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UsableSexSlave -> Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 4:08:40 AM)

Like having an itch you can only scratch around the edges, where is the end of that sexual high? We have chased it all our relationship and when we think we have it, it disappears and we have to begin the search again.

I would like to think that when we have finished our current search, it will end but I know once we have reach it we are going to need to find a new kink to get that amazing high again.

Dont get me wrong all orgasms are wonderful but nothing beats that first kinky orgasm.




Endivius -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 4:26:38 AM)

spoken like a truely inexperienced novice. I assure you the thrills of the first kinky sexual encounter are nothing compared to the boundless experiences and sensations available.


Expand your horizon grasshoppa.




UsableSexSlave -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 4:44:50 AM)

That is why we are here. We have just about done every fetish, MFM, MMFM, public, 100 other more etc and still looking. Hoping we find that answers here and find peace








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ORIGINAL: Endivius

spoken like a truely inexperienced novice. I assure you the thrills of the first kinky sexual encounter are nothing compared to the boundless experiences and sensations available.


Expand your horizon grasshoppa.





DesFIP -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 6:39:57 AM)

Not true here. We still enjoy the same things we did in the beginning.

I wonder if you are like this in other areas of your life. No favorite foods that you cook regularly? Are you always seeking a new dish with stronger sensations?

If not, then why can't you enjoy something repeatedly.




GreedyTop -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 6:54:30 AM)

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We have just about done every fetish, MFM, MMFM, public, 100 other


I guarantee, you haven't even scratched the surface.




JstAnotherSub -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 6:58:58 AM)


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ORIGINAL: UsableSexSlave

That is why we are here. We have just about done every fetish, MFM, MMFM, public, 100 other more etc and still looking. Hoping we find that answers here and find peace













I know it might seem crazy, but have ya tried talking to each other and letting your minds turn each other on a bit? The action is 5% of it, for me anyhow. 95% is right between the ears, and if there is no connection there, fucking 7 midgets while the bearded lady watches, diddling her self and letting the lobster man fist her, just aint exciting at all.




UsableSexSlave -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 7:12:44 AM)

Yes we still do the same things we have done for 15yrs and still love doing it. Our love making isn't the problem as we do it on a regular basis and very much in love. Sex is also wonderful and yes we still mix it up and enjoy it.
But I find there is that high we give each other when we go crazy and acheive that 10,000watt extra tingle by being as one to fulfill an unexplained desire.

Just must be us or I didn't explain myself in the right way?



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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub


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ORIGINAL: UsableSexSlave

That is why we are here. We have just about done every fetish, MFM, MMFM, public, 100 other more etc and still looking. Hoping we find that answers here and find peace













I know it might seem crazy, but have ya tried talking to each other and letting your minds turn each other on a bit? The action is 5% of it, for me anyhow. 95% is right between the ears, and if there is no connection there, fucking 7 midgets while the bearded lady watches, diddling her self and letting the lobster man fist her, just aint exciting at all.





81song -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 7:13:27 AM)

I think it is a life long train ride. What your 1st session is or is not is in your mind. But being at the feet of a kind Domme and the act of pure surrender is only the 1st step. You are not there to get your rocks off. You are there for HER pleasure. The only high I can think of is your gift to her,




Kana -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 7:18:13 AM)

I don't chase a sexual high. I chase getting to know her deeper, better, faster, now.
The sexual high springs from said knowledge.




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 8:14:30 AM)

What Kana said.





ResidentSadist -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 10:14:01 AM)

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nothing beats that first kinky orgasm


If that is the case, I sincerely think you might be doing it as well as it can be done. As I grow older, the sexual aspects just keep getting better and more intense. My latest orgasms are usually among the best. As my partner gets to know me, a good partner, I can eventually teach her to give male multiple orgasms. As I get to know her, I have always been able to teach them to have multiple squirting orgasms. Sure, as the relationship grows you also have sexual affection, quickies and stuff that doesn't always invoke an orgasm that registers on the local seismograph, but you can when set your mind to it . . . if you do it well.

In the ResidentHousehold, that awesome first kinky scare-o-gasm months ago is rarely better than the orgasm she had during her slave's bath last night. That first kinky orgasm was inspired by something that made it special. Perhaps it was the thrill of forbidden fruit, a new level of trust, doing something that violated previous boundaries. If you want that intensity again, you have to revisit the reason sex has so intense during those first kinky explorations, not the act. For example, if it was forbidden fruit, that fruit has now became standard table fare . . . it's not forbidden anymore. So it isn't the actual kink or fetish like MFM, MMFM, public etc, it was the reason that kink was hot that made it intense.

As Kana mentioned, there are many factors that enhance the sexual experience. It's a different set of emotions and factors for everyone. Knowing your partner well enough to press their 'kink buttons' at the right time or discover new ones is what makes your last experience better than the first.

As GreedyTop said, your bucket list doesn't scratch the surface. Dive in and find the passion that gives you the sexual thrills you seek. You may find the list of things you haven't done that will thrill you is much bigger than those you have done.

Good luck.




AnimusRex -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 1:12:02 PM)

If you have done everything, and still have an insatiable itch, maybe it isn't whats between your legs that needs attention.




angelikaJ -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 1:16:39 PM)

I think I may be an odd person in that I have never found sex (or play) with [my] Master to be boring.

Every time is new for me because I focus on connecting to the present moment through Him.

No two times together are exactly the same; no 2 kisses alike.




littlewonder -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 3:06:46 PM)

Thankfully I've never had this with Master or anyone else for that matter. I don't look for sexual highs. I look for a connection with someone that makes the sex fun and interesting every single time because of who he is.

It seems from your two posts you have on here that basically you're bored with your wife so you're looking for the next high. I think you two may need marriage counseling if this is what's happening because in reality, you will eventually get to a point where you'll find nothing new with her and you will start cheating on her if you haven't already.

Without marriage counseling I don't see your marriage lasting more than another year.




BurntKitty -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 4:14:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

<snip>... fucking 7 midgets while the bearded lady watches, diddling her self and letting the lobster man fist her, just aint exciting at all.



Hell, I call that a Wednesday matinee. [:D]




angelikaJ -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 4:29:53 PM)

A question to the original poster:

(and it is not meant in any derogatory way)

How much porn do you watch?

edit: Specifically, how many hours per day or week do you watch?




JstAnotherSub -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/23/2012 4:35:23 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BurntKitty


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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

<snip>... fucking 7 midgets while the bearded lady watches, diddling her self and letting the lobster man fist her, just aint exciting at all.


Hell, I call that a Wednesday matinee. [:D]


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LadyPact -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/24/2012 4:31:17 PM)

I don't know if I'm reading this right. If not, please bare with Me.

If you chase one high after another, but aren't having that when it's just sex between you and your partner, I'd be a little concerned. Yes! Threesome (and moresome) sex is fucking great, but it's not "better" than sex with just him and I. Sex during blood play (for Me) is OMG hot but so is sex without it.

I do think the first time you do something, there is a special little thrill in it because you've never done it before. It's just a different kind of hot when you do it the next time. Kind of like everybody remembers the first time they got laid, the first kinky sexual experience holds a special place in our memory. If that was the best sexual experience ever, that would be setting the bar pretty low.





Karmastic -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/24/2012 7:09:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: UsableSexSlave

That is why we are here. We have just about done every fetish, MFM, MMFM, public, 100 other more etc and still looking. Hoping we find that answers here and find peace


there is no answer that leads to peace. it's the journey.

no offense, but i think you''re chasing BDSM as perhaps one more attempt to find some inner peace or something very deep. that can come from BDSM. but it can come from a lot of other things as well.

i don't know a better way to say this, so i mean no offense meant at all here: what i'm saying is, you don't need instruction on BDSM, you perhaps need a psychologist. because while BDSM (or any number of other things) may help you attain inner peace, you will not find inner peace within BDSM.




DomMeinCT -> RE: Finding that sex high (6/24/2012 8:29:11 PM)


Three (reasonable) posts and conversation from the OP with others in this thread and you're diagnosing their need to see a psychologist? [8|]




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