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Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: Is greeting your signficant other (6/16/2012 8:30:11 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
A picture is worth a thousand words. This is one of the most beautiful sights that have ever graced my eyes.
[img]http://residentsadist.com/pics/donnaatthedoor.jpg[/img]
"when they return home, say from work, part of your ritual? Do you see this as part of a BDSM ritual?"
In my mind, relationships require maintenance. When I get home, I like to take several minutes to focus on my relationship. We both pay respect to each other. She kisses my feet and welcomes me. She tells me why she is glad I own her and talks about something specific that has touched her. I tell her how she has enriched my life, how much I value having her. I take a moment to give her a 'good girl' by telling her something specific she has done that reinforces my love and appreciation for her.
Once, I had a house guest witness this greeting ritual and he was so moved, tears came to his eyes. He said it was one the most touching things he had ever seen and that we had merged leather and love to a point that it transcended kink. For me BDSM is also relationship tool, a style in which we express our affections, passions, love and sex.
I also like to start the day with erotic spankings. It reinforces her position to me. She brings me coffee or breakfast in bed, and wakes me up with sex. I ask, "have you had you spankings yet today?" Over my knee she goes, and when her cheeks are good and rosy, I put my fingers in her and make her squirt.
For me, BDSM rituals reinforce the bond of the relationship. It isn't just leather, kink or role reinforcement, but it is taking time with each other each day that strengthens the bond. How long does it take to start the day with food and sex? How long does it take to greet each other with respect after the work day ends? You get what you pay for. Paying respect is a good investment for me.
Seeing my slave kneeling when I come home is one of the sweetest sights in the world to me.
Now I am curious what my husband would do if I met him at the door like that? There are times I don't even hear him come in, he loves that since it give him a chance to scare the crap out of me. When we lived in our old house it was right by the railroad, on an episode of FBI files they talked about gangs traveling by the railroad that were very dangerous and one was a serial killer they were chasing. That freaked me out a bit since the train stops quite often to switch onto the spur line into town. My husband got off work early one night while I was taking a shower. I did not get a hi I am home early, nope he went down into his shop got and ax and burst into the bathroom yelling holding the ax up. I think people up in St Louis may have heard me followed by his laughing.
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