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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 9:41:35 PM

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I used that one in Olive branch MS. Lol. I was just wondering what others say. We are happy saying we are a "quouple".

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 12:30:26 AM

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i don't have kids, giving my opinion here...

i think that's a rude question, esp from strangers. i would answer "of course" and smile.

for friends and acquaintances, i would say "of course", but follow with "in every way, except by blood".

btw - i'm assuming you adopted mixed race kids?

O-M-G...this has got to be the biggest laugh of the day!! I won't mention what I said out loud after reading this post. ;)

As for your "freak the nillas out" post, I do hope you were joking about handling the situation in that manner, if it were you. The suggested etiquette in BDSM is to not intentionally involve non-kinksters in your kink.

As to the OP, I don't have any slaves - not my particular bent - but from what you've described, I would just answer "no" and leave it at that. Nothing more is required. If pressed on the issue, you could always say "we're a family.". Anything beyond that and I would politely reply "it's personal", or, make a distinctive change of topic, which would strongly imply you are not willing to discuss the subject further. That's my 2¢. ;)

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 11:29:35 AM

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Thanks D, that is good advice.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 1:03:03 PM

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I got great advice from a friend of Mine...he said "we are family, a non conventional modern family". I think that's spot on.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 4:04:46 PM

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Wow, some one woke up with out coffee this morning. ^^^

Sweetie, no one is trying hard. It is just something we don't mind sharing, or hiding for that matter. And I'm quite aware "quouple" isn't a word. It's called a funny play on words, where you mix two words up to make one. You should try chillaxing, see what I did there?

Karm, no, no kids. My husband has two female slaves. They are 22 and 23, everyone asks if they are our kids...I was wondering what others would say in this position. We simply told the truth.

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if you are well aware that quouple isn't a word why did you use that term? what was the best result you hoped for? confusion? anxiety? the waitress is just doing her job, a hard job near minimum wage, she doesn't need you showing off your quouple relationship. Have a coffee and live your own life without trying too hard to mess with other people's lives.
twarse...

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 4:21:45 PM

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In our world, clip was never mistaken for offspring. Very few people actually asked. One guy wanted to ask My husband at one point if he was aware that there was another man living in the house. He just said yes and that ended the conversation.

Depending on who is doing the asking, I just always said that we were poly and let it go from there. (We can't give that answer when the question comes from someone who is connected with their work, if you know what I mean.) It's obviously not confused with polygamy in our case, because we were one female and two males. You may want to use the word polyamory, rather than shorten it to avoid confusion. It's possible to tell the truth without being explicit. Friends, roommates, and other less descriptive terms are still true. I mean, most people don't really need to know the intricate details of your life when it's just a chance meeting. It's up to you and the members of your household how open you want to be.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 4:23:50 PM

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O-M-G...this has got to be the biggest laugh of the day!! I won't mention what I said out loud after reading this post. ;)

As for your "freak the nillas out" post, I do hope you were joking about handling the situation in that manner, if it were you. The suggested etiquette in BDSM is to not intentionally involve non-kinksters in your kink.

glad i could entertain you. glad to hear you think there's a specific etiquette for all situations. you need to lighten up for your own good ;) superior-itice isn't pretty.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 6:41:40 PM

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I said something about this in a thread while ago and it got Me to thinking. What do you tell people if they ask?

We always get asked if the girls are our children. One of them looks like she could be, she looks very baby faced and her skin color looks as if she could be mixed. So we get that all the time. Just wondering what everyone else says. This would probably be geared more towards poly families (might should post this there instead) as a Domme and sub could look like a regular couple.

Tell them this:

That couple in Australia years ago that said "the Dingo's ate my bayyyyybeeeeee's".....were lying sacks.

You and hub were camped 3 camp sites to the East and you took their child.

Three weeks later, because that couple was excoriated by the press, you took 1 more child from the same campground from a completely different couple, but they were afraid to say anything to the press.

Then you came home to TN.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 6:52:27 PM

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I said something about this in a thread while ago and it got Me to thinking. What do you tell people if they ask?

We always get asked if the girls are our children. One of them looks like she could be, she looks very baby faced and her skin color looks as if she could be mixed. So we get that all the time. Just wondering what everyone else says. This would probably be geared more towards poly families (might should post this there instead) as a Domme and sub could look like a regular couple.

Tell them this:

That couple in Australia years ago that said "the Dingo's ate my bayyyyybeeeeee's".....were lying sacks.

You and hub were camped 3 camp sites to the East and you took their child.

Three weeks later, because that couple was excoriated by the press, you took 1 more child from the same campground from a completely different couple, but they were afraid to say anything to the press.

Then you came home to TN.

oh noes, are u tryin' to freak out da nillas?

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 7:06:36 PM

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yes, just make it clear you're all laughing AT the waitress, and not the subs (unless of course, y'all into public humiliation)

I'd leave the poor servers out of it. At some establishments over here they're told that a requirement of their job is they *have* to chit-chat 30 seconds before saying, "Are you ready to order?"

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 7:10:08 PM

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Yea, I would never laugh at the server. She just kept asking so I felt the need to tell her the truth. I am not the type to belittle or laugh at, unless I'm getting paid,lol.

Tee hee.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 7:57:15 PM

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yes, just make it clear you're all laughing AT the waitress, and not the subs (unless of course, y'all into public humiliation)

I'd leave the poor servers out of it. At some establishments over here they're told that a requirement of their job is they *have* to chit-chat 30 seconds before saying, "Are you ready to order?"

i'd generally agree. but there's plenty to chat about. and when they ask stupid personal type questions for women that would NOT seem to be "theirs", then they open themselves up to that (awkward answers). now, i'm not saying TNDommeK should have done that. in fact, i thought she was talking about mixed race kids at that time, for some reason, and not slaves. still the same concept though. funny how only she noticed that :)

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Gawd what an idiot, do you even read before letting bullshit fly off your fingertips? But I will break it down for you in powder form, I used the word "quouple" because it's quirky, and because I can. Showing off? again, try reading. You can't be this dense. Then again maybe you can. Oh and good job on mixing your words, glad you came up with that all by yourself.

^ truth being spoken

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 9:11:02 PM

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Well I actually read what is being written, ;)

Your avi through Me off. I have been thinking about changing Mine again.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/19/2012 10:26:29 PM

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Perhaps, simply "We are family" would suffice.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/20/2012 1:08:33 AM

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It seems like a small thing to those who don't face those kinds of questions, K. You also have to consider the feelings of your family. Some don't like being called *just* a roommate. Maybe you should sit down at talk about it. See how everyone feels or if they even care. Remember, your family is always the most important.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/20/2012 1:32:14 AM

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*snort* This more than likely isn't the answer you are looking for but all my boys and girls look younger than I do. In some cases I do look old enough to be their mom. When people ask I tell them "Yes, these are my babies" I did that once when there were seven people standing around me and very much confused the person that asked. I'm a domme momme though so they are my kids. But then I have a habit of saying yes those are my kids when I take my sons friends out for pizza too. I don't care much for people invading my airspace to ask questions so I give them the simple answer.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/20/2012 1:36:04 AM

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in fact, i thought she was talking about mixed race kids at that time, for some reason, and not slaves.

That's 'cause you're 'nilla. :P

TNDommeK mentioned poly after all. But bein' 'nilla, I can see why you missed that point. :P

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RE: What do you say? - 6/20/2012 11:48:51 AM

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Dusky, we used that before. It sometimes works for people who aren't too nosey. lol Thank you.
LP, you are right, My family's feelings mean the most, and we have talked about it. They as well as I have the notion of "we don't want to hide what we are" (of course they know when to do so). MIP, I actually do that now, except I say those are My girls,lol. I wouldn't say that I am a mommy Domme, but He is a daddy Dom and so basically their relationships have transformed Me to be so,lol.

But I like the "we are an unconventional, modern family", has a nice ring to it.

Thanks everyone, by the way for pitching ideas, ya'll have been so helpful.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/20/2012 1:06:51 PM

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It seems like a small thing to those who don't face those kinds of questions, K. You also have to consider the feelings of your family. Some don't like being called *just* a roommate. Maybe you should sit down at talk about it. See how everyone feels or if they even care. Remember, your family is always the most important.

that, and...

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*snort* This more than likely isn't the answer you are looking for but all my boys and girls look younger than I do. In some cases I do look old enough to be their mom. When people ask I tell them "Yes, these are my babies" I did that once when there were seven people standing around me and very much confused the person that asked. I'm a domme momme though so they are my kids. But then I have a habit of saying yes those are my kids when I take my sons friends out for pizza too. I don't care much for people invading my airspace to ask questions so I give them the simple answer.

reminds me of the biggest argument i ever had with my "girlfriend". we were at the mall, and someone asked who she was. i can't remember if they might have thought she was my kid, or whatever.

we hadn't really talked about what we call each other, so i told the clerk she was my "friend".

that argument was a doooooosey! like, so i'm just your "friend"? what happened to the devotion?

ugh, not a fun day.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/20/2012 4:48:59 PM

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If you think that is funny try having one that calls you girl or boy/friend when you would rather they didn't. The ex used "girlfriend" to mean I wasn't his domme. I couldn't get him to understand I thought "girlfriend" was insulting.

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