Karmastic
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had to edit my to agree with this..
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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady
There are so many ways to do things...
On the other hand, I do find it ridiculous that so many people think that so many of their "issues" are BDSM related, when the reality is that BDSM is but one component of a relationship, a dynamic they choose to have in their relationship.
I have found that the majority of "what do I do about xyz" questions have very little to do with BDSM and everything to do with a relationship. The delusion that for some reason, basic relationship issues are different or "special" because of a power dynamic make me wonder how some people have been able to function as a human being, especially when the person asking the question isn't a "kid" (and yes, to someone almost 50, anyone under 25 is still a "kid").
Mostly these questions ...
Yes, there are things that work a bit differently in a power dynamic, but if you pay attention to those who have long term successful relationships, it isn't because they "truly have an idea" what BDSM is about, it is because they know that relationships are work and take communication to succeed. Those people's relationships are successful because, more often than not, they have taken the time to get to know each other, develop trust in each other as people (not dom/sub) and have a mutual respect for each other, even if the way it is shown because of the power dynamic is different.
freakin wise words!!!!!
it's rare that i agree with that person.
PiratesAhoy, this is all normal.
I think it's all good, interesting, educational, and fun and entertaining.
What's good is people share. That's the point of a forum.
It's interesting to see the different POVs. People out there that think up things we as individuals would never think of.
It's educational and intellectually stimulating because a smart person can learn even from stupid people. All the banter above about possibly hurting someone who is going to follow internet advice is poppycock. And, there still are plenty of smart people here posting.
It's fun to see people who's ego and self worth seem to be wrapped up in the BDSM accredited coat of arms. I mean, unless we're talking about strapping configurations, or techniques (which is the extreme rarity here), the actual reality is that most everything that's asked/discussed here involves humans dealing with other humans about human relationships. BDSM is just another layer upon that. That's not to diminish that BDSM is akin to any other lifestyle or even religion, where one can become a guru by educating themselves with learning and experience, and diving into the lifestyle. My hat is off to those for whom this makes them happy.
But realize that many of us don't even use the BDSM label, and thus, we're newbs in the eyes those mentioned above. That type of person is the entertaining part - reading the words they choose, their line of attack, and watching them get irritated with someone who doesn't speak their provincial language of BDSM. Provincial in this sense:
3. Limited in perspective; narrow and self-centered.
It's hilarious when they go off about how many years "experience" they have, and jump up and down and say "I was here before you, and will still be here when you're gone". Sounds like the old man waving his stick at the man from some distant village about how only his village knows how to cook coconuts.
< Message edited by Karmastic -- 7/3/2012 3:19:33 PM >
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