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Kana -> RE: Love is not necessary M/s relationship (7/11/2012 8:11:18 AM)
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ORIGINAL: crazyml
To the OP...
This is how adults can disagree.
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ORIGINAL: Kana
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ORIGINAL: Dresproperty
I know love is not necessary for every M/s relationship but for me it is necessary. I prefer a 24/7 TPE and for me that level of dynamic needs love, trust, honesty, loyalty and respect. I cant see that happening in a dynamic with no emotional attachment. YMMV.
My experience was the exact opposite. The only real way I can function in a bound relationship w/o emotional attachment (Note-I ain't talking bout play, but relationships) is within the boundaries of a strict TPE where I am the owner and she is property.
The structure, and strictures, made it easier for me to detach.
I've had relationships that were purely about the D/s and where love didn't even come into the equation. Now, in most of those respect and affection played a role, but I've had a couple where even those weren't on the table.
Personally - I'm looking for love, mutual respect, and a shit load of D/s, and sure you can claim that my preferences are invalid, but if you do, I'll just assume you're a cunt.
You can state that you have a different perspective, different needs and wants, and that while my preferences are not yours, they're not invalid. And if you do, I'll assume that you're not a cunt.
Does a happy dance, CML just gave me a promotion to adult!
Yea for meeeeeeee's.
And on a serious note, thanks. I try to write these things in such a way that others aren't offended, that open things up for discussion, and certainly can't be taken personally.
In other words, debate like grown ups should.
It's nice to have the effort noted.
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