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Killerangel -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 7:54:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel I know this is a kink site, but I'm so tired of men asking me personal, intimate, questions as a greeting that I could just scream. That's all they want to know about - evidently it is the only subject in the universe that can be used for conversation. I know. It irritates me when I've told someone that I'm happily married and they start asking about the intimate details of our sex lives. (I bet you get LOTS of spankings...<pant,pant,pant>) What in the world makes a stranger think I'm going to discuss the details of what happens between Master and I with a complete stranger? They think that discussions, meetings, or whatever they want to get them off is freely being offered so they just have to ask for it. They forget that human beings in all their complex glory are on the other side of the letters they type up. They're so concentrated on themselves that it never crosses their mind to consider that person they are asking to interact with has their own agenda and wants. I know people see this is an adult site, it seems that their brains switch off at that point and they construe the subject of the site means they can bypass the usual social pattern and just go get what they want. I'm not freaking here to service strangers. That idea gets met with much outrage and indignation because the men contacting me can't conceive of me thinking such a thing. They are perceiving the site to be about what they want it to be, an endless purveyor of sex/kink. Sigh. On one hand yeah, I can see where the topic may lend itself to the chucking aside of the usual social pattern, on the other hand we're all still people. I don't know, it's extremely depressing. I periodically hide my profile in order not to deal with it. I get so bone tired of men thinking I'm a product they can acquire by simply stating that they want my services. The screams of fake!, fake!, because women don't just put out are tiring. To me, the guys asking for instant gratification are the fakes. They seem to have forgotten that I'm not a blow up doll- here for their convenience.

pyschosubmission -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 7:57:00 AM)
quote: What in the world makes a stranger think I'm going to discuss the details of what happens between Master and I with a complete stranger? See that type of thing is what enrages me. How is it not complete sexism and misogyny? For a guy to ask a stranger such personal questions like that, it is clear that they regard woman purely a sex objects. grrrr

RemoteUser -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 8:06:49 AM)
Objectification is cool one on one. [:D] But no, not a fan of asking women how they get off with others. It's just lacking that personal touch, like establishing a rhythm while typing one-handed.

OsideGirl -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 9:28:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission For a guy to ask a stranger such personal questions like that, it is clear that they regard woman purely a sex objects. Here's the thing they don't think about: How would they like it if their wife/gf/sub/slave was on the internet giving blow by blow details of their sex lives so that some random guy could get his jollies? I think that would be immensely disrespectful to Master. I will give bits and pieces of experiences here on the forums. But I'm not giving detailed descriptions of what our latest sex act entailed.

pyschosubmission -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 9:41:52 AM)
Sexism is one of those things that just gets to me, most forms of discrimination do admittedly. But that's what I was driving at, those guys, they are not thinking and in doing so revealing base instincts. Gives me the left-wing rage!

LanaDeVille -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 9:45:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Wow, where to start. I think I'll try to keep Mine short and sweet...well, short. I get tons "Dear Mistress, Goddess of the universe and quasars. Please let me worship you" and "Get a job prostitute"; but my favorite has to be "I'm into fin Dommes but I don't have any money. I can torture myself for you on cam by having sex with My hand". Idiots. But occasionally for entertainment, I read the journals, and they never cease to entertain. They page after page of "I can't find anyone" (but they have been here for two whole days), or "If you don't have a pic I will not read" (but their only pic is of a wolf on fire or some dumb shit like that). The other side is retarded. From females, I get the usual "I wanna be owned Mistress", or "I wish I was the slave in your pics". I politely answer each one, but if i am interested I will talk back and fourth. Then usually they want to cyber, I say no, they disappear. That's My experience. :) Yeah. This sounds about right. I don't get that many from females though. However, I do get comments about my age if I dare question the behavior of anyone 20 years my senior who messages me. Since when did being older give one license to act like an asshole? Pah. I also get a lot of male Dominants who want to "experiment" with their submissive side.

JanahX -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 9:56:37 AM)
I am going to do a little experiment - Im going to open my profile for six hours just to see what type of people hit me up & what they want. I will post the results in this thread a little later (just summaries of what their motive was).

Hillwilliam -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 10:03:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Wow, where to start. I think I'll try to keep Mine short and sweet...well, short. I get tons "Dear Mistress, Goddess of the universe and quasars. Please let me worship you" and "Get a job prostitute"; but my favorite has to be "I'm into fin Dommes but I don't have any money. I can torture myself for you on cam by having sex with My hand". Idiots. But occasionally for entertainment, I read the journals, and they never cease to entertain. They page after page of "I can't find anyone" (but they have been here for two whole days), or "If you don't have a pic I will not read" (but their only pic is of a wolf on fire or some dumb shit like that). The other side is retarded. From females, I get the usual "I wanna be owned Mistress", or "I wish I was the slave in your pics". I politely answer each one, but if i am interested I will talk back and fourth. Then usually they want to cyber, I say no, they disappear. That's My experience. :) Geeze. All I want to do is torture you with Ridgewood Bar B Q untill you admit it's better than that commercial stuff you buy in Memphis.

RemoteUser -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 11:30:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JanahX I am going to do a little experiment - Im going to open my profile for six hours just to see what type of people hit me up & what they want. I will post the results in this thread a little later (just summaries of what their motive was). heh heh heh heh heh

TNDommeK -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 11:39:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Wow, where to start. I think I'll try to keep Mine short and sweet...well, short. I get tons "Dear Mistress, Goddess of the universe and quasars. Please let me worship you" and "Get a job prostitute"; but my favorite has to be "I'm into fin Dommes but I don't have any money. I can torture myself for you on cam by having sex with My hand". Idiots. But occasionally for entertainment, I read the journals, and they never cease to entertain. They page after page of "I can't find anyone" (but they have been here for two whole days), or "If you don't have a pic I will not read" (but their only pic is of a wolf on fire or some dumb shit like that). The other side is retarded. From females, I get the usual "I wanna be owned Mistress", or "I wish I was the slave in your pics". I politely answer each one, but if i am interested I will talk back and fourth. Then usually they want to cyber, I say no, they disappear. That's My experience. :) Geeze. All I want to do is torture you with Ridgewood Bar B Q untill you admit it's better than that commercial stuff you buy in Memphis. That would not be torture. Although, I am a BBQ snob. There is only one place that, so far, has the best.

ReMakeYou -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 12:02:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission See that type of thing is what enrages me. How is it not complete sexism and misogyny? For a guy to ask a stranger such personal questions like that, it is clear that they regard woman purely a sex objects. grrrr Heteronormative, maybe, but definitely not sexist. I'm afraid I can say from experience. Of course, since a good 95+% of men are straight, I don't envy the people taking 19x more flak than I do.

LadyPact -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 12:08:40 PM)
Using fast reply. Very little. My profile even says that if a person has found Me from the 'other side' that I probably do not want to receive their email.

Hillwilliam -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 1:01:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK That would not be torture. Although, I am a BBQ snob. There is only one place that, so far, has the best. The Ridgewood in Bluff City.[:)]

LaTigresse -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 1:28:41 PM)
My impression of the other side......... I guess I just don't give it a lot of thought anymore. I've been on the site for a few years, made a few friends, a lot more aquaintances and ignored thousands of very forgettabe yutzes. It's the net. I don't have high expectations of it. It's fab for looking up information and communicating with people from locales I otherwise wouldn't. But yanno, for as much time as I spend on it, you would think I am more invested in it. On here, people come and go. Often times without notice. I just don't allow myself to become emotionally invested until I have a lot more contact that the net offers. I don't see the other side as 'dating' potential. More like humour potential with the occasional decent email........if I think to log in and actually check it. I find myself coming straight to the collarchat.com more and more, completely ignoring the collarme.com side. It's just not worth the bother.

PrincessofSadden -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 1:33:37 PM)
I don't get the same amount of craziness now as I did when I first joined. Maybe it's because I got rid of my old profile and set one up with subbie. Maybe it's a turn off to potential subs to see that I already have a boy and we've been together for awhile. I don't know. But when I first joined I remember I almost left after getting a random message from some guy about how he wanted to build a shrine to me. Yep build a shrine to this girl you haven't met, talked to, or even had the decency to introduce yourself to. He got blocked ASAP and came back with another profile saying the same BS again. Anyway, in my experience it's gotten less crazy or maybe the parameters for messaging me are more strict now, and so most crazies stay away. I don't know. I found vanilla dating sites to be even worse when I first started looking a few years back, so maybe that's why I feel the way I do. - Princess

stellauk -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 3:46:38 PM)
FR I try not to think about it. I don't see this as 'just' pixels on the screen, because these are real people with real access to real computers - they are also people from all over the country (and the world), people with families, people who hold down jobs, people who are part of society. It doesn't really bother me that much. But if the 'other side' had a signature tune or theme song I'm pretty sure that this would be it.

slaveluci -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 3:52:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK That would not be torture. Although, I am a BBQ snob. There is only one place that, so far, has the best. The Ridgewood in Bluff City.[:)] You're both wrong. You need to come further south[;)] luci

OsideGirl -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 3:54:22 PM)
Hmmmm....now I have a craving for "One night in Bangkok"....

mnottertail -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 3:56:18 PM)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZD0Z0CwRDJw You gonna die many times tonight, GI.

OsideGirl -> RE: What are your impressions of the "other-side?" (7/13/2012 4:14:52 PM)
Great now I'm off on an 80s tangent while Master goes to watch the Zombie Run at Comic Con!

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