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WOW - 7/3/2012 5:06:13 PM

brattybabe4u

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I decided to follow a vanilla path in dating to find a compatible partner and yes, its difficult. I'm so lucky to find a wonderful man who is just amazing with so many similiar interests...he is a very sensual man.....OMG an amazing lover and begs me to take him further. But I've always followed the lead of experienced DOMS for training (I prefer being dominant).

With very little "guidance or teaching" experience......how do I introduce him to a sensual experience beyond vanilla.......I do have skills in blindfolds, bondage/rope, scarves etc. but I really love this man in the vanilla sense and do NOT want to scare him away.

I would appreciate the advice of those experienced who guided a novice.........

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RE: WOW - 7/3/2012 6:50:58 PM

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Talk to him. Explain that you like rough sex and has he any interest in it. Then let him explore on his own to find out what he is attracted to. Give him the website of a bdsm checklist and have him fill it out. But accept his decisions. So if he says he isn't interested, then you have to decide if kink is that important to you or not.

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RE: WOW - 7/3/2012 8:06:20 PM

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When my (now ex) husband and I were noobs, we read several of these books together: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

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RE: WOW - 7/3/2012 8:10:31 PM

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