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sunshinemiss -> RE: Online relationships (6/19/2012 3:29:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum
Comparing a collage class to a online BDSM relationship as one imparts knowledge and the other is more about feelings.
BadOne
Hello Darling,
We're talking apples and oranges, I think. I was responding to "it's not a relationship" mentioned earlier - which is why I brought up work, family, and friendship relationships - all of which I have online. I'm pretty sure I have feelings toward my sisters - sometimes they drive me crazy, but those are feelings nonetheless. :)
We have a variety of media set up in society these days in which we can interact. The first time a smoke signal was sent or mirrors used to send messages, we started having long distance relationships. They are only as good as the persons on either end. This is not really a new phenomenon. The availability of it to the masses is new.
I will say though that romantic relationships are difficult from a distance. There needs to be a dang strong foundation in order to maintain them. Lady Pact brings up the point of her husband being deployed. Women have been (and more men recently) left at home due to military deployment and maintained relationships with their sweethearts. It's not new. There's a reason people wrote letters and sent them to the front - to maintain the relationships. I've had one or two long distance, romantic relationships in my time - after being involved in real life - and they are exponentially more difficult. But relationships that have strong foundations - marriage, family, longterm friendships, etc. - can utilize the technology to get over the gap.
Other relationships - like work, university, etc. - can also be successful if your goal fits within the medium. I do writing projects with people in other countries. Writing is predominantly a solitary activity. It doesn't matter if I send the my part via email or hand him a piece of paper face to face. He just needs my words. In fact, in some ways it is better this way. I am able to work with his portion right away if I'm in "Creative Mind" and not have to deal with all the niceties of manners. Someone who is editing my work, doesn't need to talk to me. They need to just share info with me. Tidy little boxes in a document are more than sufficient for that.
There are always ways relationships can work - it's a matter of being realistic and not expecting more from them than the medium allows. I sure would like a piece of my mom's pumpkin pie, though!
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