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RaspberryLemon -> RE: Virginal Girlfriend (6/20/2012 3:48:30 PM)
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My best advice for you is to take it slow and respect her boundaries. She has never done this before and is probably nervous and needs to get comfortable with it at her own pace. On top of that it's not just sex, it's fetish sex. So be extra careful.
That being said, I was a virgin when my Master and I got together. He was patient with me (although frustrated at times, he respected me and my comfort zone) and we worked through the paces gradually. D/s undertones were there throughout all of it, and that was previously not something I had even thought about, but it just felt pretty natural to me and I liked it. We mutually discovered it together in our journey with each other. He was not new to sex like I was, but he had only had minimal experience with sex involving BDSM.
Since you already have a very good idea that you want and enjoy S&M activities, your interactions with her are probably going to go a little differently. I wouldn't push it on her, but talking about what she thinks she'd like to experiment and suggesting things that you like is a good idea. If she's open to it, that's good and you can start experimenting lightly (within her comfort zone, of course.)
However, if she is not open to the idea, I wouldn't advise continuing a sexual relationship with her unless you are sure you would be ok with only "vanilla" sex with her. And definitely, if you are not ok with only "vanilla" sex, don't think that you can convince her later to try it if she isn't open to it now--you may or may not be able to convince her, but it isn't fair to her to lead her on and take her virginity knowing full well that your relationship will only work if she gets into S&M later.
A virgin is not exactly the best candidate for assured kinky sex, so if that's mainly what you're after, then I'd move on. If you really care about the girl and want a relationship with her though, regardless of whether or not you end up having said kinky sex, then proceed.
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