Whats so wrong with saying hello?

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Gov51 -> Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:01:23 PM)
I always start my messages out with a simple Hello, How are you? Introducing myself, showing my interest. I'm getting really tired of people saying this is not acceptable. Since when do you tell your whole lifestyle and everything about yourself to someone you've never spoken too? Whatever happened to chatting and conversing? Isn't a profile enough for general interest?

devoted2u -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:06:19 PM)
Too many fakers on this site. If you search professional Mistress, you'll find half the pictures on here are PROFESSIONALS or stolen pics. So if you instead of hello say "i am offering $500" you might get a reply for those ones. Otherwise, if you say you are a lifestyler, you have already shut out majority of the contacts, and perhaps you might only get a decent reply here on forums.

juliaoceania -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:07:28 PM)
I think that there is nothing "wrong" with it, but you do not give the person you're saying hello to anything to respond back with but a another "hello". When I was looking I just deleted those messages as someone who was not willing to invest time in a real email... basically someone that is emailing every new profile he comes across... not a good impression on the receiving end. I am just being honest here.

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:14:09 PM)
Actually, for us, the profile isn't enough. We want to know why you're interested in striking up a conversation with us -- what do you want to talk about, or what drew you to our profile. A simple "hello, wanna talk" won't get you onto our discussion list. It has nothing to do with spilling your guts, but frankly, we're busy people. All the adult members of our household are currently in doctoral programs, we work full time, we raise families, we have supplemental activities, we train and we teach. We don't spend a lot of time in pointless conversations, though we do both like to talk. If you want to get our attention, there needs to be a -point-...something that makes us take notice and -want- to be interested in you. Clicking on your profile is great if we want to date you (provided that you've told us something about you that is interesting there), but for starting a conversation, there needs to be some other point of commissuration or some interesting draw that is more important than making dinner or finishing a Master's thesis or Doctoral dissertation. Da'Avatar ZWD www.klashaan.org

Sab -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:16:19 PM)
Hello! [:D]

juliaoceania -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:18:12 PM)
Hi!

Misstoyou -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:19:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gov51 I always start my messages out with a simple Hello, How are you? Introducing myself, showing my interest. I don't think it's not that it's unacceptable, so much as it's insufficient. Just adding what caught your eye about the profile would go a long way. I always tell the individual what compelled me to write, even when sometimes it's just the pretty picture. lol Edited because "Oh, nevermind..."

BrattyBottomRN -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:20:16 PM)
Gotta agree with both Julia and Bladewing... The boring "hello" emails usually just got deleted for me. I just wasn't interested in simply saying "hello" back... maybe something like "Wow, we have ____ in common, what do you like so much about it?" Or, "hey we live nearby and we seem to have some things in common!" Nice and respectful is a must, but yeah, the plain old hello is just boring.

servicing -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:22:15 PM)
I think the ladies mailbox gets more messages than the guys. Since there is only so much time in the day to respond, yours may be getting bumped for someone who can write better. Open word and write a good half page about stuff. Keep a few lines where you can insert their handle and some info about stuff you pick out from their ad to "personalize" your intro. Now you have a really nice intro that seems like you took a lot of to create just for them. Yea it would be nice to create an intro for each person that really shows your interest, but since the common method of brushing someone off is a lack of response, it's not worth your time either. However, I suggest if you do get good genuine replys back, take time to genuinely answer them cause thems the cooler people. My experience of the ratio of no replies to cooler people is about 5%. But of course I write genuine intros to every person I would like to get to know. Also, I don't know how saying you're looking for whores out front is too good. Think the female subs demand a higher standard than the males are given.

juliaoceania -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:34:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: servicing I think the ladies mailbox gets more messages than the guys. Since there is only so much time in the day to respond, yours may be getting bumped for someone who can write better. Open word and write a good half page about stuff. Keep a few lines where you can insert their handle and some info about stuff you pick out from their ad to "personalize" your intro. Now you have a really nice intro that seems like you took a lot of to create just for them. Yea it would be nice to create an intro for each person that really shows your interest, but since the common method of brushing someone off is a lack of response, it's not worth your time either. However, I suggest if you do get good genuine replys back, take time to genuinely answer them cause thems the cooler people. My experience of the ratio of no replies to cooler people is about 5%. But of course I write genuine intros to every person I would like to get to know. Also, I don't know how saying you're looking for whores out front is too good. Think the female subs demand a higher standard than the males are given. Actually I would rather get a "Hi" than a canned message in a form letter. And believe me, the more intelligent of my sisters can see through this statagem.We might choose to respond anyways if the person seems interesting otherwise, but do not underestimate our ability to see through this... The person I am seeing now emailed me two lines that showed he read my profile and wanted to get to know me better... It said... "Where do you plan on going to graduate school? And what do you plan on studying?" It really doesnt have to be a long email, it just has to show you 1) Want to get to know someone 2) read what they said about themselves. As far as the opening post, you are the one contacting them, they are not the one contacting you... so the onus is yours, not theirs... maybe that isnt fair, but no one said life was fair

diamonddreamlove -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:47:20 PM)
I answer regardless of the hello but tend to stop the conversation dead in its tracks when i am addressed by slut or some other name i personally object to. When i am scening that is one thing, is another to talk that way to me when someone does not know me. My best Friend addressed me that way in an IM and i answered back, He appologised and although i doubt W/we will ever be more than F/friends i would not give that up for anything. That said i want interest in me as a person the rest comes or cums depending on the conversation as people first and foremost. Have talked to many who only said hello the first time but who became good F/friends in time. Personally i think if they took the time to say hello that usually means something is going on lol. And as for being too busy well hopefully those that are too busy to respond never need someone to respond back to them. They might just have the same reaction from someone that didn't like the way they said hello. Just my thoughts perhaps i do waste time answering but then find that it works for me. As for sending a message i don't think i have ever been ignored completely as many have been, perhaps it is because i am selective in Who i approach and if it does happen oh well such is life.

mnottertail -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:52:09 PM)
well, in your age group, them poor things get 9 billion emails per nanosecond. Alot of them are new and unsure as well. Some of them romanticize the ideal of submission, but are do-me's in disguise. Lotta reasons to distill the deal. You poor bastard, you gotta do the sweet nothings and swaddling schtick. Most mature (and I mean that in ange and wisdom) are immune to that part. You have to do the courting, pique their interest (dom or sub) as we do, but using tools that are age appropriate.......remember, most of what you hunt is not jaded yet, and I hope you are not the one to make them so...... Get a shave, put on a suit and look comfortable in it. That will stand you out right off the bat if they get so far as to read your profile. Then say something........nothing in your profile says that you are of any emotional use to a woman....... Anybody can whip a woman's ass..........but not everyone can whip it and make her feel such passion and love that she begs for it. Most women want to laugh and have fun....but they wanna be scared when they laugh...but not scared....... All kinds of stupid things I can say, but it is like mathematics, you may see how to solve the problem...but it is math, so to be good you have to polish your skill, long before you whip an ass. And I ain't talking about looking to see how hard to hit and where (but you should learn that too) but how to convince them you are the bomb... enough; already, Ron

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:55:41 PM)
Is "Hello" all you say? If it is, it's very similar to a lot of one-line emails people send and believe me, they get old. Make yourself stand out. If you merely start the conversation with that, then continue, if the sub/slave you're talking to doesn't like it, she isn't the one for you. Master Fire

juliaoceania -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:58:09 PM)
I have never been ignored either.. We share this and the fact we are female submissive in common.. how uncanny...lol

eroticangel -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 4:58:16 PM)
wow juliaoceania....i think your answer was the best. and i think that the person you are seeing now is one smart and lucky person.

Aileen68 -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 5:00:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: servicing I think the ladies mailbox gets more messages than the guys. Since there is only so much time in the day to respond, yours may be getting bumped for someone who can write better. Open word and write a good half page about stuff. Keep a few lines where you can insert their handle and some info about stuff you pick out from their ad to "personalize" your intro. Now you have a really nice intro that seems like you took a lot of to create just for them. Yea it would be nice to create an intro for each person that really shows your interest, but since the common method of brushing someone off is a lack of response, it's not worth your time either. However, I suggest if you do get good genuine replys back, take time to genuinely answer them cause thems the cooler people. My experience of the ratio of no replies to cooler people is about 5%. But of course I write genuine intros to every person I would like to get to know. Also, I don't know how saying you're looking for whores out front is too good. Think the female subs demand a higher standard than the males are given. We can spot cut and paste mail a mile away. That is a definite way to get no response. You can say hello, but then say something else to catch our interest. You are a stranger, remember. Be yourself and make it apparent that you've read our entire profile. Make your letter individual to who you're sending it to. And then just hope there's a spark or some chemistry...because that's what will be needed to get to the next level.

SpielMitMir -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 5:14:18 PM)
Nothing is really wrong with it. But I reply faster to someone that says why they messaged me. Someone that says we have this and that in comment get my attention fastest. I really don't want to go though a guessing game about why you would like me to play with you. But anything is better they a copy and paste message. In the past I have got emails from the same men saying the same thing. It just makes me wonder how many times they has sent that to other people.

pinkee -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 5:18:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gov51 I always start my messages out with a simple Hello, How are you? Introducing myself, showing my interest. I'm getting really tired of people saying this is not acceptable. Since when do you tell your whole lifestyle and everything about yourself to someone you've never spoken too? Whatever happened to chatting and conversing? Isn't a profile enough for general interest? "Hello" is confusing, Sir. i cannot tell why the Man is contacting me. However, "Hello; i like your profile" sends a clear signal. pinkee

mnottertail -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 5:24:13 PM)
Ja, ich kann dich. (yes, I understand. (I just wanted to be cute.) ) We have absolutely nothing in common and that's why I think we are going to work out so well. You will teach me and I you.......... Hopefully someone understands this interchange...it is really rather vanilla for those of you that think that way. But I gotta tell you, not COMMUNICATING with another human (in this case female) is like me winking at a girl in the dark.........I know what I am thinking.......... LOL, Ron

MsIncognito -> RE: Whats so wrong with saying hello? (6/8/2006 5:26:06 PM)
There's nothing wrong with it, but it does show minimal effort so I'm not sure why you'd expect more than minimal effort in return. For me, I prefer not to get to know someone one sentence at a time. Most of the time I ignore these types of perfunctory messages. One time I decied to respond in kind. Here's a synopsis of how it went: His email: hi how r u? My response: Hi. Fine thanks. His email: u have msn? My response: Yes. His email: wanna chat? My response: No thanks. These types of 'interactions' (for lack of a better term) really don't pique my interest. I dunno, maybe my standards are too high.

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