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SentForu -> Your First... (10/31/2004 2:12:23 PM)
What was your first BDSM (all definitions accepted) experience like. Were you as excited as a kid in a candy store afterwards??? Even, if it were a casual play session. As in, FINALLY finding yourself? That was mine, it was like opening up a door, I knew was there, but never really thought I'd actually find.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Your First... (11/1/2004 10:10:26 AM)
hi Myra, this was a very thought provoking question..."first" awareness, "first" BDSM experience, the door that opened and the light bathed everything...hmmmm... the BIG door opened for this slave when she went to the M.D. for help to quit smoking. he prescribed patches and pills and then counseled this slave. he said that this slave would have to really do something big in order to quit smoking and it meant a change of "lifestyle", make new non-smoking friends, engage in non-smoking activities, etc. this slave lived in a rural area with internet access and on the 30 minute ride home from the doctor, she mentally worked herself up trying to define her "lifestyle". by the time she got home, she had decided to enter the word lifestyle into the search box on the puter. the door to BDSM practices and D/s and M/s "lifestyle" swung wide open--a big thanks to Al Gore or whoever REALLY "invented" the internet[:D] and also all those who have created online communities of and for those of us who are interested in and/or drawn to what it is that we do. this slave's first awareness that she was sexually interested in a different type of intercourse than the standard vanilla flavor came with trial and error over quite a few years of sexual exploration with husbands(have had 2), lovers, boyfriends and one night stands.....and the resultant lack of satisfaction in trying to fulfill this slave's deepest desires and fantasies that she has had since before puberty. this slave had come to the (vanilla based) conclusion that she was very nasty, extremely perverted and quite possibly mentally ill to desire and fantasize about such things(and there was no shortage of vanilla's that this slave was involved with who felt it necessary to say so!). then came that moment of enlightenment upon the discovery of information on the net and best of all, personals sites where like minded folks could meet!!! this slave got down on her knees and thanked God that she would never have to date a vanilla again! she promptly wrote up an ad and posted it with alt, limiting her search to a 100 mile radius. first date with a potential "Dom" in this slave's remote area went ok, but he felt just like another vanilla date---within 1 week and after the second date, he's the same as the nilla's at the singles bars, wanting nothing more than kinky sex. since this slave wanted to go a bit, if not a whole lot, deeper than that he stops returning calls. this slave did not give up, however, cancelled the alt ad and posted a new, direct and concise one on a site called BDSM personals---opened up the mileage to 200 miles and got 50 responses in the first week. went through them all very carefully and picked 10 semi-finalists, then down to the top 3. this slave's number one pick seemed just too good to be true, a perfect match through the puter, so she promptly agreed to talk with Him on the phone--that voice stirred something deep within and this slave just had to meet Him! He insisted He was not interested in a long distance or online relationship and wanted very much to meet. this slave shared that desire and agreed to meet if for nothing more than a Firestone Pale Ale, pretzels with mustard and conversation! this man, this Dom would turn out to be the Master that this slave could only fantasize about previously. He has given His slave her first BDSM experience, and it started the moment we were first alone together and He instructed this slave to take off all clothes, interlock her hands behind her neck and turn slowly for Him. after that turn, there has been no turning back, and this slaves first BDSM experience is still going strong! thank u for asking and giving this slave a chance to share an important piece of her journey.

sub4hire -> RE: Your First... (1/23/2005 6:44:29 PM)
quote: What was your first BDSM (all definitions accepted) experience like. Were you as excited as a kid in a candy store afterwards??? Even, if it were a casual play session. As in, FINALLY finding yourself? That was mine, it was like opening up a door, I knew was there, but never really thought I'd actually find. Depending on mentally or physically. My first lifestyle experience was when I was 12. Reading a book on sexual dysfunction. Learning more, writing a paper. Then studying even more as I identified with the submissive side. Not exciting at all if you hear it that way. Although it was the beginning of self awareness for me. Before puberty even. So, extremely exciting. My first actual experience was many year's later. After I met my first Dom. I was living in Texas. We were over a friends home for dinner. Watched my first waxing. I already knew all about it but never before seen it happen. We went home that evening after a stop at the grocery store. I got to feel wax on my skin for the first time. I've never looked back since.

FangsNfeet -> RE: Your First... (1/24/2005 2:23:21 PM)
my first time was very fun and something I knew I was ready for. But then again it felt like I was giving another massage therapy session. So I felt confient and knew exactly what I was doing. As about worrying rather or not I would hurt the other person, well I'm sadistic and figured it's what they came here for in the first place. It would be there problem and not mine. So far I haven't inflicted damage that has sent anyone to the hospital. We both had fun, engorged ourselves in fantasies, and fucked liked rabbits.

phoenix52 -> RE: Your First... (1/26/2005 10:05:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SentForu What was your first BDSM (all definitions accepted) experience like. Were you as excited as a kid in a candy store afterwards??? Even, if it were a casual play session. As in, FINALLY finding yourself? That was mine, it was like opening up a door, I knew was there, but never really thought I'd actually find. First non-play experience: i was sitting in a college computer lab, on what they called "pervert row" - the row of computers facing the wall, where the lab monitors could not see. I timidly, hesistantely reached out (as if i was afraid the keyboard would bite), and typed "spanking stories" into Yahoo. The rest is history! First play experience: several days later, in my boyfriend's dorm room, OTK spanking at my request. Eight years later, my then boyfriend is my current Master. [:D] shannon

velvetvixen -> RE: Your First... (1/27/2005 6:26:18 AM)
When my mother washed clothes I always helped her hang them outside in the summer. I was always walking around with a clothespin on my lip. It was just chalked up to "weird kid on the block." Oh if they could see me now. [;)]

DiamondDiva -> RE: Your First... (1/29/2005 8:50:14 PM)
My first experience was not realized until I actually embraced the lifestyle. I had been doing things that are part of "play" as a spice to my sex life but then after embracing the lifestyle I realized that I was a Domme in training and didn't even know it. LOL

Mouthy -> RE: Your First... (1/30/2005 1:04:17 AM)
quote: --a big thanks to Al Gore or whoever REALLY "invented" the internet[:D] That would be Tim Berners-Lee. :)

stef -> RE: Your First... (1/30/2005 1:17:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mouthy quote: --a big thanks to Al Gore or whoever REALLY "invented" the internet[:D] That would be Tim Berners-Lee. :) That would probably come as a great suprise to him. ~stef

frankrds -> RE: Your First... (5/15/2005 1:43:30 PM)
1st experience, mmmmm. im still waiting for my 1st real experience, but when i 1st heard/read about BDSM was a book i bought with pictures about bondage, cbt and FemDomme, and i wanted to be the slave in the pictures, to be adore, teased, and played with like him, ohhhh.

SirCJ -> RE: Your First... (5/15/2005 4:53:57 PM)
Good question Myra, two events at age 7 I started to use clothing pins to pin back my foreskin, pleasure derived by looking normal. At age 17 I fisted a woman that was 24, I was able to control her climax, from there I stepped through a door looking for definitions.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Your First... (5/15/2005 5:26:11 PM)
I really had to think...it all unfolded so naturally! 1989...in a room playing with a few other Ladies. The boys came to the door and were told they could not enter the room. (They were allowed to watch Us have a good time tho.) Power rush! From there it was an easy step to so much more...

BobcatsLilMinx -> RE: Your First... (5/16/2005 12:14:07 PM)
My... VERY first experience was at about 8, accidentally reading a rape story in one of my father's naughty magazines, and realising it excited me... My first practical experience was 2 years later, experimenting with being "raped" by a girlfriend, and "raping" her in return. We both quickly found out I wasn't so good at being the one in charge... And from then on, each new first has been as wonderful as that very first experience. Each time, I just feel so amazingly happy that I'm acting out something that was only a fantasy before, that it's REAL and REALLY happening to me!!!

ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: Your First... (5/16/2005 1:02:42 PM)
my very first eye opening moment was when i discovered bdsm online...i'll never forget the night, i was surfing the net and came upon a bdsm yahoo chat room and i didn't stop researching on it til the early morning hours....the first time i actually experienced it in r/l, probably about a year later, met with my first Master, he took me to his house...it was very exciting, it was a bit over whelming as well, experiencing for the first time so many of the things i had been, up to that point, only reading about. The transition from theory to "practice" was quite an awakening for me. The first time ever going to a munch was also a fascinating experience for me, and this just happened a couple of months ago. I had never been in a room with other lifestyler's before, it felt so much like my "element", i enjoyed myself tremendously that evening.

Lordandmaster -> RE: Your First... (5/16/2005 1:05:15 PM)
My first experience wasn't very good in one sense: I didn't know what I was doing; she didn't know what she was doing; and I ended up just fucking her in the ass instead (since that was about the most degrading thing I could think of at the time). But it was a life-changing experience in another sense: Even though I didn't know what the hell I was doing, I knew that whatever it was, it was for me. (She learned the same thing that day.) Lam

ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: Your First... (5/16/2005 1:12:56 PM)
forgot to add this.... i remember watching the dracula movies and getting sooooo turned on by the whole thing at around age 6 and 7, i'd fantasize with being "attacked" by dracula...lol...i would always have these huge crushes on all the "problem" kids in school, the bullies, the troubled ones, the ones that would beat me up and steal my lunch money...yeah, those were the boys i liked!! lol.... While married to my very vanilla ex hubby. one time during sex he slapped me across the face, my instant reaction was to slap him back and become very upset and defensive about it....yet from that moment on each time we had sex i'd go back to that one time he slapped me and it would just push me over the edge! lol...funny because i would feel so ashamed about being turned on at such a thing that i never mentioned it to him or anyone else, 'til i "discovered" the lifestyle i just thought i had serious issues....nice to know i'm not the only crazy one : ) lol

RiotGirl -> RE: Your First... (5/17/2005 4:07:52 PM)
My first non-realising it was bdsm, was when i was a kid. Never could understand why the 1800 slave stories i found so fascinating. Or the concentration camps (boy do i just LOVE reading about the LIFE of it) And i've a whole serious of books on teh muslim life (as the man is in charge) Thought i was wierdo when one of the stories i went wrong and ALL the kids ended up getting whipped at the orphange (as well as the "naughty") kid. i promptly stopped writing my story and when i was about 15 i destroyed it. So nobody would know my "dirty little secret" i actually Discovered BDSM when i was 17 and going through the chat room list on aol. Something just drew me. Yes i was excited and researched, researched reseearchd cos everyone i spoke to made me wait till i was 18 till they'd "meet" me. And 2 days after i turned 18 a good Dom friend took me down to a local club in DC called Bound. It was all history from the moment i was tied up spread eagle in the club and being flogged. And those darn knees shaking uncontrollably and i could barely stand. Course i've "walked" away after meeting a "wannabee" Dom (really just a sub who was infatuated with me) and then meeting a friend who had Dom tendencies but ended up abusive. So the "lifetyle" had a bad rap in my eyes for years. But i'd try again, meet more wannabee's and then about a year ago (after 7 years) i made up my mind that i would not back out again. Because i realised it would ALWAYS be there in my mind and if i didnt stick with it...... So i put everything into finding "my dom" Searched for months and months. And then a Dom IMed me out the blue....... And thats when it got really interesting!

HeavyhandedDOm -> RE: Your First... (5/22/2005 8:58:28 AM)
My first Experience ws in Hong Kong with an Older German women I was 19 at the time, It was quite the rush when I started to flogg her. She was a Switch and taught me alot about the lifestyle.

proudsub -> RE: Your First... (5/22/2005 9:28:35 PM)
My first experience was online and I was 54 at the time, kind of a late starter. The first time i said "yes Master" i knew i had found something that had been missing in my life.[:)]

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