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Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 7:06:41 PM   
shaggydaddy


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From: tyler texas
Status: offline 		sub/slaves ? for you im a dom a girl messaged me asking me to teach her the ropes i said ok will you be my slave girl said yes i will and teach me every thing i said ok tell me what u already knw we can go from there i have not heard back from the girl in three days whats wrong what did i say wrong ? please read and if you can help inbox me are message here thank you very much
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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 7:13:22 PM   
Killerangel


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Status: offline 		Hey there Shaggydaddy, just so you know, it's not good to start more than one thread per topic. The mods will probably remove one of these threads. On CM we can post wherever, subs can post in the Ask a Master and vice versa, so whatever your topic is, you'll get a smattering of everyone.

You know, people on the internet say all kinds of things that they may not mean, it seems like that's what you ran into. Maybe she had a change of heart, it happens, and she's entitled to change her mind. Maybe she never meant to follow through, we don't know and can't tell. There isn't much for you to do except try again.

*Edited to add: I don't think you said anything wrong. I think she just changed her mind. I know you are trying very hard to make a go of this lifestyle and you're working at it, that's great. Sometimes it's just like life, sometimes people we meet say one thing and do another. It happens. Chalk it up to experience and try to find someone new.

< Message edited by Killerangel -- 6/8/2012 7:15:24 PM >

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 7:35:39 PM   
shaggydaddy


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From: tyler texas
Status: offline 		thank you again always up for learning

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 7:37:48 PM   
mummyman321


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From: Dusseldorf
Status: offline 		Okay how many threads on this topic are you going to create? Stop whining and move on.

Getout from behind your computer and attend a local munch. Meet people in person. Finding a sub is the same as dating in real life. It requires courtship and work on your part.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 7:40:59 PM   
kalikshama


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im a dom a girl messaged me asking me to teach her the ropes i said ok will you be my slave


I don't know what went though her mind but you went way too fast. You must crawl before you can walk, Grasshopper. It's fine for having a slave to be your eventual goal but you need to have a lot more experience under your belt first.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 7:41:34 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Y'know something, shaggy? That's happened to me a couple of times as well, when I did most of my meeting online. That's ONE of the reasons I far prefer meeting people offline.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 8:50:34 PM   
meltingpot


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Status: offline 		if you replied by calling her your slave at your first mail exchange, that may be a reason.. she my have judged that you were going too fast or maybe you didn't come over as experienced enough.
or maybe messing with you was the purpose from the very beginning... the web is full of trolls, this very site is apparently riddled by guys who have nothing better to do with their lives than to pose as girls for whatever dumb psychological game they like to play with random strangers.
maybe she just lacked the basic manners to tell you that she had changed her mind and was moving on to someone else
finally...3 days? maybe she has computer issues or her connection crapped out on her.

any and all of the above may apply. all in all. you've spent 2-3 mails on the girl... if she reports back, ok..if she doesn't, take it easy and move on. you've lost nothing

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 9:04:58 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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quote:

riddled by guys who have nothing better to do with their lives than to pose as girls for whatever dumb psychological game they like to play with random strangers.


This, young shaggy. Dollars to donuts your 'slave' was a dude, dude.

Online, you have less than a snowball's chance in hell to do more than frustrate yourself and waste time. As I said in your intro thread...step away from the computer and go to a munch.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 9:29:31 PM   
subbyinlosangele


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shaggydaddy

sub/slaves ? for you im a dom a girl messaged me asking me to teach her the ropes i said ok will you be my slave girl said yes i will and teach me every thing i said ok tell me what u already knw we can go from there i have not heard back from the girl in three days whats wrong what did i say wrong ? please read and if you can help inbox me are message here thank you very much



Maybe she's a gal who needs punctuation in her life.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/8/2012 11:02:38 PM   
Endivius


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Status: offline 		I genuinely believe that if you cannot type out entire words in forum posts you are too lazy to be in charge of anything bigger than a turtle.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 2:02:03 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		Dear SD,

I tend to write very differently than you do and I hope that won't be an issue.

The truth is that in all realms or relationships finding an instant anything is very rare.

Relationships take time to develop and there is no magic pixie dust that you can sprinkle on someone (or yourself) that makes them your slave to your new masterly self.

Why did she disappear: because what you were offering wasn't real.
It isn't that you are a fake or are insincere, it is that you are so new you really don't understand what having someone as your slave and teaching them the ropes really means.

So, next time, be patient and take your time.

Go to a munch in your area so you can learn from other people and get to know those who offer themselves to you.
It is true that not all of them will be sincere, but more than that: relationships work or don't work because of compatibility between the people involved.

There will be many people you meet who may not be compatible with you, and before you offer your services as their potential master, finding out about them and their finding out about you is generally a good way to begin.

edit: typo

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 6:26:42 AM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Why would you assume that someone would be stupid enough to enter into a owner/property relationship without ever meeting? This isn't the Old West with mail order brides, many of whom turned around and took the train back to where they came from.

Meet people for coffee. Believe that women are people too, who have desires of their own. Talk and see if you are compatible enough to go to lunch. If so, go out to the movies and dinner.

I have damn few limits with The Man, mine are dictated by my health. The other stuff doesn't come up because we have the same ethical and moral values. We wouldn't have gotten involved with each other seriously had that not been the case.

Cyber isn't real and you shouldn't assume it is.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 7:02:34 AM   
amaidiamond


Posts: 1793
Joined: 2/6/2006
From: Watford / London
Status: offline 		If someone asked me to be their slave within a few mails I would run for the hills...

To ME that is a big red flag, though the fact she said yes suggests she was not taking it seriously..

Let me translate your convo a little...

a girl messaged me asking me to teach her the ropes

A girl messaged me saying she had not had a boyfriend before..


i said ok will you be my slave girl

I said ok, will you Marry Me


See how its wayyy to fast?

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 7:32:09 AM   
BeautyDebased


Posts: 96
Joined: 3/20/2009
From: My Masters Feet
Status: offline 		I have to disagree...it's not always bad online, I met my Master/fiance on CM, though we did take our time and were very careful to make sure we were compatible etc etc.

Personally I hate munches, even the word sounds gross, but both Master and I are very private people too, if we meet anyone it's at a nice restaurant or at our home though we have yet to meet another couple in the lifestyle and that really suits both of us fine, were happy with just each other, well...with the occasional female playmate for me.

For the OP, I think it was rushed into pretty fast, M/s or D/s are more work than regular relationships and it takes time and trust to find out if it will work, moving too quickly is the worst thing you can do even though I know waiting can be hard it is necessary, or that's what I feel, there are some decent people on CM, I met a few doms before my Master, they weren't bad guys, they were genuine, we just weren't compatible but it takes patience and use the same etiquette you would use as if it was face to face, be yourself, tread carefully and don't believe everything someone says, if there's a connection you will know it, if a sub vanishes on you it's either a man, a teen girl out for attention or she just changed her mind as other posters said, there's nothing you can do but to move on and keep trying, took me three years, I have been with my Master for about three years now too so it does happen, it's rare online but then, I've met some real shits in rl too, my ex husband I met online too, that lasted four years so there's more proof but he was vanilla....so it had to end, anyway, good luck, don't focus on it, just move on.


mittens.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 7:49:04 AM   
PrincessDonna11


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Joined: 8/7/2011
Status: offline 		I just feel like a Dom asking what a sub already knows is a red flag,this is what subs have told me. Most Dommes want to trin a sub to their own specs.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 8:45:35 AM   
chatterbox24


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Joined: 1/22/2012
Status: offline 		I question if someone is a dom if they seem needy. Might just be me but I always think of a Dom as I can take you or leave you type guy, especially at first.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 9:05:36 AM   
kalikshama


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subbyinlosangele

quote:

ORIGINAL: shaggydaddy

sub/slaves ? for you im a dom a girl messaged me asking me to teach her the ropes i said ok will you be my slave girl said yes i will and teach me every thing i said ok tell me what u already knw we can go from there i have not heard back from the girl in three days whats wrong what did i say wrong ? please read and if you can help inbox me are message here thank you very much


Maybe she's a gal who needs punctuation in her life.



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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 6:41:28 PM   
shaggydaddy


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From: tyler texas
Status: offline 		thank you all and for u Endivius
i dont care if anybody likes the way i type its me not you get over it you and every one that dont like it im tired of evry one talking about that so wat i cant type like the rest of you i am not you

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 7:22:58 PM   
OsideGirl


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From: United States
Status: offline 		Okay, so we covered this before and you had started to make the effort to communicate clearly. So, getting pissed off doesn't help. It's already been discussed that most will view it as ineffective and not paint you in a positive light.

As for the girl, a slave is not made in the first email. Neither is a sub. Take it slowly and get to know her. Let her get to know you. It's not something done with a spit handshake. You're very new and I still think you should get out and meet real people.

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RE: Ignored by slave - 6/9/2012 7:55:13 PM   
Endivius


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Joined: 8/22/2011
Status: offline 		I don't know how it is possible anyone over the age of 10 is incapable of typing in coherent sentances. Between myspace, facebook, foursquare, the internet, and the redily supply of computers available in our every day lives, it is bizzare. It's like coming accross a 40 year old who can't tie thier own shoes. You just go, "WTF?!" But maybe at the ripe age of 32 I'm too old to keep up with the next generation's gramatical failures to understand the trials and tribulations they are going through. Maybe it's just too hard being a kid these days. Then again, maybe you are just lazy. I'm not gonna judge you. I don't give a fuck. The audience you are targetting on the other hand, different story.

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