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I have a question - 6/14/2012 10:09:14 PM   
breazygrim


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Status: offline 		are any dome's willing to mentor a some what newbie male in the bdsm and fetish lifestyle?
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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 2:15:00 AM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		some are and some are not. the ones who are you would have better luck finding in person at munches

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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 2:44:37 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		In many cases it will depend on what you mean by the word "mentor"

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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 3:45:22 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		It looks like you are plugged into the Goth scene. Have you tried looking for a Domme there?

I don't know where to start with profile rewrite suggestions for you. Do spend some time reading the threads with profile suggestions here.


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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 5:20:41 AM   
SadisticMs2


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Status: offline 		What do you mean by mentor?

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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 9:49:22 AM   
QueenRah


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Status: offline 		Yes. Come here. Since you've left the idea of "mentoring" completely unspecified, as so graciously noted by the other Ladies, I'll do the clarifications. :D

QueenRah in "Hollywood East," NC

edited for tipagriphacol orrers

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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 9:50:58 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Were you trying to say grandiously or graciously, QR?

Thow me a liddle mentoring here.

LOL.

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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 9:57:30 AM   
QueenRah


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Status: offline 		On a more serious, and, hopefully, more helpful, note: Try a munch. Painless, often educational, meeting with like-minded and, sometimes, not-entirely like-minded folks. Meetings are discreet, private and do not involve play. People tend to be polite and helpful. You go to meet, mingle and learn things. If you attend a play party, you are not required to play. You may observe, involve yourself, if invited, or move to a non-play area and simply converse with others.

Don't go there with your agenda on your sleeve. As eager as you may be to dive into experience, it may put others off to have you slavering for that experience. Go there to learn.

Best luck!

QR

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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 10:16:20 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Mentoring is a hot button issue for me. AUNTIE Hib helps a lot of people...it's a leather thing. But mentor?

In the business world, mentors are people who have done the same job as you, who know the pitfalls. I can mentor someone interested in the top side. After all these years, I can confidently say that I know fuck all about submission. I was raised to serve, i can train the service path, but as to the issues someone who is wired to submit has? I have nothing to offer.

When I see a dom/top offer to "mentor" someone not their gender, if they have never served themselves...well, Disapproving Hib Disapproves.

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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 10:27:34 AM   
kalikshama


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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 10:38:29 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		^^^^exactly!!

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RE: I have a question - 6/15/2012 10:51:05 AM   
QueenRah


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Status: offline 		Easy on the typing, before the reading, Hibbity-Hibs. If you'll note: I was joking! I am no-one's mentor, and I have no interest in either guiding a new subbie through the ropes, nor teaching a less-experienced Dominant how to do what I do. If you'll note, pt. II: I suggested the young one try munches, first, in order to get an idea of what it is that others do. So, easy, there. Okie-doke?

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