but they are paying for the fantasy of the scene, not my skill as a ballbuster (or any other fetish we film). In that area I think it's fair for me to practice and profit as long as the audience gets what they paid for? As to the second part, I am not doing "sessions" for anyone yet. I am looking for advice on how to learn to play safely with new partners BEFORE I do it. Doesn't have to be an online tutorial from anyone here...just advice. Maybe books, places I can check out, a good mentor program, or posts like CP made with methods for gauging a subs pain threshold and danger potential. I am not trying to fish for ideas and cash in on them and I apologize if that is how I came off.

PeonForHer -> RE: ballbusting safely? (5/31/2012 4:15:34 PM)
What about Greco-Roman wrestling, Lily - are you any good at that? I'm not that bothered about kicks in the goolies, but a Domme putting me in side head locks, full nelsons and suchlike - that would give me a buzz. You'd probably have to take off your glasses, though.

LadyConstanze -> RE: ballbusting safely? (5/31/2012 10:34:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PrincessLily91 I up to this point have only played with my own sub in any sense of D/s play. However, I ama bout to open a clips4sale store and there will be ballbusting in it. With my sub, of course. I might also meet and play with other subs...but that brings me to two questions: 1. A lot of people are asking me to kick my sub harder and more viciously. Is there a technique or method to upping teh intensity but maintaining the safety of his genitals? I don't know that he actually cares or not, haha. But I worry anyways. Maybe that goes away after awhile, I don't know. 2. Many slaves say they want to do realtime, no limits. But I hear some of them like the fantasy, but can't do it when we meet. How do you gauge a sub's limits to keep the play going for both parties? Thanks! Use the strongest deep heat you can find on his balls and then tap him lightly with your fingers or give them a little flick, it will increase the intensity greatly.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: ballbusting safely? (5/31/2012 10:58:15 PM)
quote: Is there a technique or method to upping the intensity but maintaining the safety of his genitals? Yes, there is. Electro. All the lulz w/none of the damage. Doesn't look as impressive on camera as a good roundhouse kick, but will reduce grown men to crocodile tears with the twist of a dial or the push of a button. You haven't heard a man beg and plead 'til you've made him ride the lightening. Smartstim.com for more information about electro. There's way too much to go into here, but I can try to answer specific questions. You're welcome to pm me on the other side. Good luck!

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: ballbusting safely? (5/31/2012 11:19:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Use the strongest deep heat you can find on his balls and then tap him lightly with your fingers or give them a little flick, it will increase the intensity greatly. I m SO sorry about the momentary detour, but this so reminded me of something. I was pegging someone and he was being a whiny smartass. So I slathered Deep Heating Rub on his asshole & the back of his balls and kept going. You should've heard all the "You bitch!"es that came out of him. [sm=rofl.gif] He loved it though, he said afterward. NBMG

CougarRick -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/1/2012 11:05:28 PM)
Are most dommes into this? How many subs actually agree to this? quote: ORIGINAL: PrincessLily91 I up to this point have only played with my own sub in any sense of D/s play. However, I ama bout to open a clips4sale store and there will be ballbusting in it. With my sub, of course. I might also meet and play with other subs...but that brings me to two questions: 1. A lot of people are asking me to kick my sub harder and more viciously. Is there a technique or method to upping teh intensity but maintaining the safety of his genitals? I don't know that he actually cares or not, haha. But I worry anyways. Maybe that goes away after awhile, I don't know. 2. Many slaves say they want to do realtime, no limits. But I hear some of them like the fantasy, but can't do it when we meet. How do you gauge a sub's limits to keep the play going for both parties? Thanks!

kalikshama -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/2/2012 10:57:12 AM)
On these boards anyway, the interest seems to flow the other way, i.e., more male subs express a desire for ballbusting.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/2/2012 11:01:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CougarRick Are most dommes into this? How many subs actually agree to this? quote: ORIGINAL: PrincessLily91 I up to this point have only played with my own sub in any sense of D/s play. However, I ama bout to open a clips4sale store and there will be ballbusting in it. With my sub, of course. I might also meet and play with other subs...but that brings me to two questions: 1. A lot of people are asking me to kick my sub harder and more viciously. Is there a technique or method to upping teh intensity but maintaining the safety of his genitals? I don't know that he actually cares or not, haha. But I worry anyways. Maybe that goes away after awhile, I don't know. 2. Many slaves say they want to do realtime, no limits. But I hear some of them like the fantasy, but can't do it when we meet. How do you gauge a sub's limits to keep the play going for both parties? Thanks! Some number between zero and infinity. Really.

PeonForHer -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/2/2012 12:08:50 PM)
Lily, What are you like at swinging a claymore on top of a Scottish mountain? Do you think you could a sort of femdom recreation of "The Highlander"?

PrincessLily91 -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/2/2012 12:56:17 PM)
Haha, absolutely. :)

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/2/2012 1:00:46 PM)
Princess Lily, You have a lot of great replies here, including: LP, CP, LH and even Peon ([;)]). However, I thought I would throw three cents in (two cents plus inflation). Several Ladies whom i have played with in the past, loved my tolerance for CBT. They did lots of stuff, but NEVER kicking. In fact, I believe kicking could be SERIOUSLY harmful. Especially, if you think it is something "submissives" want. Have you considered those "submissives" who want it are inexperienced and dreaming? Try tying them down, spread eagle. Then put fifty of those "clamp" style clothes pins on the C and B. Follow that with hot wax .. then squeezing and tickling. If they can handle all of that, and STILL ask to be kicked ... well then learn how to kick .. gently! But given i am a betting man, if You are attracted to a male, tied down under CBT, with 50 clothes pins and hot wax, then he is likely a man You will want to ... take advantage of .. right then! [:)] [:)] [:)] And just tell him this is for Your pleasure! [;)] Now to me, THAT is a ball kicking!

CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/2/2012 11:21:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt quote: Is there a technique or method to upping the intensity but maintaining the safety of his genitals? Yes, there is. Electro. All the lulz w/none of the damage. Doesn't look as impressive on camera as a good roundhouse kick, but will reduce grown men to crocodile tears with the twist of a dial or the push of a button. You haven't heard a man beg and plead 'til you've made him ride the lightening. Smartstim.com for more information about electro. There's way too much to go into here, but I can try to answer specific questions. You're welcome to pm me on the other side. Good luck! Yer killin me tonight. Between talk of deep heat by Lady Constanze...and THAT SENTENCE by you, I've got a roaring buzz. I cannot play tonight. [:(] My boy is snoozing on the couch after a long hard day of helping a friend's family move. Yep, stairs were involved and the U-Haul was, I believe, a 26 footer. Filled to overflowing. Am dying to scene now, aargh. Nope, I don't have any icy hot stuff, and no lovely e-stim toys yet. whimpers softly

PrincessDonna11 -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/3/2012 6:44:26 AM)
I personally dont go this far, there are many that do sadism I am into Power Exchange Good Luck with all the ideas.

ElanSubdued -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/3/2012 11:08:57 AM)
PrincessLily91, You've made quite a good impression on me here in the forums. Why? Well... you asked your question clearly and wrote well. You handled criticism gracefully and didn't lose your cool. You replied in a well-spoken way, clarified your reasoning, showed ability and willingness to learn, and continued demonstrating your intelligence. All of this is good, good, good. Unfortunately, your profile is exactly the stuff that makes me hit the "Report User" button pronto. Looking for money? Check. Amazon gift account? Check? Soliciting subs to pay bills, automobile tickets, etc.? Check. I did (in fact) press the Report User button on your profile and I reported you under the scammer section. The automatic system (and the number of similar reports from other users) determines your status over time. Given the fact you made a totally different impression here in the forums, I suggest a profile update. If you want to run a business, do so in a professional way. Ditch the Amazon stuff and the "pay my bills/tickets" routine. Instead, state your services and fees clearly, and advertise in a professional way, as legitimate businesses do.

S0mn0vi -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/13/2012 6:10:43 AM)
Lily, If you plan on doing one on one sessions, I strongly suggest having your potential subs fill out a BDSM checklist. They are incredibly helpful in finding out what people are into and what they aren't which is great when trying to determine if you will work well together. In some cases I have (politely) rejected potential clients based on what they had filled out (if you want details please contact me) because it was clear that what they were interested was either unrealistic or something I could not provide. It will also do you a heap of good to look into the sex laws of you state for both what is considered prostitution, a sexual act, and the production and distribution of pornographic material. If you would like a copy of a good checklist just shoot me an email and I'll send you mine. Good Luck!

Bill41 -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/13/2012 11:12:57 AM)
Everyone seems to have good responses to the OP. However if PrincessLily has a willing and experienced sub willing to submit to her inexperience and she has disclosed this information to him them why not let Her have at him. As for me i'll stick with the other forms of CBT that seekingOwnertoo mentioned.

MisstressAureus -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/13/2012 4:25:24 PM)
Please, please please take some training with a person who IS experienced! Many local parties or munches have information and/or seminars available for little to no cost. If you attend a local party, try speaking to a DM, often they will have a great deal of info on where to find something or at least know who to ask. There are also seminar weekends with several topics and types of play covered. Many Domme's will mentor for no fee as well. There should be face to face teaching and learning here. There are many, many things that can go wrong with any sort of physical play. Please take basic first aid class at the very least. I have been in the lifestyle for 16 years and STILL see someone with 'expertise' BEFORE I try potentially injurious types of play that are new to Me. 'Hurt' is FAR different from 'harm'. Miss Aureus

PeonForHer -> RE: ballbusting safely? (6/13/2012 4:26:55 PM)
What first aid could one give a man who'd been kicked too hard in the testicles?

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