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I need a dom - 7/7/2012 1:05:46 PM   
laurbaby


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Status: offline 		I'm a slave seeking a strict dom. How do all of you subs and slaves find your doms..? I can't find one strict enough in California that's atleast under 25
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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 1:35:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I met mine online.

But before I realised he was the one I wanted and needed, I went out and about in the local fetish community, dated several dominant guys and figured out what a healthy M/s relationship looked like for me.

I continued to date, until I met Master. We started slowly - vanilla to start, then slipped into D/s and now full-blown M/s.

And it took me 8 years of looking before I found The One.

Be prepared to be picky, be prepared to put in the effort and I'm sure it'll pay off

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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 2:00:24 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurbaby
How do all of you subs and slaves find your doms..?

....In Ask a Master instead of Ask a Submissive/Slave? Anyone can reply anywhere, but that would make more sense.

NBMG

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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 2:12:03 PM   
OsideGirl


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You're in California.....you shouldn't have any trouble if you get out from behind the computer. There are TNG groups all over the place and you'll find plenty that meet your criteria.

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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 2:22:49 PM   
Endivius


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Status: offline 		Why do you look for a stable, strict, dominant figure at an age just out of college? Broaden your age rage, and open your search outside of California. Get out into the local scene and meet some people in person. There are so many factors that go into finding "the one" that you are taking a wild stab in the dark to begin with. Use all the tools available. That means joining Fetlife, going to local events and meeting people, and broadening your search criteria.


I looked at your profile, and quite frankly it's a disapointment. Explain what it is you are looking for. Explain what it is you have to offer. Being young and attractive will get you plenty of offers, being interesting and direct will get you quality offers. Flesh out your profile, are you a gormet cook? Can you give a profesional massage? Do you do arial silks? Are you a prankster? A hopeless romantic? What seperates you from the thousands of other sluts out there? These are the things I would want to know as a D. As a Dominant, I do not need to see your tits and ass pics, or hear about how you like to fist yourself. I want to know if we are a match, are you worth my time and energy? Because I can find a fuck buddy just as easily as you can. If you are serious about finding someone, take it seriously, demonstrate it. Two sentances in pink font is not being serious.

As for finding a match, you will need patience and perseverence. I see too many profiles pop up saying they have found "the one" only to be single again less than a month later. Or been to a local event and found out that a couple split after only a few days of dating because as hot as the kinky stuff was, they simply weren't compatible.

We can find anyone to fuck, have no troubles finding ones that will ldo twisted sadistic things to eachother. Finding JUST the right person, who won't bore the fuck out of us after a few weeks, that takes time. It's no different for you, me, or any of the other folks in the world, BDSM or vanilla.

< Message edited by Endivius -- 7/7/2012 2:23:27 PM >

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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 4:28:34 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Met mine here after talking a long time and then meeting him. The difference is I'm much older and wasn't looking for a "strict Dom" although he can be that at times. I was simply seeking a man who was compatible with me overall in general.

I think at your age it seems that a lot of subs want the "strict Dom" and can't find one "strict enough" because they are still in that newbie stage where they want to be forced and made to do things and they want that struggle and fight. Basically that's where you are right now. The one good thing though is at least you are looking for someone under 25 which means the younger ones will want the same thing for the most part. Here's the rub though; because they are so young they will still be insecure and not so confident as to what they are doing and will worry they are hurting you in some way. That's typical and normal for boys.

My advice is just to find someone you like as a person and see where it goes from there. Find someone maybe where you both can learn together.

Good luck.


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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 4:58:27 PM   
OsideGirl


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I think at your age it seems that a lot of subs want the "strict Dom" and can't find one "strict enough" because they are still in that newbie stage where they want to be forced and made to do things and they want that struggle and fight.


It's the not enough experience to sort out fantasy from reality phase.


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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 6:12:03 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: laurbaby
I'm a slave seeking a strict dom. How do all of you subs and slaves find your doms..? I can't find one strict enough in California that's atleast under 25

You're 18 and pretty and you can't find a dom.
You complain about all the doms being boring.

How about we go about this the other way around. Other than the fact that you're pretty, why would a really seasoned, experienced, young, and presumably handsome dom want you? You might consider taking the whining out of your profile and replacing it with the answer to that question. While you're at it, I'd encourage you to elaborate on what you think a "slave" is. I can guarantee it doesn't mean to you what it means to me and a fair number of other posters here. That's fine. But you'd do better talk in plain english and avoid the BDSM jargon on your profile.


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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 7:21:27 PM   
HisPet21


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quote:

Two sentances in pink font is not being serious.


Thanks for the laugh, Endivius.

To the OP...First, be aware that Little Wonder makes a very good point about the TNG crowd. Men under 25 will, in all likely hood, be very inexperienced and not quite comfortable in their kinky skin yet, so if you are looking for some safe but hardcore abuse, you may want to seek out older folks in your local community. This is coming from a young girl, herself (22 years, to be exact). My dom and I have really only dabbled in kink because, well, we're inexperienced and he doesn't always know how to safely, and effectively provide a more intense beating. But I'm patient, and I can wait. For now, a little bondage, wax, and a belt are fine by me. :)

Secondly, try not to get wrapped up in a fantasy. It's not unusual for younger girls, new to the discovery of their kinky side, to seek out the fantasy world depicted in online erotica. But life isn't like that, so be realistic in your expectations, protect yourself, and seek someone you are compatible with personality wise first and foremost.

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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 8:48:37 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		If you actually manage to find a teenage Dom that has attained the level of discipline it takes to tolerate taming a teenage girl, I suggest you grab on to him and don't let go. You won't find another.

You may have more success if you adjust your targeted age group to the 30s & 40s.



< Message edited by ResidentSadist -- 7/7/2012 9:09:34 PM >

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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 8:53:14 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		That's not to say there are some younger men who have a little more experience than others of the same age due to their being the type that is responsible and knowledgeable but they are very few far and in between. Like ResidentSadist said. If you find one, grab him. He will be rare.


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RE: I need a dom - 7/7/2012 9:35:13 PM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		1) Make sure you set your menu on the left of the Home CollarMe page to show new users.
A whole list of new potentials will be revealed and there is a forward arrow button to see more.

2) Set your search parameters to Straight (or Bi depending on your preference) Male Dominants in California ages 18-24 and make sure you set the distance to Any.

Hit the Search button.

Voila and happy cruising.

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RE: I need a dom - 7/8/2012 3:26:05 PM   
AVegasMaster


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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurbaby

I'm a slave seeking a strict dom. How do all of you subs and slaves find your doms..? I can't find one strict enough in California that's atleast under 25



How soon cna you get here?

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RE: I need a dom - 7/8/2012 5:35:51 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: AVegasMaster


quote:

ORIGINAL: laurbaby

I'm a slave seeking a strict dom. How do all of you subs and slaves find your doms..? I can't find one strict enough in California that's atleast under 25



How soon cna you get here?


Apparently, you can't tell the difference between being under 25 and being 59. It's irritating when "Doms" ignore a submissives boundaries.


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RE: I need a dom - 7/8/2012 5:42:33 PM   
DeviantlyD


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RE: I need a dom - 7/8/2012 6:53:24 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: laurbaby

I'm a slave seeking a strict dom. How do all of you subs and slaves find your doms..? I can't find one strict enough in California that's atleast under 25



They probably go for your hot friend

*azeban*

< Message edited by Kana -- 7/8/2012 7:07:26 PM >

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RE: I need a dom - 7/8/2012 9:17:08 PM   
AVegasMaster


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RE: I need a dom - 7/9/2012 4:15:25 AM   
ARIES83


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ORIGINAL: laurbaby

I'm a slave seeking a strict dom. How do all of you subs and slaves find your doms..? I can't find one strict enough in California that's atleast under 25


Good luck in your search, a lot of people on here are
very prejudiced against young people, because of the
fact of, how much experience can you really have if
your 18. They are also old and cranky!

Just put common sence first and stay safe, you might
find a great guy that knows exactly what he wants at
18, but there is a world of experience between 18 and
30. While he may know what he wants, I bet he doesn't
know how to get it, are you prepared to be his gunni pig?

-ARIES


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RE: I need a dom - 7/9/2012 5:18:04 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Re the lament in your profile, "I'm tired of all these boring doms sending me messages." - do put something of substance in your profile to which they can respond.

If you want under 25, look for a TNG group. If you put your actual city in your profile, we could give you more specific advice.

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RE: I need a dom - 7/9/2012 5:20:32 AM   
kalikshama


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: AVegasMaster


quote:

ORIGINAL: laurbaby

I'm a slave seeking a strict dom. How do all of you subs and slaves find your doms..? I can't find one strict enough in California that's atleast under 25



How soon cna you get here?


Apparently, you can't tell the difference between being under 25 and being 59. It's irritating when "Doms" ignore a submissives boundaries.



Vegas - it's people like you that are the cause of all the "why don't women respond to my emails" threads.

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