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LittleMsMary -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/5/2012 8:52:40 PM)
One small additional point to all the other excellent points...go slow in terms of size. I'm not talking about using plugs or anything, just that I wouldn't exactly just jump onto (pun intended) the biggest toy possibly imaginable. I know some people think they'll get extra "sub points" by proving themselves that way, but it sure seems like a recipe for disaster for me. Try to take it easy a bit and see what works for you both as far as size, positions, play etc. Hope you have a blast.

MissCake -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/5/2012 9:10:50 PM)
You probably need a longer toy than you think you do. Remember, it all doesn't have to go in, but it does actually have to reach. Girth is another story. Have a few dongs to select from. Yep, lube. Water based are not bad per se, they just get absorbed very quickly. Different people need different things as far as that goes. I keep a selection and sometimes combine. Oil based lubes can break down rubber toys over time. Silicone lubes can break down silicone toys over time. Very unlikely it will happen on the first use. I am very fond of J-Lube for manual play, and it's cheap and will last for a very long time.

nurse4strap -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/5/2012 10:13:59 PM)
We went for the long and thin option mainly cause I didn't fancy the girth, it would be like going for the canes and crops before you had your forts spanking, and a traditional ploughmans on rye was the sandwich for those of you that gave that very imiportant advice

Lucifyre -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/5/2012 11:20:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Personally I don't get the whole "stretching" notion, either. It's a sphincter (well, two sphincters) and they are meant to open and close. Just let them do their thing. (and yes, thanks, I speak from personal experience) Stretching would be for more advanced activities...like fisting. I'm working on it dammit! I haven't been able to get past a certain point without a spontanious orgasm and when I do that everything gets all fucking tight again grumble

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/5/2012 11:55:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucifyre Stretching would be for more advanced activities...like fisting. I have big hands so sometimes it's hell to get past that thumb knuckle, EVEN when it's folded in and under. Esp for HIM. [;)] NBMG

nurse4strap -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/6/2012 6:16:33 AM)
Some very good advice from all thank you. I would add letting your sub control the rate and depth of penetration as being vitally important, oh and don't forget to clean beforehand glad I did

Lucifyre -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/6/2012 6:25:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl quote: ORIGINAL: Lucifyre Stretching would be for more advanced activities...like fisting. I have big hands so sometimes it's hell to get past that thumb knuckle, EVEN when it's folded in and under. Esp for HIM. [;)] NBMG I bet I can garuntee your hands are not as big as Mr's.

DianeB269 -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/20/2012 10:06:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nurse4strap Does any one have any advice for the first time you get taken by your mistress with a Strap On Make she starts out very slow with her fingers until you are relaxed then use a thin 5" or 6" dildo with lots of lube and have fun...

TNDommeK -> RE: 1st Time with a Strap On (6/21/2012 6:17:36 PM)
Hmmm, I think a sammich and squeet tea is always in order. (yes I meant to put squeet, not sweet)

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