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amaidiamond -> A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 5:35:16 PM)

Hey everyone,

Hoping people can help me,

I have a little side, Kitty, usually age 4-5 and well, I have kind of lost her.

Basically I am in an O/p - M/s relationship and my Owner/Master is also my Daddy,.... there are several parts to me, the adult maso/slave side, and the little Daddys girl...

I seem to have lost Kitty, she just does not seem to be there at the moment. I just figured I would try some colouring and nothing... it was just my adult side doing colouring...

I do not know why my little side has gone underground as it were.. she has not been around for a few weeks.. I want to find her again...

I know it's a weird question and i will most likely get flamed but well, I miss that little side of me and no idea why I cannot connect with it...



PrincessDonna11 -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 5:42:47 PM)

It could be that through you experiences she is growing up and looking at more then coloring, I always think that a ferris wheel ride is nice



DarkSteven -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 5:51:51 PM)

Perhaps have your Owner try to speak to her? That could work with multiples. What's her relationship with him?



amaidiamond -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 5:58:34 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Perhaps have your Owner try to speak to her? That could work with multiples. What's her relationship with him?



Shes not a multipal, at least not in the true sense of the word, shes more a division of me.

Some people would class Kitty as DID (different voice, thought patterns etc) but whilst she may be technically a multipal i don't view her that way, she is me.. kinda my child side, my innocence.

my Owner is my littles Daddy... it worked really well as he is Dom/Sadist and Loving Daddy and I am Slave/Maso and Babygirl - it's just that I feel the -adult- part of me is overwhelming and I have not seen or felt my little side in a few weeks

A few weeks may not seem like long but to me, bearing in mind often i swap day to day, it is ages



amaidiamond -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 6:00:54 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna11

It could be that through you experiences she is growing up and looking at more then coloring, I always think that a ferris wheel ride is nice


i can see that but -kitty- my little has remained the same since I was 21... I REALLY don't want her to grow up.. to loose the -little- side of me



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 6:11:01 PM)

I don't have a "little" persona but I do have a tiny bit of a baby girl side at times. So, I would try doing things that indulge your little side: Pink fuzzy slippers, pb & j sandwiches, scented bubble bath, ice cream sundae, playing with Barbies, whatevah does it for kitty.

The main thing is, don't force her to come out, just keep doing things you know she enjoys. Being in touch with the child within each of us is a virtue to be cherished and cultivated.







amaidiamond -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 6:16:59 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

I don't have a "little" persona but I do have a tiny bit of a baby girl side at times. So, I would try doing things that indulge your little side: Pink fuzzy slippers, pb & j sandwiches, scented bubble bath, ice cream sundae, playing with Barbies, whatevah does it for kitty.

The main thing is, don't force her to come out, just keep doing things you know she enjoys. Being in touch with the child within each of us is a virtue to be cherished and cultivated.







Heh the -kitty- part of me likes loads of cool stuff... especially things that bounce, glitter or have lights on

I am really not sure what the issue is... it's almost like, as soon as that part starts to emerge i feel silly and slam it back. It's nothing to do with my relationship, my owner likes the -daddy- side as much as i like my little side, he would love to see her come out again properly so i have no damn idea what is blocking me.

He has not change, I have not change, noting has in fact it's just a feeling of being disconnected... like when i am colouring etc it is play acting not -feeling- it...

I guess the best example I can liken it to is a lifestyle submissive suddenly feeling that when she kneels to her partner she is role playing



mons -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 6:38:32 PM)

Amiadiamond

Your kitty has grown up, My twin and I have age play with our dolls!
I am still a dominant but I have a side that is also a child age 3 years old to 4 years old!

Your Kitty is grown and may come back a a teen or a preteen! ( this is a maybe)

Your question is not weird at all, I understand thankfully my child is still here, she plays in my doll houses
which is something I love to do! It is helpful too!

The question is why is she hiding from you or your master? Was she frighten by something someone said?

This happen when she (kitty) was scare so much she went into hiding!! What has happen during the time she has been missing?

You must think very carefully, what was she doing the last time she was there?

(do you have a voice for her) Use it and oh please let me know what happens!

If you can remember what she was doing at the very moment she left, you may or will find her!!!!

Now the hard part is she may have left because that part of you does not need her for now, I am sorry'
she left , do you have dolls? Find her favorite things, she may come back!

I wonder what Daddy has to say is he worried too

mons (good luck ok)



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/8/2012 7:37:44 PM)

I'm a Domme and I still have a little side who's about 5 yrs old. I had her when I was a sub and I still have her now. I find that, when I have a lot more "grown up" issues and problems to deal with, she shies away and hides until it's safe to come out again. Could you have some things on your mind that you need to get worked out so she feels safe?

Now my little hardly comes out anymore no matter what. I don't know if she ever will again but I'm not going to worry about it because, right now, she has no Daddy anyway. My little wants a Daddy who's NOT a Dom and there aren't a lot of those out there.

NBMG



amaidiamond -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 6:47:37 AM)

Thank you all very much,

There is a lot of -life stress- at the moment, and I had not considered that as possibly being a factor.

Mons, my Daddy/Owner feels that my little has been out and about because of sometimes childish behaviours but it does not feel the same to me, maybe its a case of kinda there but not there at the same time. I don't think anything specifically scared her, I don't remember anything that could have.

Because sometimes I react in the same way as my little, dancing about, singing silly songs etc He feels she is still there, maybe she is and the issue is I cannot connect with her..

I am used to my little appearing for hours at a time and it is quite disconcerting to not connect there. Normally colouring or watching cartoons would trigger me but deliberatly trying to just has not worked.

I think you are all right, best to not try and just go with the flow, sure she will come back when shes ready to. Maybe now it's just time for the property part of me to be in the spotlight as it were.

Thanks for the lack of snark btw people, I was dreading posting this LOL



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 6:55:01 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: amaidiamond

Thank you all very much,

There is a lot of -life stress- at the moment, and I had not considered that as possibly being a factor.

Mons, my Daddy/Owner feels that my little has been out and about because of sometimes childish behaviours but it does not feel the same to me, maybe its a case of kinda there but not there at the same time. I don't think anything specifically scared her, I don't remember anything that could have.

Because sometimes I react in the same way as my little, dancing about, singing silly songs etc He feels she is still there, maybe she is and the issue is I cannot connect with her..

I am used to my little appearing for hours at a time and it is quite disconcerting to not connect there. Normally colouring or watching cartoons would trigger me but deliberatly trying to just has not worked.

I think you are all right, best to not try and just go with the flow, sure she will come back when shes ready to. Maybe now it's just time for the property part of me to be in the spotlight as it were.

Thanks for the lack of snark btw people, I was dreading posting this LOL


I am so glad it has continued to be a positive thread as well.



You know, we really can be a very supportive forum. And I think with the little issue, it's so nice to know that others can very much relate to the child inside, and to the need to have that child come out to play.

Please let us know how things turn out.




amaidiamond -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 7:06:37 AM)

Ohhh I know - people here can be lovely :D

I just -very- rarely post for any sort of advice... normally whatever it is I talk through with my Owner/Daddy and it is resolved.. I don't hold with the practice of asking forums for relationship advice as such, that said this is more for me advice than relationship advice..

Thing is no matter how much he can understand D/lg he will never -get- having a little as he does not have one hence asking here for people that do...



LadyConstanze -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 7:08:56 AM)

You know trying to force her out could be exactly the wrong thing? A bit like if you're desperately trying to remember something and the more you concentrate the further it slips away, or if you know you need to sleep, then you just can't. I think it might just be your subconsciousness reacting to stress and pressure.



amaidiamond -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 7:17:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

You know trying to force her out could be exactly the wrong thing? A bit like if you're desperately trying to remember something and the more you concentrate the further it slips away, or if you know you need to sleep, then you just can't. I think it might just be your subconsciousness reacting to stress and pressure.



I think you may very well be right there... I am sure she will come back when she is ready, it was good to read others have had periods where their little has been dormant as it were..

It has been an intense 6 months in general with the shift into an O/p dynamic and lots of mental adjustment, plus health stresses and life stresses so maybe it is my subconcious needing the adult side of me to drive for a while..

Ironic though that she vanishes in times of stress when my little is my stress relief



NuevaVida -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 8:47:24 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: amaidiamond

Ironic though that she vanishes in times of stress when my little is my stress relief

The pressures of adult stress may be too overwhelming for the emotions of a "little" to process. Think about a parent leaning on a child when stressed, for stress relief. The child's only way of dealing with those emotions might be to retreat and hide from them.

Tell her you love her, and invite her back in, and promise to be gentle with her. Perhaps working on alleviating your stress without her will provide a safe place for her to return to?



littlewonder -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 8:55:02 AM)

Maybe you simply don't need her anymore. She came into your life most likely to deal with something in your life that was difficult for you. Maybe now you've overcome that and that's why she is no longer around. You don't need her.



amaidiamond -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 1:05:20 PM)

The idea of my little not being -needed- is horrible to me so I really hope that is not the case...

I am thinking maybe giving it time,

When I said my little is my stress relief i more meant, an escape from adulthood.. not having to be the responsible one etc for a few hours



littlewonder -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/9/2012 8:50:40 PM)

we're not into ageplay so I can't say I really understand it but to me I would see it as a good thing because it means I've grown and overcome those things in my life that I may have been using the little to help soothe one's self.

Now we like to act like children at times but we don't see it as agepay...we just like to do stupid stuff from time to time just to laugh and forget the world for awhile. He was laughing at me the other night because when I got a pedicure I had them painted this shiny deep blue color just because I wanted something fun for a change from my normal neutral colors I get. When he asked me about it I said "It's cute and fun!" and he laughed saying I sounded like a little girl when I said it and thought it was adorable lol.

So I'm not saying to give up having fun or acting like a kid from time to time...it's good for everyone imo. But just maybe you don't need that little anymore.



amaidiamond -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/25/2012 2:26:05 AM)

:D

Just to let you all know, she is back :D

Yesterday we went to Brighton for the fet market and before that went on the pier.... then out my little popped.... Wasn't even thinking about it :D

Later had adult time at the event then back to the beach collecting stones and paddling (and eeeking because the sea tried to eat me :o )

Daddy has given my little a new name, she is now twiggle

Even the new name makes me giggle



DarkSteven -> RE: A Question For Those That Regress/ Ageplay / Have A D/lg Dynamic (6/25/2012 2:58:42 AM)

Welcome back, twiggle!



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