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LookieNoNookie -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 5:59:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist If "sending a picture is a deal-breaker" then you are probably a lot better off not going to that meeting. I've always seen a photo first and in fact will not engage in a second online communication if I have no idea what they look like. I always send potential chics a picture of Peon's abs.

frazzle -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 6:08:04 PM)
LOL To the Op. Asking to see who you are planning to meet is normal for most. Some may not have preferences, but most of us actually have to like the look of the person we're considering dating.

LadyPact -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 8:11:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist I'm as fun loving and adventurous as the next man, yet I'm not a dumbass. I state that because I was approach by a member on the other side of the site. The conversations seemed pleasant enough to warrant a meeting in real-time. This particular profile doesn't have a picture as most don't for the sake of discretion. When approached for said meeting in real time I explained to this person that I would need to see a picture so that I knew who or what I was meeting and this person told me that them sending a picture is a deal-breaker. I was floored at that simply because Im sure everyone isnt a monster, but how do you expect someone to just believe that everyone isnt a monster. Am I wrong for discontinuing communication with said person for not being able to show who they are? Yes, you're wrong. Really, what the fuck is wrong with you? Can you only meet people from the site if they are fuck material? I don't send anybody pics of Me. I don't cam. I don't talk on the phone. Yet, I am one of the most successful (at least in the top ten) people who have met other folks from this site. To date, as far as I know, nobody has been disappointed in meeting Me.

LaTigresse -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 8:18:31 PM)
Hell LadyP, you are one of the few people from here, I would invite to my home (if you were in da hood of course) and.......without you sending me a photo first!

LadyPact -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 8:25:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Hell LadyP, you are one of the few people from here, I would invite to my home (if you were in da hood of course) and.......without you sending me a photo first! Well, LaT, that really is Me to the left. (I'll even let you verify that is the tat on My left breast.) Not to be all kumbiya on the boards and stuff, you and GD are welcome in My home any time. What? You said that you'd like to come to Alaska.

DomMeinCT -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 8:49:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist I'm as fun loving and adventurous as the next man, yet I'm not a dumbass. I state that because I was approach by a member on the other side of the site. The conversations seemed pleasant enough to warrant a meeting in real-time. This particular profile doesn't have a picture as most don't for the sake of discretion. When approached for said meeting in real time I explained to this person that I would need to see a picture so that I knew who or what I was meeting and this person told me that them sending a picture is a deal-breaker. I was floored at that simply because Im sure everyone isnt a monster, but how do you expect someone to just believe that everyone isnt a monster. Am I wrong for discontinuing communication with said person for not being able to show who they are? The one thing you've guaranteed yourself sticking to your "photo or no meet" rule for that the person who seemed promising, you'll never know if they were the one. For goodness sakes, it's meeting for a cup of coffee in a public place - how big a risk is that? And if having to see a photo is such a hard line for you, why not save yourself the trouble and put that right up front in your profile?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 8:53:13 PM)
I meet with people without having photos exchanged. We manage to find each other just fine without that bit of help. Do what you makes you happy. My former slave had ten year old pics of himself up, and I suspect he's not the only person to be less than flawlessly honest on the interwebs. Whoops.

MissToYouRedux -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 8:58:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT And if having to see a photo is such a hard line for you, why not save yourself the trouble and put that right up front in your profile? The above [:)], and then note what Lady Hibiscus said. There are no guarantees with pictures of or sent by others.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 9:23:30 PM)
Normally, I like to see a picture of someone before we meet. NOT because I'm judging ahead of time whether they're fuckable or not, but so I can recognize them in the coffee shop. But the guy I'm meeting in four days doesn't have a picture and I'm meeting him anyway. He knows what I look like, so it's on him to find me among the faces. HBMG

CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 9:23:53 PM)
Ya know, the one person I met here years ago... she had pics, I didn't. Actually, I didn't have a digital camera back then and nothing to put on the puter. To be honest, I was "meh" with her pics. We chatted, we talked on the phone, we decided to meet. I was there, a public place, several men fitting my description, before I saw her, she came in from the side, under my arm and hugged me. I don't know, do what you need to do, she met me with no pic and knew me right away, I had seen her pic and was not impressed though being with her I thought she was a helluva lot more attractive than any of her pics. In hindsight, I wish no pic had been a hard limit for her... I would have had the last six years back... and we both would have been happier. No right answer. Who cares... everyone has their limits, parameters, rules for meeting.

AVegasMaster -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 9:54:51 PM)
There has been a lot of conversation here on this post. My feeling is there is nothing wrong with your request given the circunstances.

littlewonder -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 10:39:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I never asked for a pic. I never saw one of Master before I met him. I just figured I would have a cup of coffee with some guy and if I didn't like him then I had a free coffee and got out of the house for a little while. Not a big deal to me. go figure. Whodathunk it could be that simple? I know! Shocking huh? When I met Master for the first time, all he had was a fuzzy pic online. I had no idea what he looked like at all and I never asked for a clear picture. But there was this guy who was walking in front of me to the coffee shop. As we both got to the door, he said (my real name)? And that was all it took. Seemed we had no trouble recognizing each other in person.

Kana -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 11:20:20 PM)
I rarely ask for a pic. Color me romantic, but I like the mystery and the mystique. Besides, WTF would I trust a pic? Nowadays, it's as easy to lie with pics as words Wanders away, with Sinatra singing "Strangers in the Night" In the background

BootyBoy -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/6/2012 11:25:43 PM)
Kinky Artist, I don't understand... People who are out to get you don't refuse to send a picture. People who are up to no good send you a really hot picture calculated to suck you into their trap. Of course, it doesn't have to be a picture of them. An internet picture doesn't really prove anything.

ARIES83 -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/7/2012 12:24:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist If "sending a picture is a deal-breaker" then you are probably a lot better off not going to that meeting. I've always seen a photo first and in fact will not engage in a second online communication if I have no idea what they look like. I always send potential chics a picture of Peon's abs. Peon's abs are impressive, no doubt.. Id probably give a photo, aswell as like one In return, just gives you a face to put with the text, I've never met someone online though so no experience behind that, just that I think It would be the way I would start things. -ARIES

ARIES83 -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/7/2012 12:38:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I never asked for a pic. I never saw one of Master before I met him. I just figured I would have a cup of coffee with some guy and if I didn't like him then I had a free coffee and got out of the house for a little while. Not a big deal to me. go figure. Whodathunk it could be that simple? I know! Shocking huh? When I met Master for the first time, all he had was a fuzzy pic online. I had no idea what he looked like at all and I never asked for a clear picture. But there was this guy who was walking in front of me to the coffee shop. As we both got to the door, he said (my real name)? And that was all it took. Seemed we had no trouble recognizing each other in person. Haha, reading littlewonder is always a warm fluffy experience. Although it must torture all those love Sick subs that haven't yet found Mr Right. -ARIES

xLaChienne -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/7/2012 12:40:18 AM)
You asked: quote: ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist Am I wrong for discontinuing communication with said person for not being able to show who they are? Why ask? It's apparent that have a preference to "see" who you are meeting. Does it really matter what anyone else thinks? To be clear, the other person wasn't unable to show you. They chose not to. That is their preference. You aren't wrong. They aren't wrong.

Kana -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/7/2012 12:42:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xLaChienne You asked: quote: ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist Am I wrong for discontinuing communication with said person for not being able to show who they are? Why ask? It's apparent that have a preference to "see" who you are meeting. Does it really matter what anyone else thinks? To be clear, the other person wasn't unable to show you. They chose not to. That is their preference. You aren't wrong. They aren't wrong. Hey, hey-don't be getting all reasonable now. This is the interwebz-we have rules against such behavior!

ClassIsInSession -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/7/2012 12:58:12 AM)
quote: For us, 1 in 6 guys we meet is a rapist. Think about that, and why her level of security has to be so much higher than yours. Where are you getting those statistics from? If that were true, why isn't just shy of 20% of the male population in prison? Geez, no wonder women are so completely out there now. Just 10 years ago I would meet women from the internet all the time. Now the glares are unbelievable just for glancing over at a stop light. I'm sorry, but I find it very hard to believe 1 in 6 men are rapists. And for the record, I'd have no qualms or hesitation whatsoever about putting a guy out of his misery for raping anyone.

OneKinkyArtist -> RE: First Time Meetings (7/7/2012 1:08:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist Yes, you're wrong. Really, what the fuck is wrong with you? Can you only meet people from the site if they are fuck material? I don't send anybody pics of Me. I don't cam. I don't talk on the phone. Yet, I am one of the most successful (at least in the top ten) people who have met other folks from this site. To date, as far as I know, nobody has been disappointed in meeting Me. [/color] what the fuck is wrong with me?...what the fuck is wrong with you?....I never said the person had to be fuck material I wanted to see who I was talking to. if thats a problem with you then get over it. Im reading most of the posts and its sickening that after all you people say about safety concern and what the other person may or may not look like, youre getting past the issue that I wanted to see who I was talking to. Im not superficial but Im sure none of you want to fuck fucking Shrek. Spare me with all the extra shit and getting over the point. It seems as if all of you have the biggest stick up your ass and cant see past the leaves on the end of it to understand the main point. Instead of looking to find the negativity in what I said why not look at the main point and the main point is I wanted to see who the fuck I was talking to.

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