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Hello - 6/6/2012 12:14:42 PM   
BadxJester


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Joined: 6/4/2012
Status: offline 		hello,am new to the site, and new to the state of Mi, was hoping for some advice on my profile, and any tips, criticism are welcome.
Also interested in finding a SUB female, as not knowing anyone in my state decided for the first time to try the net, so far found alot of different interesting things on this site the few days ive been on it.
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RE: Hello - 6/6/2012 4:29:20 PM   
Ilayda


Posts: 58
Joined: 9/3/2011
Status: offline 		Hello, and welcome to CollarMe!

If you haven't looked at Fetlife.com, I highly recommend it. It's easier to find local events and groups than it is on this site. Specifically, look for TNG groups, which are targeted at a younger crowd.

That said, I want to point something out - I think it's a bit unrealistic for you to ask potential submissives to relocate to you for several months on a "maybe." That's enough time to really disrupt someone's life if you (or they) decide that you're not compatible.

From your profile, I get the sense that you're not quite experienced enough to reasonably take on a 24/7 slave. Perhaps you could try to find someone local - it would save a lot of potential stress while giving you time to establish a role and allowing for real-time play.

I also recommend proofreading your profile and adding some more vanilla information about you in the process.

Just my 2 cents - take it for what it's worth.

Best wishes and good luck!

< Message edited by Ilayda -- 6/6/2012 4:33:06 PM >

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RE: Hello - 6/6/2012 4:43:12 PM   
HigherFrequency


Posts: 3
Joined: 5/30/2012
Status: offline 		Hm, well... I guess my tips and criticisms would be like: You should write your profile in a cool color! Andddd I think you should upload a picture of yourself.

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RE: Hello - 6/6/2012 5:10:22 PM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		Welcome to CM

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RE: Hello - 6/6/2012 5:15:39 PM   
BadxJester


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Joined: 6/4/2012
Status: offline 		the idea of of the maybe, When you spend time online talking to one another, theirs always the chance that what they're telling you online is what they want to be not who they are. Its more of a way out option, if they ,or myself deiced that after spending real time together that its not going to work out,but if you feel its not necessary to have the line in it that's fine. I quickly typed all of it out, maybe i should have went over it a few times for the grammar errors , and i was thinking about the vanilla stuff before but was thinking that, that was more of information for the time spent talking online. I don't have time right now but ill go threw and edit it, and ill add a photo

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RE: Hello - 6/6/2012 5:32:21 PM   
Ilayda


Posts: 58
Joined: 9/3/2011
Status: offline 		Online is always different from live in. Always. Just like local is different from live in.

Even if someone is 100% honest with who they are, even with months of talking online (camming or otherwise), it's still HUGE to relocate, and living together adds a lot of stresses, many of which are unforeseeable.

There's always a "way out" if a relationship doesn't work out - it's called a breakup. Specifying it makes it seem like the first few months are a trial, which isn't something a lot of people are going to be attracted to.

As for vanilla topics being things you learn while chatting - yes, that's true, and I'd hope they are things you discuss, but without finding common vanilla ground on your profile, why would someone take their time to message you and chat with you in the first place? Maybe it's just me, but if there's nothing on someone's profile that suggests we might be non-kinkily compatible, I click away without bothering to message. But... it's probably not just me.

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RE: Hello - 6/7/2012 5:57:34 AM   
ashjor911


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From: balcony, having a Smoke
Status: offline 		Welcome

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RE: Hello - 6/8/2012 8:12:39 AM   
OohAahMrs


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Status: offline 		Welcome bad, i was going to offer some advice, but need to slip out for some eggs.

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