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Rule -> RE: 24/7 - Gorean, Is it really what I'm looking for? (6/9/2012 7:35:09 AM)
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ORIGINAL: halberd388
I love women, LOVE them, in ways that could be considered creepy to most of society. I don't look at them as sexual objects, but as gorgeous wonderful people who are sometimes out of control and need guidance. I see a beautiful woman walking down the street wearing skimpy cloths and most of her naughty parts on display I don't think "Damn, that girl is hot" I think "That girl needs someone to show her how to respect herself and others" and I begin to imagine roping her to a bed, using her sexually like she seemed to be asking for and breaking her will until she's free of the feeling and need to be on display in front of the world and just in front of me.
Umm, she is not asking for that. You just delude yourself that she is asking for that.
We in the Christian countries have an Arthurian-Christian culture: girls are courted by males and provide the opportunity and invitation to be courted and us guys are faithful to them if they give us their favor - and look the other way, and are still faithful to her, if the Divine causes them to be adulterous.
From that perspective your possessiveness and subjective ideas about how a girl should dress, is unhealthy.
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ORIGINAL: halberd388
When I am in a relationship, without THINKING or knowing what I'm doing I tend to control my girlfriends (and ex-fiances) to the point of creeping them out. I tell them how I feel about them and instead of being pleased they are normally creeped out that I think of them as 'mine' and 'belonging to me'... but the word love is just too small, I feel I should protect them and guide them... that's more than what someone who loves you does in my opinion.
So my question is... am I really a dom as I was told by the sex therapist years ago or am I just socially awkward and need to learn better self control over how I think?
In my opinion you are not a dominant. In my opinion all indications in your first post suggest that you are a narcissist.
If so, your ideal mate is a natural slave; not a submissive. She will provide for your narcissistic needs - and, having a conscience and cognitive abilities that narcissists lack, she will be able to guide and counsel you wisely. And do not ever think that you and her have anything in common. As far as each of you is concerned, the other might as well be some incomprehensible alien monster from a far planet.
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