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When the Dom is away... - 6/20/2012 6:41:32 PM   
Melison


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Status: offline 		So just curious, when your Dom is away for an extended period of time do they leave you with "standing orders" of any kind? My Dom has only dabbled a little bit with limiting my orgasms but I'm hoping he ups the ante a bit, so I thought I might give him some ideas. :)
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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/20/2012 6:55:51 PM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		Yes, my Master usually gives me some major household project to keep busy with.

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/20/2012 7:28:40 PM   
Endivius


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Status: offline 		I normally stay in contact and text or call frequently. Let them know I am still a pressence, they are still on my mind. Sometimes I give them things to do (rarely kink related), but from my experience they get more enjoyment out of me doing so in person. If I want to give them something kinky to do, it's more enjoyable if I can observe them doing so. YMMV.

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/20/2012 9:04:53 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Not usually. I follow the same orders as always...obey, be pleasing, be respectful. Master doesn't really have a lot a lot of rules. The rules he gives me are basic rules that I have to follow whether he's here or not, like no caffeine. If I have a question for him or need something then I just call or text him and he gets back to me. It's not difficult. Plus he calls me pretty much everyday whether he's here or elsewhere. He trusts me to be a good person and slave and that I shouldn't need to follow a lot of rules because he chose a slave who can basically be on her own and knows how to live my life responsibly on my own. I mean, I'm 40 years old. If I haven't figured that out already then I'm one big ditz and not someone he would want as his slave.


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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/20/2012 10:30:05 PM   
RaspberryLemon


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Status: offline 		When my Master has been gone for long periods of time, the only "standing order" I've received is basically just "take care of yourself." Basically I'm just expected to conduct myself in the way he expects of me all the time, and take extra thought in taking good care of myself.

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/20/2012 10:53:09 PM   
Kana


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quote:

If I haven't figured that out already then I'm one big ditz and not someone he would want as his slave.


You're not a ditz?

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/20/2012 11:15:46 PM   
littlewonder


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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/21/2012 7:15:23 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Unless there's something specific that needs to be done, he does not. We've been together for 12 years. If I haven't figured it out by now, I'm not going to.

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/21/2012 8:09:09 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I have no standing orders.  He does not have may rules for me  but the ones he does have i follow almost automatically.  I just got back fronm vacation  Master could not come  it was a family reunion so i was requierd to go .  Master was supposed to come but work got in the way.  I bought a few outfits to bring with me and i asked his approval  so if he did not approve i would return them.  I was pretty sure he would approve after over 6 years i know what he likes to see me in, he did approve.  So no standing orders just to be his good girl.

Matt's littleone

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/22/2012 4:28:50 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		The girl is second in command in the relationship. So when I'm not there, the only "standing orders" are to maintain things how she knows I want them maintained.

That means that while her orgasms are her business during my absence, I don't wanna get home and find (for example) that she's decided to try that god-awful pre-pubescent look so popular with modern women...!

Focus.

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/22/2012 6:55:13 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Morning and night emails.
Keep the cell phone with me.
Don't stay up all night reading.
Remember to eat regular meals.

Boring stuff, I know.

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/22/2012 8:13:38 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		Usually there is a "pecking order" so to speak. When we are gone, the girls know not to burn the house down but if there is an issue, the one who has been here the longest will take care of it.

Littlewonder, I love your new avi pic!!

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/22/2012 8:36:38 PM   
avena


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Status: offline 		Nope. No standing orders when he's away...or when I'm away either, for that matter. We stay in regular contact when one of us is out of town, via text. Sometime's he'll randomly text me with an order or two, usually about a particular toy he'd like me to wear that day. It's one of his little pleasures imagining me blushing and squirming while wearing a toy in public, and he knows I'll share all those moments with him as soon as I can, via text.


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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/23/2012 7:53:29 AM   
kalikshama


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quote:

I don't wanna get home and find (for example) that she's decided to try that god-awful pre-pubescent look so popular with modern women...!


Strange, I don't mind this on other women but can't abide it for me.

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/24/2012 7:49:04 AM   
catize


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Status: offline 		You may want to consider upping the ante yourself; learn to cook a favorite meal of his; clean the house until it shines, write him erotic stories...........etc etc.
Instead of giving him ideas on how to manage your time, give yourself ideas on learning about things that will please him on his return

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RE: When the Dom is away... - 6/24/2012 8:46:25 AM   
graceadieu


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From: Maryland
Status: offline 		You know, he's actually never gone on a trip without me in the whole time we've been together (3.5 years). But when I go away by myself (family obligations etc), I know what he expects of me in a general sense and I follow it. We don't have a lot of rules anyway.

By the way, since you brought it up, orgasm/sexual control is (IMO) awesome and hot and can be a great way to establish and reinforce control. Knowing that, no matter how horny you might be, you can't do anything about it without permission? Yum. But just so you know, after a while, when you've internalized that your sexuality doesn't belong to you, you may start to have trouble with or feel guilty about getting off on your own, even with permission.

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